I have to write a speech answering this question:
Is what we wear important?
What do you think? All thoughts on the topic appreciated.
Nola x
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I think overall and on balance the answer is Yes.
But it does depend on circumstances. If I'm at home and no-one's going to see me then it don't matter too much - Angelica does love me!!!
But if I'm going to a munch then I do like to wheel out summat that I think looks good.
If I'm going to a meeting in work where there are very high powered people I will make a point of power dressing (I think a lot of people do this).
When I'm with my family in a wider social setting then I do like to wear stuff that is designed to make them as well as me feel-good. It's my 'social responsibility' to do so!!
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But it does depend on circumstances. If I'm at home and no-one's going to see me then it don't matter too much - Angelica does love me!!!
But if I'm going to a munch then I do like to wheel out summat that I think looks good.
If I'm going to a meeting in work where there are very high powered people I will make a point of power dressing (I think a lot of people do this).
When I'm with my family in a wider social setting then I do like to wear stuff that is designed to make them as well as me feel-good. It's my 'social responsibility' to do so!!
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Absolutely.
I remember once on Dragons Den, Peter Jones critcised a young chap looking for an investment of £100,000 by saying that he looked like he was going to the pub. The chap was in jeans and t-shirt and I knew exactly what Peter Jones meant. You would have thought he would have made a bit of effort when hoping someone would trust him with a sum of money like that.
Equally, it is also possible to overdress, especially for a job interviews. You wouldn't expect someone looking for manual work to turn up in his best bib and tucker. You need to dress for the occasion.
After all who said 'Clothes maketh man'
I remember once on Dragons Den, Peter Jones critcised a young chap looking for an investment of £100,000 by saying that he looked like he was going to the pub. The chap was in jeans and t-shirt and I knew exactly what Peter Jones meant. You would have thought he would have made a bit of effort when hoping someone would trust him with a sum of money like that.
Equally, it is also possible to overdress, especially for a job interviews. You wouldn't expect someone looking for manual work to turn up in his best bib and tucker. You need to dress for the occasion.
After all who said 'Clothes maketh man'
Sex God
Yes I do believe that clothing is important as it does give off an impression to others. Whether I agree to that or not is a different question.
I was once sent a letter regarding a university interview that said that the dress code was 'casual'. I wasn't sure what that meant so spoke to a tutor, who responded that 'you never offend anyone by being too smart'. In the end I wore a suit to the interview and shortly afterwards got an offer of a place with lower grades than they would normally expect for that degree. I'd like to say that it was purely what I said in the interview that got me into that position........but (and there is always a but) may be the outfit I was wearing impressed them more than those that turned up in a pair of jeans.
All in all..........I now wear what I have to at times when I have to........the rest of the time I wear princess dresses! :giggle:
I was once sent a letter regarding a university interview that said that the dress code was 'casual'. I wasn't sure what that meant so spoke to a tutor, who responded that 'you never offend anyone by being too smart'. In the end I wore a suit to the interview and shortly afterwards got an offer of a place with lower grades than they would normally expect for that degree. I'd like to say that it was purely what I said in the interview that got me into that position........but (and there is always a but) may be the outfit I was wearing impressed them more than those that turned up in a pair of jeans.
All in all..........I now wear what I have to at times when I have to........the rest of the time I wear princess dresses! :giggle:
Sex God
On leaving the house I think that is indeed important to wear at least something 
Sex God
I tend to dress for myself unless I am going somewhere with a dress code...
I feel most comfortable in a nice pair of jeans and a shirt with casual shoes and this tends to be the type of thing I wear when out as I feel most comfortable that way...
I feel most comfortable in a nice pair of jeans and a shirt with casual shoes and this tends to be the type of thing I wear when out as I feel most comfortable that way...
Sex God
Being a tad over forty I would say its How we wear not what that really matters.
I think it depends on the situation, person, event etc
You dress for the event accordingly - you wouldn't turn up for an interview in t shirt and jeans etc, you dress to impress on a date but no point wearing your sunday best whilst decorating etc
It's important not so much for what you wear but how you wear it - clean, well put together and not looking like you dressed in the dark
That said, no one should EVER be allowed to be mutton dressed as lamb ( bedroom play excepted
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above all, you should wear what you feel comfortable with
You dress for the event accordingly - you wouldn't turn up for an interview in t shirt and jeans etc, you dress to impress on a date but no point wearing your sunday best whilst decorating etc
It's important not so much for what you wear but how you wear it - clean, well put together and not looking like you dressed in the dark
That said, no one should EVER be allowed to be mutton dressed as lamb ( bedroom play excepted
)above all, you should wear what you feel comfortable with
Sex God
Don't go to the supermarket in your slippers!
I think you should dress how you want to dress, for the circumstances you are in.
I think you should dress how you want to dress, for the circumstances you are in.
Sex God
Quote by celestria
Don't go to the supermarket in your slippers!
I think you should dress how you want to dress, for the circumstances you are in.
Only advice I'll offer is don't do the school run in you Pj's!
Why have you??
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Only advice I'll offer is don't do the school run in you Pj's!
Why have you??
Heck no! Even if I'm late getting out of my pit I'll always get dressed before I go outside. But there's one person who delivers her kids to school in her pj's every morning and is still in them when she picks them up at 3 o'clock. It's wrong I tell ya... just wrong!
Does what you wear matter?
I had to interview someone once who had tats and piercings. I thought he was a very good prospect for the job and would do well. My director felt otherwise as it was a customer facing role. Ultimately the decision wasn't mine to make, as I would have taken him on.
A month or so later we took the guy on in a non customer facing role and my perception that he would be an excellent team member and good at his job was correct.
Looking different can go against you, unless the person (people) you are meeting are open enough to see past the veneer.
