Hey Guys....I was just pondering this question after seeing some guy in Let's Meet Up who wants a woman to take away his virginity....
Now that got me thinking....My first time was with someone really special and I will remember it for the rest of my life.....but some people don't seem to give a shit how they lose their virginity...
What do you all think? Is it special or just the first time of many times and not to be bothered too much with?
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Is Losing Your Virginity Special?
Sex God
I lost mine young and it wasn't anything to shout about.. although I (kinda) loved the guy, the settings were awful, it hurt and it was on my way home from school :shock: If I could go back I would at least have waited a little longer.. or at least till some bloke offered romance with it. 
Well I lost mine on the back seat of a Volkswagon Beetle parked behind a farm gate with my next door neighbour who was old enough to drive Mummys car and who "showed me the way". It came close to being the best day of my life, SO THAT'S WHAT IT'S FOR.
Downside is that it's been longer since the last time than it was before the first!
Downside is that it's been longer since the last time than it was before the first!
I was 15, he was 19. We had been together for 8 months and I was gagging for it. Finally he agrees (very scared about my being a virgin and underage) we do the deed... I throw up, immediately afterwards.
Couldn't tell you when this was, unlike some people I know who can tell you the exact date and even the time.
BTW, he told me in subsequent years that he was also a virgin, and that was half his reluctance to do it. No... I didn't believe him either.
All in all... was no big deal to me. But I think it is to most peeps, innit?
Couldn't tell you when this was, unlike some people I know who can tell you the exact date and even the time.
BTW, he told me in subsequent years that he was also a virgin, and that was half his reluctance to do it. No... I didn't believe him either.
All in all... was no big deal to me. But I think it is to most peeps, innit?
I was Sixteen and thought i loved him, he was my boyfriend, it was at his house, with his parents downstairs, i'd drank lots of lime and lemon Mad dog and smoked lots of his Dads homegrown weed... so as not to be too nervous! Turns out i was anyway, it hurt like hell, as did a few times after that, but i have no regrets!
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Downside is that it's been longer since the last time than it was before the first!
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Sex God
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Couldn't tell you when this was, unlike some people I know who can tell you the exact date and even the time.
Quite.
I lost my virginity for the first time on 1 Jan 1980, and the second time on 22 Feb 1981. :P Both were quite memorable, and my only regret is having lost touch with both of them as the years progressed. Personally, I do feel it's special and not to be taken lightly...as the first experience(s) can play an important formative, even if subconscious, role in one's future sexuality (imho).~Reese!
Orgasminator
virginity with a guy, i was still at school.
With a girl 1 was 17 a friend of my mates took a shine to me at his birthday party, i was drunk and horney and i can't even remember who she was or how old she was, but she was was pretty and had big boobs for her age. Never saw her again, i think it was her first time too.
But saying that the first time i truly remember and love was having sex with the girl for the first time that would later become my wife, that was really special and we had 11 great years together.
If i had had a choice i would have to say that i wish it was that memory that was attached to losing my virginity.
With a girl 1 was 17 a friend of my mates took a shine to me at his birthday party, i was drunk and horney and i can't even remember who she was or how old she was, but she was was pretty and had big boobs for her age. Never saw her again, i think it was her first time too.
But saying that the first time i truly remember and love was having sex with the girl for the first time that would later become my wife, that was really special and we had 11 great years together.
If i had had a choice i would have to say that i wish it was that memory that was attached to losing my virginity.
My first time was also my partners (with been together 17 years now!) was abit comical,i was still living at home and everyone was out apart from us so we decided "to do it" well you can guess what happened,my mum came home while we were in the middle of doing it and we panicked and my partner hid in the wardrobe to this day we don't know why she did it as my mum didn't come into my room it just sounded like a good idea at the time!
Can't remember when I lost mine though I can remember a girl giving me a hand job in a tent when I was young.....but I can remember 'Denise' when she gave hers up and it must have been very special to her as she reminded me some many years later that it was I.
Let me tell you..........We were at my parents house one afternoon, alone, young and very inquisitive. Mom and Dad (god bless him) had this large, padded, swiveling black leather chair. Anyway we started playing around and ended up naked on the floor writhing and a little bit of fumbling (lol) when all of a sudden she stood up and sat on the chair with legs apart and I suppose you could guess the rest. Funnily enough when she reminded me about it, it did come back to me quite clearly so it must have meant something to me and to be honest I would loved to have done it again there and then but on checking her handbag and my pockets neither of us had a leather chair on us...
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Let me tell you..........We were at my parents house one afternoon, alone, young and very inquisitive. Mom and Dad (god bless him) had this large, padded, swiveling black leather chair. Anyway we started playing around and ended up naked on the floor writhing and a little bit of fumbling (lol) when all of a sudden she stood up and sat on the chair with legs apart and I suppose you could guess the rest. Funnily enough when she reminded me about it, it did come back to me quite clearly so it must have meant something to me and to be honest I would loved to have done it again there and then but on checking her handbag and my pockets neither of us had a leather chair on us...
