the point being that the first time i went into the pub I went in and had a look at the surroundings... which i am more and more sure that a lot of people don't do anymore... jump in with both feet and don't get a feel for the place.....like i have said before... first impressions count, I have never seen a nice and polite "hello i am new" post flamed!!!
I took my time and got accepted into the pub just like I took my time and got accepted here...and a lot of people don't want to do that, then complain when whatever they wanted to do doesn't come off....
I am still a great believer in that you get out of this place what you put in... i just find more and more people can't be bothered with the effort and expect it on a plate
I have been reading this and so far have restrained from posting anything but what I cant understand is if Guy4fun and Treasurechest (sorry just to name you two, but you seem to be the most active posters) are so unhappy with the site, why are they still here? Its not meant as a 'sod off' post, but more of a genuine question?
If you went to a club or pub and didnt like the other people in there, you would leave immediately and find another place to have a drink. If this site is as bad as you are both saying, or should I say, a number of the 'regular'posters are as bad as you say, why are you still here, why not find another site to use?
Like I said, hope you take this in the spirit it is meant, and it is not meant to cause any offence, I am genuinly interested why you are still here.
Blimey ! How did i miss all this going on????
As one of the piss-takers, or at least i hope to be considered a piss taker, i think it is one of the better things about this site.
People keep likening this forum to a pub, and a crowd of mates. Which it does seem to be, because half the time people are posting when they have had a couple of drinks, especially late at night.
Now if you were in the pub with your mates, and some brash gobshite walked in, who's never been seen before... introduced themselves to you and your "gang".. and said he had a big cock... what do you think the reaction would be? The absolute saving grace of The Cafe is that people DON'T get nasty or vicious with these people. On the whole it is quite tame piss taking... it would be worse IRL.
And to be brutally honest... i'd be surprised if anyone moaning about the piss taking of newbies could find more than half a dozen comments, from the last 6 months, where the piss taking wasn't justified and was nasty and vicious. 99.9% of the time it's mild, very mild ribbing...
So... that's my view. And if you take offence.... you're probably a great big girly.... with pig tails...
A mild form of barracking takes place here as in all walks of society..... as long as it is taken in good part.... no-one is offended...
It almost seems to be a rite of passage that new members have to travel through... and when other members take the mickey out of you.... you know you're acccepted...
I do agree though, that all mickey taking should be in the 'friendly banter' style and not out and out complete piss taking....
equi-princess xxx
hehe....
that's it just hehe
to happycats
blimey im just glad ive still not read this post.........
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/512948.html#512948
what were you saying guy4fun i am confused were you just teasing me perhaps?
Blue, sorry I missed your ressurrection - I even found a cruiser for you that I thought would be perfect to help you avoid the "slings and arrows of outrageous fortune" in your new life.
But if you don't want this cruiser, then you won't get this cruiser....
Her name is HMS Belfast, she is a 6" Cruiser, but if you ask her nicely, she'll escort you!