Is it wrong for people in relationships to be here alone?

12 Jun 2009

I think the argument of being honest about playing away is a bit dumb and pointless. The whole point of cheating is to be dishonest. So as an argument or a point it seems somewhat redundant in its use.

12 Jun 2009

Quote by duncanlondon
... The whole point of cheating is to be dishonest.

It's unlikely to be the whole point, or even the driving force; it's more likely that the point of cheating is to fulfil some unmet need or fancy.

12 Jun 2009

Quote by TheLovelyOne
... The whole point of cheating is to be dishonest.

It's unlikely to be the whole point, or even the driving force; it's more likely that the point of cheating is to fulfil some unmet need or fancy.
Can't follow the arguement that the whole point of cheating is to be dishonest. It's too blunt. Cheating is dishonest, deciectful, and breaking the trust of another. I can't go with it being fun too, from a previous post, that's disrespectful.
I care about my wife, but as the TheLovelyOne points out, the reason behind my cheating is, it's about an unforfilled need. Strange as it may seem when I'm elsewhere I do wish it was her I was with, and doing what I'm doing with her. It's unforfilment that drives me.

12 Jun 2009

Quote by TheLovelyOne
... The whole point of cheating is to be dishonest.

It's unlikely to be the whole point, or even the driving force; it's more likely that the point of cheating is to fulfil some unmet need or fancy.
Yes that puts more definition on it.
Cheating and/or adultery is despicable. But for many cheaters and adulterers, its a very successful corridor to sexual adventure. Which is primarily why they do it. ie Cheaters find each other, because they are destined to exist as such.
Plus I think there is something in the secretiveness of cheating which is in some ways quite similar to early sexual awakenings. Much of which is done in secret amongst youngsters. So I suppose its an immaturity thing as well.

12 Jun 2009

Some could say it is merely " wanting your cake and eating it ". Just a thought.

12 Jun 2009

Quote by kentswingers777
Some could say it is merely " wanting your cake and eating it ". Just a thought.

I can see your point.
However does your cake come with instructions?
Does it tell you when, where and how it should be eaten?
Would you enjoy the cake the same?
In edit whilst doling out the evening meal a thought crossed my mind
Could be argued that you get to have two bites of the cake?
Second edit and thought.
Not sure about the wording of a civil marriage but a wedding in church the couple getting married make a vow to be faithful to on another and to foresake all others.
Doesn't that then exclude married couples from being here?