A bi-sexual couple who are made up of a Trans man and a woman are intending to have a baby with sperm donation.
To do this they have to be evaluated and assessed by Psychiatrists and the like. The medical team know that they are dealing with a Trans man.
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
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Quote by splendid_
A bi-sexual couple who are made up of a Trans man and a woman are intending to have a baby with sperm donation.
To do this they have to be evaluated and assessed by Psychiatrists and the like. The medical team know that they are dealing with a Trans man.
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
I aint even going to go there on this one!!! :shock: :shock:
Sex God
Quote by splendid_
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
Why - it won't affect their ability to be parents?
No, no need to tell.
ie. Polygamous ? 
I have no idea what the criteria is for receiving such a donation but I would imagine that that question is probably not asked of a "straight" M/F couple. The more pertinent factors should be their commitment to each other and the home life they can provide. Whether their polygamy has an effect on either of these is an individual matter I guess.
I have no idea what the criteria is for receiving such a donation but I would imagine that that question is probably not asked of a "straight" M/F couple. The more pertinent factors should be their commitment to each other and the home life they can provide. Whether their polygamy has an effect on either of these is an individual matter I guess.
Quote by kentswingers777
A bi-sexual couple who are made up of a Trans man and a woman are intending to have a baby with sperm donation.
To do this they have to be evaluated and assessed by Psychiatrists and the like. The medical team know that they are dealing with a Trans man.
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
I aint even going to go there on this one!!! :shock: :shock:
you said more than enough right there :thumbup:
Quote by Freckledbird
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
Why - it won't affect their ability to be parents?
No, no need to tell.
That said, if the medical discover that they are non-monogamous and rule against them being parents on that basis alone.... is that right ?
Orgasminator
I wouldn't say that it's right for them to be judged on their lifestyle choice - the only thing that they should be judged on is their ability to be parents
Quote by Dark_side72
ie. Polygamous ?
I have no idea what the criteria is for receiving such a donation but I would imagine that that question is probably not asked of a "straight" M/F couple. The more pertinent factors should be their commitment to each other and the home life they can provide. Whether their polygamy has an effect on either of these is an individual matter I guess.
welcome dark-side.
They describe themselves as non-monogamous. So I am unsure if the term polyamory applies.
Your answer remains relevant tho' I presume as the factors in this sort of assessment is their ability to parent and care.
Sex God
Unfortunately being non manogamous may well be a factor that goes against them as we all know the stigma attached to having consentual sex outside of a relationship...
If it wasn't so then we would all use our real names here and no-one would bother about remaining anonymous(sp)..
Its a shame but thats the way it is :-(
If it wasn't so then we would all use our real names here and no-one would bother about remaining anonymous(sp)..
Its a shame but thats the way it is :-(
Sex God
Quote by Dark_side72
ie. Polygamous ?
I have no idea what the criteria is for receiving such a donation but I would imagine that that question is probably not asked of a "straight" M/F couple. The more pertinent factors should be their commitment to each other and the home life they can provide. Whether their polygamy has an effect on either of these is an individual matter I guess.
:welcome: to the forum Dark_side. Loving your work on this post... was going to say something similar myself but you had already done it!
Not sure splendid. In an ideal world it wouldn't matter. It shouldn't matter. As others have said, is the life they can provide for the child that should be priority. I would err on the side of not telling. Am sure they have faced a fair amount of stigma in their relationship thus far, why add further complications?I hope it goes well for them. My sister is pregnant at mo having used a sperm donor. Her choice to be a single parent has raised questions from some quarters so these things aren't always as simple as they should be.
Interesting thread.
Quote by splendid_
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
Why - it won't affect their ability to be parents?
No, no need to tell.
That said, if the medical discover that they are non-monogamous and rule against them being parents on that basis alone.... is that right ?
It would be like saying to a swinging couple that they couldn't be good parents....and swingers wouldn't it??
Sex God
I suppose as swingers we already accept 'non-monogamy' within what we practice. The Outward face of society would still hold issues about this and many things including the scenario as you posted Splendid. I guess that things do change, although I have a feeling if you were to ask a lot of people i believe that their outward 'honest' answer to questions like this would be fairly generalised. This being that the right way to have families or parent children is the 'conventional' way of one man one woman, irrespective of gender or sexuality issues.
I have to admit to still having questions about this sort of thing myself, only because of latent interest I guess and I have never really had the chance to sit and discuss this sort of thing with the people who it would directly involve.
I have only had one lesbian friend (that I know of) and she and her partner had a child between them her partner being the birthing mother
(I dont even know the proper terminology i bet, which shows my ignorance !!) They unfortunately split up. as far as I know the one parent was looking sfter the child fine up to press.
I guess its safe to think of things in the time honoured fashion and uncomfortable to be challenged with new perspectives. People need to be exposed to the differences in others and how or whether it makes a difference to themselves or not so as too formulate a personal viewpoint. Unfortunately so many of us are unwilling to face things head on and ask the questions.
good thread
I have to admit to still having questions about this sort of thing myself, only because of latent interest I guess and I have never really had the chance to sit and discuss this sort of thing with the people who it would directly involve.
I have only had one lesbian friend (that I know of) and she and her partner had a child between them her partner being the birthing mother
(I dont even know the proper terminology i bet, which shows my ignorance !!) They unfortunately split up. as far as I know the one parent was looking sfter the child fine up to press. I guess its safe to think of things in the time honoured fashion and uncomfortable to be challenged with new perspectives. People need to be exposed to the differences in others and how or whether it makes a difference to themselves or not so as too formulate a personal viewpoint. Unfortunately so many of us are unwilling to face things head on and ask the questions.
good thread
Personally I don't think that if a couple are non-monogamous it should make any difference in the slightest. Commitment to each other and to their future offspring is more important. I would say its no business of professionals....if your not asked a particular question, I see no reason to fill anyone in on information they may deem relevant?
I have friends, who have done this privately.... one a lesbian couple and another a surrogate mother. It worked out well for the couple!
Whatever happens I wish them both the best.
I have friends, who have done this privately.... one a lesbian couple and another a surrogate mother. It worked out well for the couple!
Whatever happens I wish them both the best.
Normally I would always say that being honest is the best way to go but not in this case.
I don't see why they should mention they are in a non-monogamous relationship. I wouldn't say if Ian and I were having IVF so why should this couple
It is their private life, the ability to love and care for that child is what counts :thumbup:
I don't see why they should mention they are in a non-monogamous relationship. I wouldn't say if Ian and I were having IVF so why should this couple
It is their private life, the ability to love and care for that child is what counts :thumbup:
Quote by splendid_
A bi-sexual couple who are made up of a Trans man and a woman are intending to have a baby with sperm donation.
To do this they have to be evaluated and assessed by Psychiatrists and the like. The medical team know that they are dealing with a Trans man.
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
when I saw the title of the thread and that splendid had started it, I thought it's bound to be asking if her bum looked big in something
wow - serious stuff. - no they shouldn't have to say anything.
Ian
Quote by splendid_
A bi-sexual couple who are made up of a Trans man and a woman are intending to have a baby with sperm donation.
To do this they have to be evaluated and assessed by Psychiatrists and the like. The medical team know that they are dealing with a Trans man.
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
I aint even going to go there on this one!!! :shock: :shock:
you said more than enough right there :thumbup:
Yep, but you probably know my thoughts anyway? :shock:
Sex God
Quote by Peanut
Do they also tell them about the fact that they are non-monogamous?
Fuck 'em. If it's not written down that they have to declare who they shag then it's not compulsory to tell them. And even if it was, fuck 'em anyway! :twisted:
Spot on.
There is a world of difference between answering a direct question 'are you monogamous?' and full disclosure without questions being asked.
There is also a difference between them needing to know something and them using their position to extract information they have no need of and that they will apply their own personal ignorance and bigotry to.
As in the army - never volunteer information, never ask for permission.