But then I've always looked a bit odd, so maybe I'm more open to seeing past the surface than most?
I had to interview someone once who had tats and piercings. I thought he was a very good prospect for the job and would do well. My director felt otherwise as it was a customer facing role. Ultimately the decision wasn't mine to make, as I would have taken him on.
A month or so later we took the guy on in a non customer facing role and my perception that he would be an excellent team member and good at his job was correct.
Looking different can go against you, unless the person (people) you are meeting are open enough to see past the veneer.
But then I've always looked a bit odd, so maybe I'm more open to seeing past the surface than most?
Sex God
Quote by martin_bg_2000_uk
Does what you wear matter?
I had to interview someone once who had tats and piercings. I thought he was a very good prospect for the job and would do well. My director felt otherwise as it was a customer facing role. Ultimately the decision wasn't mine to make, as I would have taken him on.
A month or so later we took the guy on in a non customer facing role and my perception that he would be an excellent team member and good at his job was correct.
Looking different can go against you, unless the person (people) you are meeting are open enough to see past the veneer.
But then I've always looked a bit odd, so maybe I'm more open to seeing past the surface than most?
That's because most people are saying something when choosing how they look. Problem is that it can be misleading or misunderstood if you're not careful.
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Sex God
What you wear is the first thing that someone sees and you can control. So it is the first opportunity you have to say something about yourself. So yes it matters, and how you wear it matters. Later when you know someone it does not matter, they know you! So think about what you wish to say about yourself and pick your cloth accordingly.
What you wear does matter. And so does how you portray yourself.
When im looking for a play partner i look for some one who is clean and tidy. So often at clubs you see both guys and girls who just dont make an effort. It don't cost much to get your hair cut. It takes 5 min in the morning to stick some eye liner mascara and lippy on. A bar of soap is cheap.
I dont expect people to get dressed up to the nines to do the shopping. But if i was interviewing someone i would expect them to be appropriatly dressed. If i am looking for someone to play with i expect them to make an effort then i know they will make an effort in the bed room.
When im looking for a play partner i look for some one who is clean and tidy. So often at clubs you see both guys and girls who just dont make an effort. It don't cost much to get your hair cut. It takes 5 min in the morning to stick some eye liner mascara and lippy on. A bar of soap is cheap.
I dont expect people to get dressed up to the nines to do the shopping. But if i was interviewing someone i would expect them to be appropriatly dressed. If i am looking for someone to play with i expect them to make an effort then i know they will make an effort in the bed room.
Of course what you wear is important to a certain degree. I mean you would not wear your old scruffy pants and jumper to a wedding or funeral would you?
But then again when i am just being my "normal" self then its jeans t-shirt and trainers for me. But if i am going on a night/day out then i usually make an effort!!
But then again when i am just being my "normal" self then its jeans t-shirt and trainers for me. But if i am going on a night/day out then i usually make an effort!!
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Quote by Biguy1955No, but the uniforms were, neat and well kept, just like their records. They knew how many they murdered. How many scruffy murdering organizations can put a number on their death toll today?
I don't think that clothes necessarily tell you much about a person. The Nazis had some very smart uniforms but that didn't stop them from being some of the worst bastards in history.
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Quote by noladreams30
I have to write a speech answering this question:
Is what we wear important?
What do you think? All thoughts on the topic appreciated.
Nola x
Yes I think it is important. No matter how many times the phrase "don't judge a book by it's cover" is used, it doesn't make any difference, we all form an opinion on a first impression.
From an employer's point of view, they're going to take more notice of someone who has made an effort to present themselves in a way that's appropriate for the position they are applying for. If you have two candidates, one tidy and well turned out and one scruffy then we all know who's more likely to get the job, it doesn't mean that the scruffy one has less ability, it's just the way of the world.
From a personal point of view, I guess I like to be comfortable in what I wear. One look in the mirror tells me whether or not I am. I'd like to think that my friends would tell me if they thought I was wearing something that doesn't suit me. My mum does it a lot. I like stripes. I have a lot of stripey clothes. They don't really do a huge amount for me and my mum generally looks horrified at the size of my tits but I like them all the same. Can't really help myself... it's a bit like shoes. I love shoes. And for me, on looking at a prospective shag... if they have bad shoes my eyes generally don't travel any further up.
So I guess I do form an opinion on someone by what they wear but I have to say that although those "OMG, did she look in the mirror before she left the house" moments are there (we all do it, it's human nature), for me it's more about the confidence that person has, how they project it and whether they look comfortable in their clothes. Sometimes I'm envious of people's ability to carry stuff off, there's part of me that loves people like that and their total "don't give a toss" attitude. But that's probably more about being comfortable in your skin than anything to do with the clothes.
I'd love to be a bit more daring but I'm not. I'm not sure I ever will be but I think I missed my opporchancity to be a total goth chick! :mrgreen:
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Quote by flower411
Is what we wear important?
Yes, but it is only veneer and only hides our short comings from fools.
And in the immortal words of little orphan Annie, "You're never fully dressed without a smile!" ;)
I used to have very long hair...when I had it all cut I kept a pony tail that stuck out of the top of me head
For job interviews I wore a suit and plaited the hair and stuck it down the back of my shirt 
One particular interview.......where I got the job !! :lol: .....
They offered me the job and just as I was leaving the room ....my future boss said
"Right ...now tell us about your hair"
So ...as long as you make the effort people will accept little indescretions :lol:
I agrea that clothes are only a veneer that we hide behind and I think its not good that people have to dress in a certain way to fit in with the rest of the crowd
Sex God
Thanks for all of your input so far - really valuable. Has helped me look at things from several different angles.
Please, if anyone has any other thoughts, do post!
Much obliged.
Nola :rose:
Please, if anyone has any other thoughts, do post!
Much obliged.
Nola :rose:
