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Quote by louise_and_joe
Me and Joe have been together for 14 years, we have three beautiful daughter's. We,ve always talked about getting married but didnt get around to it until this year ( 14 years later :shock: ) biggrin
I think what im trying to say is that we thought we had totally committed to each other by having our children but with something that came up in our personal lives we realised we could be more committed than we already were.
We've been married now for nearly 2 months and although nothing has changed physically, financially etc, we do now feel whole as a family ( although we didnt realise we never felt that whole before).
Am I starting to confuse redface lol
Louise xx

Congratulations kiss
We to got married this year after having been together for 10 years and having 2 children together. Both of our girls had mr lyns surname, so in being married we all have the same surname. our 5 year old in her words is "so proud of me for being a (insert surname) the same as her!.
I totally agree with you, I now feel like our family is whole.
Quote by Steve

with this financial crisis its too expensive to think about wedding

A wedding doesnt have to be expensive...
We did our own catering and had a small family wedding with a handfull of friends and including the rings (which were specially made) it cost us a smidge over £300...
That was 70 years ago tho' rolleyes
Quote by splendid_

with this financial crisis its too expensive to think about wedding

A wedding doesnt have to be expensive...
We did our own catering and had a small family wedding with a handfull of friends and including the rings (which were specially made) it cost us a smidge over £300...
That was 70 years ago tho' rolleyes
It sometimes feels like it :lol2:
Quote by Steve

with this financial crisis its too expensive to think about wedding

A wedding doesnt have to be expensive...
We did our own catering and had a small family wedding with a handfull of friends and including the rings (which were specially made) it cost us a smidge over £300...
Ya skinflint. lol :lol: :lol:
Quote by lyns
Me and Joe have been together for 14 years, we have three beautiful daughter's. We,ve always talked about getting married but didnt get around to it until this year ( 14 years later :shock: ) biggrin
I think what im trying to say is that we thought we had totally committed to each other by having our children but with something that came up in our personal lives we realised we could be more committed than we already were.
We've been married now for nearly 2 months and although nothing has changed physically, financially etc, we do now feel whole as a family ( although we didnt realise we never felt that whole before).
Am I starting to confuse redface lol
Louise xx

Congratulations kiss
We to got married this year after having been together for 10 years and having 2 children together. Both of our girls had mr lyns surname, so in being married we all have the same surname. our 5 year old in her words is "so proud of me for being a (insert surname) the same as her!.
I totally agree with you, I now feel like our family is whole.
And that is exactly what marriage should be all about. Blimey starting to sound like me Father. :lol:
Quote by Steve

with this financial crisis its too expensive to think about wedding

A wedding doesnt have to be expensive...
We did our own catering and had a small family wedding with a handfull of friends and including the rings (which were specially made) it cost us a smidge over £300...
Beat ya!
Ours must have cost about £150 all in.
:smug:
Mine cost nothing! nada! zilch! a big fat zero!
:giggle:
Mine cost me 20 frickin years... you don't get that for murder these days sad
My answer to the question is YES
My hubby and i have been together for 20 years, we lived together for 4 years before getting married and the main reason was because we wanted to start a family.I suppose its old fashioned these days but i believe it does show more committment as its much harder especially financially to walk away if the going gets tough. Also both of us come from homes where the parents split mine after 25 yrs hubbys after 16.
On the other side of the coin most of the people we know just live together and and partly are very happy.I do agree with some that have pointed out that the commitment has to be 2 sided whether married or not i believe in telling my hubby evrything hes my best mate, and visa versa.
hope ive not waffled too much lol
pepps xxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Peanut
Mine cost me 20 frickin years... you don't get that for murder these days sad

Am sure you other half says the same about you. lol
Thats the problem with breakdowns though,there are always ill feelings usually on both sides.
Quote by kentswingers777
Mine cost me 20 frickin years... you don't get that for murder these days sad

Am sure you other half says the same about you. lol

Considering what she got in the divorce, not really no.
Thats the problem with breakdowns though,there are always ill feelings usually on both sides.

I don't have any ill feelings towards her. Just distrust and a bookmark to :twisted:
Yes - I think it's important but then I would say that. I'm about to get married lol
Having a Catholic upbringing it's something that was instilled in me from a very early age. My mum only married my donor (real dad) because she fell pregnant with me. It was a bit of a rush job, I was born 4 months after they married (I only realised that recently when I saw the marriage certificate) Needless to say, that marriage didn't work out and I still remeber the guilt my mom felt when she divorced my donor and again when she married my dad (stepdad)
Marriage to me means a commitment that just living together doesn't give you. Granted, I can't garantee the person i'm marrying holds the same values as me and to the same extent but he knows what it means to me and would never have asked if he didn't have at least nearly the same level of commitment. I guess it's almost a 'security' for me.
Did I answer the question, or have I just rambled? dunno lol
*Her*
Speaking as a soon to be Divorcee with a young son, I used to feel that marriage was very important and couldnt ever imagine having a family without being married.
Nowadays things have changed and I realised that marriage isnt the most important thing in the world and its only a piece of paper.
I am now a "loud & proud" single mum at 32 and believe that I do as good a job as anyone.
Kinks xxxxxxxxxxxx