Is This A Unique Fear

18 Jun 2007

I know this has been done before in a slightly different context but here's our slant on the topic.......
Since we started using SH just over two years ago the one thing that it has really taught us is that you just couldn't pick a swinging couple out from a crowd of people!!
When we first stepped onto the hallowed SH towers we thought we knew exactly what type of people swingers were and we reckoned we could spot them a mile off, I mean the women obviously wore micro-mini skirts, boob tubes, strappy heels and looked "up for it", and the guys all looked like Peter Stringfellow yeah! lol

Perfect swinging couple i hear you all cry!! wink

Anyway back on topic, we as a young swinging couple constantly worry that when we see events/socials and munches etc on the LMU part of the forum, somebody we know well, possibly even family members:shock: might be there, and this usually stops us from putting our names down as it has done in the past!
Now is this something to do with our age, does being younger mean we are more worried about peoples opinions of us, or do older members still have this worry?
Has anyone else ever canceled or been put off attending munches etc by the thought of this as it seems to us that in this liberated day and age, you just dont know who is a swinger and who isn't. We have attended munch/socials before and been amazed and shacked at the diversity of people we have met and talked to and we loved our first munch but still there always lingers at the back of our mind that glimmer of a possibility.........
We turn up, cool calm and confident, looking smart (no comments about the tank top please :wink: )and feeling great, only to look across the bar and see our bloody !!
Please tell us we are NOT alone in this worry?

18 Jun 2007

I'd be shit scared if I saw my parents at a munch or social. They've both been dead a a number of years. It would be like wandering into a zombie film.
But seriously, yes I think it is natural to have a fear of meeting someone you know outside the swinging world.

18 Jun 2007

But then aren't they there for the same thing??

18 Jun 2007

Quote by lilacgem
But then aren't they there for the same thing??

Yes but meeting your parents or close family!? I mean they have this parental superiority thing over you and im not sure either of us could get over the thought that our parents are swingers, even though we consider ourselves very liberal sexually and there is absolutely nothing wrong with swinging, we have discussed it, and both think we would just die of embarrassment and never go for Sunday lunch again lol

Can you imagine the first time back for Sunday lunch over the dinner table :shock: (no pun intended BTW)

18 Jun 2007

Quote by lilacgem
But then aren't they there for the same thing??

:thumbup:
My sentiments exactly...
There are members here who I have found out are actually friends of mine IRL and it makes not a jot of difference....
We're all here for the same reasons...

18 Jun 2007

No you are not alone. We are also a young couple and have the same fears as you. Even though I know we shouldn`t care less what others think of us its always in the back of our minds!

19 Jun 2007

i dont see why being young would make it more of a problem than being middle aged or old.
i am not ashamed or embarrased, but i certainly wouldnt want to bump into family members in a state of undress eugh! lol
however i am young now but reckon i will feel the same when i am getting on.
in fact, my other half has pointed out that the older you are, the older your parents are so it makes the thought of seeing them there even worse!!! lol

:lol: :lol:

19 Jun 2007

My Mum knows smile

in fact she used to be a member :shock: Imagine if I had been a chat op then! a bit strange clicking on ya Mum's cam to make sure she was'nt paying a video :huh: :giggle:

19 Jun 2007

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! :eeek:

20 Jun 2007

I'm a ,ahem,'older' member and I would very much fear meeting someone I knew in outside life and actually have met someone who was very indiscreet - and loud - in a public place about who they knew on the scene and what they and others had was very obvious reasons I and many others need this to be something that we privately share with other likeminded people.

20 Jun 2007

It's a fact of life I'm afraid Srne, but as some have said, it's liberated swinging/sex at the end of the day so that would mean they are as open minded as yourself.
On the other hand, seeing my mother with her partner across the bar, it wouldn't surprise me BUT I wouldn't want her to know about me - that sounds bizarre I know, but I still feel like her little girl sometimes if you know what I mean.
We have to take some risks and being a found out as a swinger must be one of them ! lol

20 Jun 2007

i was in the chat room last night talking to a guy and lo and behold we work at the same place.
it was bound to happen at some point, i just thought i was funny lol

Earthy xx

20 Jun 2007

Touch wood, I've never ever come accross anyone I know on here yet. I was talking to the female of a couple before a munch in Co. Durham and she was not sure whether to go or not cos it was too close to home for her. I said, I'm from the town it's in anyway, she lives outside of the town. I also said, munches are all in one place so ur not gonna be bumping into ppl walking round pubs and a friend saying "who are these people?"
:scared:
Also, like a few others have said, we are all here for the same thing. I'd take my pics down straight away if I had a friend or family member come on here tho.
Miss Cream xxx

20 Jun 2007

Quote by creampie123
I'd take my pics down straight away if I had a friend or family member come on here tho.
Miss Cream xxx

gana tell ya sis lol

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