After spending some time in forum, ive seen many socials arranged in all different areas around the uk. Much time and effort is needed into organising these events, and although many people are quick to add there name to the list, not half as many are so quick to take a few minutes jus to write the words thank you on a thank you thread. I understand that not everyone can get onto sh every day due to work/kids/family etc etc, however, i still think its a shame.
This is jus my view on things I and dont wanna cause any upset, but jus wondered if i am the only one that feels this way or if anyone else agrees?
I also understand that people arent organising these events for thanks but i still think its nice to show that people are greatful that people have took the time to arrange these events for everyone to enjoy and give people a chance to meet new people in a non pushy relaxed envroment
p.s plz excuse the spelling lol
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Is Thank You Too Hard To Say??
Sex God
Maybe people have said thanks privately?
Quote by flower411
I spose the only socials I`ve attended have been organised mainly through the chatrooms and I`m perfectly happy to say thanks to the organisers in there.
I know a lot of people feel that they have to publically express all of their feelings and sentiments, but some of us don`t
No offence
no in fact thats very true, in fact i never looked at it in that way....guess i look rather silly now lol
Sex God
I agree with you for sure Heaven. As the Socials in Bristol are a BIG deal for J & I we can't thank people who take time out enough. However little or lot the work load is on these events these people stick their hands up to be counted. And for that we thank them. If they weren't arranged for us, we'd of lost out big time.
Maybe sometimes though people just don't think about forum and going back into it. Maybe they only ever use forum to post if they hear about socials/munches and after they've been to said function don't think about forum until next time it's mentioned in the chatroom. Bad form not doing so though, Isn't it?
Maybe sometimes though people just don't think about forum and going back into it. Maybe they only ever use forum to post if they hear about socials/munches and after they've been to said function don't think about forum until next time it's mentioned in the chatroom. Bad form not doing so though, Isn't it?
Sex God
Quote by Whipsnspurs
we just went to our fist social and said thank you while there. but also posted a thank you on the thread too. manners cost nothing so say thank you even if the time there didn't quite go how you expected. that could be down to you and not the organisers.
whips
Don't think anyone is disputing that - but the thank you doesn't have to be public.
Sex God
Why not say thanks in a forum ? cant for the life of me see why not. If someone can enter a "tyes please can we come" on a social thread. Then surely they can say "thankyou" on a Social thankyou thread. It even has less words for those seriousy embarrassed to see in print.
Still think a lot just don't think to look in the forum. Which suppose is reason enough. I suppose being one of the dozen or so that inflict ourselves on each other and the non posting reader i'm used to looking in here. it's second nature i guess
Still think a lot just don't think to look in the forum. Which suppose is reason enough. I suppose being one of the dozen or so that inflict ourselves on each other and the non posting reader i'm used to looking in here. it's second nature i guess
Sex God
a tip from us...dont ever do an event for the thanks... for that matter dont ever expect to recover your costs...dont ever expect others to make the same effort....dont ever go on a forum and moan that folk havent said thankyou ...do it for the love of pleasing those that attend and anything else is a bonus...or you will look bloody stupid
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Sex God
To be honest, I think some thank you threads can be a bit daunting. If some of the more outgoing and larger than life people post on the first page, including details of snogs and the like, maybe some people are put off because they don't have anything to share or don't want to. Some people post mega lists as well, thanking everyone they even fluttered their eyelashes at or passed on the way to the toilet. If you've just gone, had a pleasant time and gone home, perhaps you might not want to post that on an otherwise 'gobby' (for want of a better description) thread.
I don't think anyone should feel that they have to do a thank you at all, much less a public one. OK it's courteous to say thanks but it's not the end of the world if they don't, is it?
I don't think anyone should feel that they have to do a thank you at all, much less a public one. OK it's courteous to say thanks but it's not the end of the world if they don't, is it?
Sex God
But it is courteous 
Sex God
Quote by Lost
But it is courteous
It is indeed, I just wouldn't think any worse of people because they hadn't said thanks on forum.
Sex God
I wouldn't think an worse either. Maybe possibly fleetingly. Then I'd get over it in moments. BUT I would feel better about someone if they did. Stands to reason.
Sex God
Quote by Mistress_39
But it is courteous
It is indeed, I just wouldn't think any worse of people because they hadn't said thanks on forum.