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Sex God
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we panicked and my partner hid in the wardrobe to this day
Erm...don't you think it's about time to let her out?!! ;)
~Reese!
Took me rather a long time to loose mine... and after going out with several nice people with whom I didn't... it was rather a dissapointment to loose it to someone who wasn't nice. I felt very used afterwards, I think she realy wanted to take some guys cherry more than I actually wanted to loose mine!!!!
Still after that I felt like some weight had been lifted from my shoulders... which made me a more outgoing person. And allowed me to meet the next girl, who I consider to be my proper first, cos it was so much nicer and far more intimate and loving.
The first one didn't count... the second one did !
Still after that I felt like some weight had been lifted from my shoulders... which made me a more outgoing person. And allowed me to meet the next girl, who I consider to be my proper first, cos it was so much nicer and far more intimate and loving.
The first one didn't count... the second one did !
Mine happened when i was too young. was going out with a lad and staying over at my friends house for a few nights, each night we went out he asked me for sex, on the last night i gave in. It was on a football pitch in the dark and damp, it hurt and i soon regretted it as all our friends found out and my mum. Found out after the other two night i said no to him he slept with someone else. Never spoke to him since.
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Another one who was far too young. I did "love" the guy at the time but I really guess it was lust and and not true love. I'd known him since I was 4 and even now would jump back into bed with him ... had the opportunity too a couple of years ago but said no at the time.
I remember it hurt a little bit and but I hardly remember anything else so it wasn't that memorable.
Calista xx
had the opportunity too a couple of years ago but said no at the time.I remember it hurt a little bit and but I hardly remember anything else so it wasn't that memorable.
Calista xx
For me it mattered.... I was 14 and in love... People always say "you cant be in love at that age" but i truely believe that i was....
and when i was laying down beside her as i was about to slide over on top my right arm was actually shaking like a maniac.
And im not ashamed to say that my helmet was only just in when i came!.(
but you know what.... It was still great.. i was with her for a year before it and we had such a laugh , before during and after!.. And we lasted for another 3 yrs which werent bad. . . considering the helmet issue!..he he..
Magik
and when i was laying down beside her as i was about to slide over on top my right arm was actually shaking like a maniac.
And im not ashamed to say that my helmet was only just in when i came!.
( but you know what.... It was still great.. i was with her for a year before it and we had such a laugh , before during and after!.. And we lasted for another 3 yrs which werent bad. . . considering the helmet issue!..he he..
Magik
I'd always been very idealistic, thinking that the magical deed would be done in soft focus in a wrought iron bed with white cotton sheets and Frank Sinatra smouldering away in the background.
As it was, it happened after a heroic intake of cocktails at the local Chicago Rock Cafe with a girl I went to school with but never really spoke to. It was in her cramped single bed in a room that was in the process of being re-decorated.
I'd left it a long time - I was 20 - but after this my attitudes to sex changed. It's all well and good to have the romantic image of the first paragraph but that should be saved for the person you adore everything about and want to spend the rest of your life with. I like sex and I'm not ashamed to admit it which is why I like to enjoy myself at the moment.
As it was, it happened after a heroic intake of cocktails at the local Chicago Rock Cafe with a girl I went to school with but never really spoke to. It was in her cramped single bed in a room that was in the process of being re-decorated.
I'd left it a long time - I was 20 - but after this my attitudes to sex changed. It's all well and good to have the romantic image of the first paragraph but that should be saved for the person you adore everything about and want to spend the rest of your life with. I like sex and I'm not ashamed to admit it which is why I like to enjoy myself at the moment.
Sex God
i was way too young.. and it was a horrid experience.. i really wish that i could go back and have my first time with someone special.. so i would remember it for the right reasons... i sometimes wonder if your first eperience in anyway shapes how you behave sexually in he future.
Sex God
Probably... I think me turning into a slut was really my subconscious trying to recreate the first time in a way I wanted!!!! :shock: 
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:rotflmao: It was in a tent :shock: in a field in Devon, after my Duke of Edinburgh expedition 
First time for both of us, both 17, not exactly earth moving stuff (especially given the 20 mile walk, followd by heroic cider intake beforehand) but not awful either. We're still in touch, which is nice 
First time for both of us, both 17, not exactly earth moving stuff (especially given the 20 mile walk, followd by heroic cider intake beforehand) but not awful either. We're still in touch, which is nice 
Warming the Bed
I think it is suh a subjective thing.
i barely remember my first time, I do remember thinking 'that was nothing I couldn't have done with my hand' and 'That can't be right' so I guess I'd say that it wasn't all that special.
I think the second time is usually better because you know a bit more of what to expect (as the hollywood and TV cliches have been dealt with) and can just enjoy the experience more.
My first (and only) time with a guy was a bit weird as he didn't really put me at ease. I didn't mind that he was older (I really don't care much about that) but that, added to the way he talked made me feel like I was being taken advantage of. I haven't done that again. It's not that I don't want to, but the experience has made me think a bit more.
i barely remember my first time, I do remember thinking 'that was nothing I couldn't have done with my hand' and 'That can't be right' so I guess I'd say that it wasn't all that special.
