Hi - my partner would love to have sex in the same room as other couples but not commit to anybody else, sure this may change when it happens but for now we are wondering whether this is part of the swinging scene, i.e. no commitment is needed to swing if you just want same room sex.... Hope this makes sense.
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that is totally and perfecty alright!
no one should ever try and push your bounderies any further than you want to go.. if they do, then they are not right for you.
of course you should be upfront about the fact that you only want to soft swing (the term for what u are intending to do) with anyone before you meet them, so as not to cause any misunderstanding or embarrasment as things progress,
but it is quite common.
so dont worry.
no one should ever try and push your bounderies any further than you want to go.. if they do, then they are not right for you.
of course you should be upfront about the fact that you only want to soft swing (the term for what u are intending to do) with anyone before you meet them, so as not to cause any misunderstanding or embarrasment as things progress,
but it is quite common.
so dont worry.
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Hi - my partner would love to have sex in the same room as other couples but not commit to anybody else, sure this may change when it happens but for now we are wondering whether this is part of the swinging scene, i.e. no commitment is needed to swing if you just want same room sex.... Hope this makes sense.
Makes perfect sense ..... many people refer to this as soft swinging and specify this in any advert.
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Quote by javagetty
Hi - my partner would love to have sex in the same room as other couples but not commit to anybody else, sure this may change when it happens but for now we are wondering whether this is part of the swinging scene, i.e. no commitment is needed to swing if you just want same room sex.... Hope this makes sense.
Hello javagetty,
You have one thing going for you straight away, you're being cautious. That's a good thing, if you and your partner are just considering swinging.
There are many couples who have been in the same boat as you, your interested, but not so sure you want to swap partners, just yet. I'm fairly certain there will be a few members of Swinging Heaven who may take you under their wing, so to speak, and perhaps offer you the opportunity to share a bed with them, but not swap partners.
Most swingers had the same doubts when they started out, and so will be familiar with your current situation. You and your partner may find sharing a bed a 'great turn on' but then again, may not. As long as the people you are with understand your situation, I don't think they will be offended if you suddenly changed your minds.
Many swingers find it sexually stimulating just to share a bed with another couple, simply watching another couple having sex right next to you, can be a big 'turn on' for them as well as you.
You may well have, an offer from another couple later in this thread, or by PM. Try meeting them for a drink first, if you get on well together, and that applies to both couples, not just you and your partner, then go either to a hotel or one of your homes, and take it from there.
Only you and your partner can decide if swinging is for you, and both of you must be very comfortable with the thought of it. If either of you have doubts, then stop right there. It could ruin your relationship with your partner, if either of you feels pushed into doing it.
Swingers are, in my experience, very nice people, and they do understand what you are going through. By all means give it a try. If you both like the experience, then proceed to the next stage. If it's not for either one of you, well at least you gave it a try, and won't be wondering 'what if' for the rest of your life.
Harry0
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