I would, but then Im a b**ch :shock:
Mistress & cute
well who would of thought they'd live in the same skin eh? 
but they do they do : Bend over '39
Quote by flower411
I spose the only socials I`ve attended have been organised mainly through the chatrooms and I`m perfectly happy to say thanks to the organisers in there.
I know a lot of people feel that they have to publically express all of their feelings and sentiments, but some of us don`t
No offence
no in fact thats very true, in fact i never looked at it in that way....guess i look rather silly now lol
Asking a question and fully appreciating an answer that you weren`t expecting, doesn`t make you look silly at all !! :shock:
Puts you head and shoulders above a lot of people :wink:
Not only that Heaven you have just raised a bar for posting etiquette that many members on SH can do well to emulate :thumbup:
You have posted your views as a topic for debate & as such we have learned a few rather interesting aspects!
Thank you! x
Quote by Heaven1970
After spending some time in forum, ive seen many socials arranged in all different areas around the uk. Much time and effort is needed into organising these events, and although many people are quick to add there name to the list, not half as many are so quick to take a few minutes jus to write the words thank you on a thank you thread. I understand that not everyone can get onto sh every day due to work/kids/family etc etc, however, i still think its a shame.
This is jus my view on things I and dont wanna cause any upset, but jus wondered if i am the only one that feels this way or if anyone else agrees?
I also understand that people arent organising these events for thanks but i still think its nice to show that people are greatful that people have took the time to arrange these events for everyone to enjoy and give people a chance to meet new people in a non pushy relaxed envroment
p.s plz excuse the spelling lol
We went to the Kent social a couple of weeks back arranged by the grotmeisters.
Not as many people turned up that had put their names down. But a thankyou card was brought round for all to sign. I agree it is a thankless task organising a social, but people take the setting up and hard work for granted. :shock:
So if you have been to a social or are going to one, then at least say a thankyou to the hosts for the hard work and effort it takes to arrange.
Quote by Freckledbird
To be honest, I think some thank you threads can be a bit daunting. If some of the more outgoing and larger than life people post on the first page, including details of snogs and the like, maybe some people are put off because they don't have anything to share or don't want to. Some people post mega lists as well, thanking everyone they even fluttered their eyelashes at or passed on the way to the toilet. If you've just gone, had a pleasant time and gone home, perhaps you might not want to post that on an otherwise 'gobby' (for want of a better description) thread.
I don't think anyone should feel that they have to do a thank you at all, much less a public one. OK it's courteous to say thanks but it's not the end of the world if they don't, is it?
I agree with the F bird (and no, I'm nobody's crony). I'm willing to believe that quite a few people are genuinely exhilarated after they have attended an enjoyable well-organised munch or social, and that their sometimes long list of name-checks are well-meant, but I sometimes suspect an element of "Oooh, look how well in I am with everyone" in a small minority.
I can well understand why some members prefer to PM their thanks to a host, and that's perfectly fine.
If people can take the time to put their name down for a social via a forum then there's little or no reason not to do the same after the event to say thank you to those who took the time to do the organisation. Are their lives so busy they can't spare 5 seconds?
Sadly, as Mistress pointed out, the general decline in manners which is so prevalent in society also creeps in here from time to time amongst certain posters.
However I reserve the full venom for those who say they will come to a social and then never show up and can't be arsed to have the common decency and apologise.
Sadly, as Mistress pointed out, the general decline in manners which is so prevalent in society also creeps in here from time to time amongst certain posters.
However I reserve the full venom for those who say they will come to a social and then never show up and can't be arsed to have the common decency and apologise.
I quitel like seeing the thank you threads and reading what people who attended have written. I dont mind the long winded ones (ok Im pretty good at them myself) that list members/funny moments... why not? It shows I had a good time and reliving the memories (I dont get out much so Im gonna prolong it!).
I dont believe its saying *look, how well Im in with anyone* personally. If theres an *in crowd* Im sure as heck dont see me being part of it!
We all have different ways of saying thanks and how much we enjoyed, members will say it how they wish to :smile: But saying that, its nice to see it giving the organisoran idea of what people did and didnt like...its a great feedback mechanism
:) It also encourages them to organise another one... :cheers:
so Im gonna prolong it!). I dont believe its saying *look, how well Im in with anyone* personally. If theres an *in crowd* Im sure as heck dont see me being part of it!
We all have different ways of saying thanks and how much we enjoyed, members will say it how they wish to :smile: But saying that, its nice to see it giving the organisoran idea of what people did and didnt like...its a great feedback mechanism
:) It also encourages them to organise another one... :cheers: 