I think the second time is usually better because you know a bit more of what to expect (as the hollywood and TV cliches have been dealt with) and can just enjoy the experience more.
My first (and only) time with a guy was a bit weird as he didn't really put me at ease. I didn't mind that he was older (I really don't care much about that) but that, added to the way he talked made me feel like I was being taken advantage of. I haven't done that again. It's not that I don't want to, but the experience has made me think a bit more.
Sex God
I gave my virginity away a couple of weeks before my 19th birthday to my first longterm boyfriend. I wanted to wait for my birthday so it would be memorable and special. Thank goodness he couldn't wait any longer! I wouldn't have liked to remember that for the rest of my life.
We ended up doing it after college one afternoon on his bedroom floor at his parents house, while his family were all downstairs watching telly. We couldn't do it on the bed cos it squeeked too much.
It hurt a lot at the time, mainly because he had read somewhere to distract the lady while you're putting it in for the first time, bite her ear. :shock: It hurt more 'cos as he got the first bit in he chomped down on my earlobe! ouch! :shock: Needless to say I tensed up and he tore me to bits. I bled for two days afterwards.
We experimented in all sorts of things, some great, some scary. I learned a lot of tips and what I liked. I thought I was in love at the time, even though he was a swine to me in all ways imaginable. I wouldn't do things differently because that relationship taught me a valuable life lesson early on.
I know now, two long term relationships on from that experience, sex with someone you are in love with is the most fulfilling and satifying experience anyone can have. I can remember every single little detail of my first night with Truely wonderful.
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We ended up doing it after college one afternoon on his bedroom floor at his parents house, while his family were all downstairs watching telly.
We couldn't do it on the bed cos it squeeked too much.It hurt a lot at the time, mainly because he had read somewhere to distract the lady while you're putting it in for the first time, bite her ear. :shock: It hurt more 'cos as he got the first bit in he chomped down on my earlobe! ouch! :shock: Needless to say I tensed up and he tore me to bits. I bled for two days afterwards.
We experimented in all sorts of things, some great, some scary. I learned a lot of tips and what I liked. I thought I was in love at the time, even though he was a swine to me in all ways imaginable. I wouldn't do things differently because that relationship taught me a valuable life lesson early on.
I know now, two long term relationships on from that experience, sex with someone you are in love with is the most fulfilling and satifying experience anyone can have. I can remember every single little detail of my first night with Truely wonderful.
:inlove:
i lost mine when 17 i want it back....wouldnt be good to be a virgin again??
i give my right arm for it...ok maybe not that much a little toe.
there was a haif italian girl in the pub..we used to all fancy her..she had a fella
started giving her the eye each week..then great news happend...her fella had gone out with his was pissed off with him.i ended up going back to hers...
she said she loved her bf in morning...haha...now thats what i call love
some times i think what happend to the haif italian girl...probably having sex woth some stranger cause her bf forgot to ring her or somethink
i give my right arm for it...ok maybe not that much a little toe.
there was a haif italian girl in the pub..we used to all fancy her..she had a fella
started giving her the eye each week..then great news happend...her fella had gone out with his was pissed off with him.i ended up going back to hers...
she said she loved her bf in morning...haha...now thats what i call love
some times i think what happend to the haif italian girl...probably having sex woth some stranger cause her bf forgot to ring her or somethink
Warming the Bed
Now this thread could run and run and run...
Well, I was 18 and so was she (late starter, been playing catch-up since)... we'd been going out together for nearly a year.
We'd fumbled about a bit before but nothing serious... The funny thing was we'd go out for a few months then split up for a week or so... then when we'd get back together we'd move on a stage.
Anyway... it was in my bedroom, my mum was downstairs, the TV was on in my room and Cagney and Lacey had just started... we didn't even get fully undressed (trousers still around one leg sort of thing)... it was nice, she didn't feel any pain but the only problem was it went on for ages (a curse I still carry with me today unfortunately)! I can remember hearing the ending music to Cagney and Lacey and thinking 'for GOD'S SAKE, COME ON!'
We had to stop eventually and I finished the job off myself while she restyled her large hair in my bedroom mirror (It was the late 80's!).
Ahhh, happy days!
Don't see her anymore but we did go out for about a year after that
Well, I was 18 and so was she (late starter, been playing catch-up since)... we'd been going out together for nearly a year.
We'd fumbled about a bit before but nothing serious... The funny thing was we'd go out for a few months then split up for a week or so... then when we'd get back together we'd move on a stage.
Anyway... it was in my bedroom, my mum was downstairs, the TV was on in my room and Cagney and Lacey had just started... we didn't even get fully undressed (trousers still around one leg sort of thing)... it was nice, she didn't feel any pain but the only problem was it went on for ages (a curse I still carry with me today unfortunately)! I can remember hearing the ending music to Cagney and Lacey and thinking 'for GOD'S SAKE, COME ON!'
We had to stop eventually and I finished the job off myself while she restyled her large hair in my bedroom mirror (It was the late 80's!).
Ahhh, happy days!
Don't see her anymore but we did go out for about a year after that