A couple looking for single male, the couple can't accom so are looking for males who can or a hotel will be fine.
However, if a hotel is the only option, the single male has to pay.
Is this rude or common practice?
Quote by splendid_
depends on your 'take'.
worlass and I have met two single guys..... one we travelled to them (70 miles) and paid for the hotel..... we also fed him. He was unemployed and we both work. It seemed fair.
the other chap travelled miles and miles... and we again paid for the hotel and fed him too. We saw that as meeting him half way as he put fuel in his car and he worked. That seemed fair.
I have met single guys on my own and they have paid.
I have met single guys on my own and I have paid.
I have met single guys on my own and I have gone half.
Depends on what I deem to be fair and I agree it before hand.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
i actually think tgere is a massive lack of decent singe guys out there, and would never expect a guy to pay for the privledge of meeting me.
Quote by splendid_
depends on your 'take'.
worlass and I have met two single guys..... one we travelled to them (70 miles) and paid for the hotel..... we also fed him. He was unemployed and we both work. It seemed fair.
the other chap travelled miles and miles... and we again paid for the hotel and fed him too. We saw that as meeting him half way as he put fuel in his car and he worked. That seemed fair.
I have met single guys on my own and they have paid.
I have met single guys on my own and I have paid.
I have met single guys on my own and I have gone half.
Depends on what I deem to be fair and I agree it before hand.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
when i see this it really sickens me, what are they a comodity to be bought?
ffs are they not there to be getting some fun??
i actually think tgere is a massive lack of decent singe guys out there, and would never expect a guy to pay for the privledge of meeting me.
i wouldnt want that pressure, it takes the fun out of it.
im much the same in a pub in accepting drinks, i dont want to feel obliged to spend time with them afterwards.
if the other peopel have booked a room anyway and the play is an addition then thats for them to decide, but i would expect then that its their holiday and why should i pay for it.
if they cant accommodate then its only fair if they at least split hotel costs if you cant accommodate aswel.
xx fem xx
sorry pissed off with being told us singles should be grateful that couples invite us in to play so we
should pay.
Quote by Sugar-n-pom
We definitely wouldn't expect to pay 2/3 of a hotel bill! And any guy who suggested it would be hard pressed to get a meet in my humble opinion.
We haven't had an arranged meet in a hotel but IF we did, and both sides had travelled a similar distance then, as a couple, we'd expect to pay no more than half.
If you use the £84 bench mark again, why should we pay £56 and the guy only £28 when we could go to a club for less and get more choice? He certainly wouldn't get into ANY club I know of for £28.
I'd say that for a single guy, £42 for a night of horny sex with no competition from other guys (as in a club scenario) would be a bargain!
Quote by poshkate
I think it all depends on circumstance and I would discuss hotel arrangements with anyone I played with and take it from there. I would never 'expect' for someone else to pay for a hotel room. If I was feeling flush and the person I wanted to play with was skint then I'd have no problems paying for the room and not give it another thought.
What I don't like it the way people mix up paying for a room with the actual playing. I would never expect someone to pay a certain amount for the room just because they get to shag my other half :shock: To me that is moving away from what swinging is really about.
Quote by poshkate
I think it all depends on circumstance and I would discuss hotel arrangements with anyone I played with and take it from there. I would never 'expect' for someone else to pay for a hotel room. If I was feeling flush and the person I wanted to play with was skint then I'd have no problems paying for the room and not give it another thought.
What I don't like it the way people mix up paying for a room with the actual playing. I would never expect someone to pay a certain amount for the room just because they get to shag my other half :shock: To me that is moving away from what swinging is really about.
Quote by poshkate
What I don't like it the way people mix up paying for a room with the actual playing. I would never expect someone to pay a certain amount for the room just because they get to shag my other half :shock: To me that is moving away from what swinging is really about.
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http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/289639.html
Quote by kentswingers777
If we want to meet people we usually invite them to our house. Far more relaxed and no money to pay by anyone.
We met a guy at the weekend. We entertained him in our home, and all we asked is that he brought a bottle of wine which he did.
Quote by Dirtygirly
Whilst I hear what you're saying Kenty (although I totally disagree with the sordid bit, my approach to the hotel thing is much more positive), I have a safety issue to consider.
I'm a single girl. I don't necessarily want people to know where I live, nor do I want to invite a complete stranger into my home.
Meeting in a hotel is a much better option, not to mention it saves on washing!But then I don't suppose you do the washing in your house so that's probably not even entered your head!
I realise it's your opinion but not all of us have the luxury of a partner for support. That goes for meeting couples and single blokes. It works the same... I'm not sure I'd be hugely comfortable meeting in someone else's home as a single girl, neutral territory is much better for me and I'm happy to pay my share. :mrgreen: