is it really alright?

13 Nov 2009

To some men an erection is a sign of virility and manliness and so to not be able to attain or maintain one could be seen as questioning their virility/manliness .....I think the lady you speak of was trying to assure you that in her eyes its not seen as such and that you should not be embarrassed by it....
Just my initial thoughts.....

13 Nov 2009

wasn't going to add to this as it reads its directed at someone you've met,so maybe they should reply by this is a general reply.
if a lady has been promised a meet where she will get her "brains fugged out" she travels say 50 miles and pays half an hotel bill,and she doesn't get the satisfaction she was promised she may well be disapointed (which could show in her face) however being a long way away from home with a stranger she may not feel brave enough to tell the truth (for her safety)hence she may say it's ok.

13 Nov 2009

Quote by brucie
not just one. every time it happened the lady in question felt the need to reassure me.
i worry that its a symptom of our society. accepting and excusing failure.
if its ok to fail why are we suprised so many people settle for mediocrity?

Maybe its a sign that as a species we are becoming more compasionate in some aspects dunno

13 Nov 2009

Quote by brucie
steve-o, that may not be a good thing. whatever happened to survival of the fittest?

It is still alive and kicking but we are a long way off our caveman roots and the need to procreate in order to survive(as a species) is not so hard wired into our psychie (sp) ....
It could be compared with for instance if a child does something incorrectly then there are 2 ways of addressing the situation....
Ridicule the child by saying how silly he/she was to do it that way or take time to explain where they went wrong and how they can rectify it....
The example I have used is not a prticularly good one I know but it sort of shows what I'm trying to say....
It made sense in my head anyway and I have an excuse.....A very late night/early morning with Famous Grouse and Rum for company :lol2:

13 Nov 2009

Quote by brucie
cockslut, its no such thing. it was a general musing. i often have these before breakfast.
its actually never happened to me in a NSA situation (so all you women waiting for a meet with me worry not you will not be disappointed) (i hope... have i jinxed it?!!?!?...) only when theres been some emotional tie with the woman.
but cockslut that is a good hypothetical point you make.
steve-o, that may not be a good thing. whatever happened to survival of the fittest?

They all got too big headed and self obsessed and preened themselves into extinction
I think it reads as Cockslut reads it too biggrin

13 Nov 2009

Quote by Kaznkev
,so will you go down on me cos i am horny.

If you insist :rascal:
Sorry for the hijack redface

13 Nov 2009

I can possibly muster up a chipolata :lol2:

13 Nov 2009

From my own perspective I never have erectile dysfunction. If I dont cum its cus for some reason I am not enjoying the sex that much. This could be for a number of reasons associated to either party. If a woman asked me if its ok I'll probably just be polite and say yes its fine but it will for sure mean Ive not had the best experience

13 Nov 2009

I think it's because I, like most women are satisfied with a lot more than penetration, whereas men see penetration as the be all and end all. If a man can't get it up for me but is prepared to satisfy me in other ways, I am perfectly happy. If men are not reassured, there is always the worry that the situation will repeat itself. Women are nurturers and that includes with the biggest kids of all :therethere:

13 Nov 2009

I guess they are trying to make you feel comfortable so you can get it up, after all most erectile dysfunction is in the head.
Also, not getting an erection is different to not cuming, so I guess the female equivalent to not getting an erection is not getting excited enough to want to have sex and I wonder how many women still have sex regardless at that point. When you have not got an erection have you at least made your partner cum?

13 Nov 2009

I used to say 'it's o.k.'
Because I cared if the guy felt bad that he was unable to control his bodily functions and might feel some sort of guilt for the time and effort wasted. That was the latent Catholic guilt stuff.
Now I don't care less about their guilt and don't say it. If they are able to satisfy me in other ways then I am happy and will say so. If their cock is all that they came to the bedroom with and they can't get it to work then I aint happy and I certainly won't tell them 'it's alright' cos it damn well isn't.
It is rare that a man can satisfy me without penetration and I make that more than clear when arranging a meet. Some men realise that there are other ways to penetrate and do a damn good job.... it tends to be them that can 'get wood' anyway. The ones who are most cock centric are the ones who can't get it up- go figure. anyhoo....... Now, I just have to figure out how to tell them apart when talking and discussing a meet.
Until then I aint playing. wink

13 Nov 2009

Quite right.....
The penis isn't the only thing that can be used to satisfy a woman....
Does a woman have to orgasm to feel satisfied dunno

I like to reach climax obviously but I can feel satisfied without actually climaxing......Is it the same for a woman ?

13 Nov 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I think it's because I, like most women are satisfied with a lot more than penetration, whereas men see penetration as the be all and end all. If a man can't get it up for me but is prepared to satisfy me in other ways, I am perfectly happy. If men are not reassured, there is always the worry that the situation will repeat itself. Women are nurturers and that includes with the biggest kids of all :therethere:

I agree with this. I have never been terribly cock centric. I would prefer to be reassured rather than made to feel lacking. Its one of the reasons we studiously avoid ads or profiles that demand porn film performer quality penises. I am not a penis I am a human being sort of sums it up for me.
And I take the point about nurturing too, at the very least I would hope to not harm any play mate.

13 Nov 2009

No, it's really "alright". One l.
Happy to help :razz:

13 Nov 2009

Quote by TheLovelyOne
No, it's really "alright". One l.
Happy to help :razz: