I am a big softy at heart, although it is only certain people in life I show the core of myself too. We all feel we have to protect ourselves at times.
But I don’t mind people seeing the true me, I have learnt of ways recently to ignore people that don’t understand me and move on.
This has taken a long time in coming but I feel I am at a stage in life that it doesn’t matter what others think.
I like to show people myself and it is up to them to decide their choices or judgements of me.
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It doesn’t matter what others think
I care much less than I used to about other people's opinions of me. With one obvious exception. This. I want to maintain people's respect for me in my work so I keep my swinging proclivities to myself apart from fellow swingers. I am not ashamed of the lifestyle, but I don't want to be constantly explaining and justifying myself. I care about what they think to the extent that they are largely uninformed and judgemental about the sharing of sexual partners. I took my marriage vows seriously 19 years ago and am proud of the fact that we are even happier now than then and still married. Since swinging is essentially sleeping around to the public at large, I feel I have to conceal this part of my life in order to protect my livelihood. Every other aspect of my life is subject to scrutiny and I have nothing to hide, so don't care what anyone thinks.
I'm past caring to be honest. I am what I am and I speak the truth.. if people don't like that then that's their problem.
I've had situations on here lately whereby I've challenged, I've spoke the truth, I've maybe even told people things they don't want to hear, and guess what? they've stopped speaking... ring any bells anyone?? :dry: but, I couldn't care less and the reason being is the people who 'really' know me and have taken the time to get to know me and I them are the ones that matter anyway.
I've had situations on here lately whereby I've challenged, I've spoke the truth, I've maybe even told people things they don't want to hear, and guess what? they've stopped speaking... ring any bells anyone?? :dry: but, I couldn't care less and the reason being is the people who 'really' know me and have taken the time to get to know me and I them are the ones that matter anyway.
I only know how to show the true me, I'm not one for pretending.
I do care what people think about me, but if they view me in a negative way, hey ho, thats just the way it is.
If they view me in a positve way, thats just dandy.
You can please folk some of the time, but you cant please everbody all of the time.
I do care what people think about me, but if they view me in a negative way, hey ho, thats just the way it is.
If they view me in a positve way, thats just dandy.
You can please folk some of the time, but you cant please everbody all of the time.
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Do you find it hard to show the true you?
I don't find it hard to show the true me, I make it hard for others to find the true me.
In some ways, I put up barriers, I don't let people in, but there are also cases where I let people in so far, only to see them lose interest, or for me to have served my purpose with them, and I am finding that the people I care about, the people I have time for, is getting less and less, and the people I really have time for, are the ones who are more likely to see the true me.
I still have that bottle of chilled wine Mar. 
I really care a lot about what people think of me.
On here it is not real, it is cyber space talk. I am a lot different in real life to what I come across in the forum.
But even if I was the same, the only ones that matter to me are my own friends and family, and Mrs777.
People on here come and go but.....the people close to me know the real me.( A miserable )
I really care a lot about what people think of me.
On here it is not real, it is cyber space talk. I am a lot different in real life to what I come across in the forum.
But even if I was the same, the only ones that matter to me are my own friends and family, and Mrs777.
People on here come and go but.....the people close to me know the real me.( A miserable )
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i couldn't care less wat others think of me if they can't b arsed to get to know the real me and just judge willy nilly then thier opinion of me is not one i bother about
I guess we are validated by our relationships with other people so we must all care to some extent what others think of we learn to disgard the opinions of the exploiters, the bullies, the callous and the ignorant.
I find it easier to reveal parts of my psyche on here given the anonimity of the environment. In real life when it comes to interacting with touchable people I tend to be a lot more reserved and will hold a lot of myself back until I know people better.
Remember the only person that can make us miserable is ourselves!
I find it easier to reveal parts of my psyche on here given the anonimity of the environment. In real life when it comes to interacting with touchable people I tend to be a lot more reserved and will hold a lot of myself back until I know people better.
Remember the only person that can make us miserable is ourselves!
I guess we are validated by our relationships with other people so we must all care to some extent what others think of we learn to disgard the opinions of the exploiters, the bullies, the callous and the ignorant.
I find it easier to reveal parts of my psyche on here given the anonimity of the environment. In real life when it comes to interacting with touchable people I tend to be a lot more reserved and will hold a lot of myself back until I know people better.
Remember the only person that can make us miserable is ourselves!
I find it easier to reveal parts of my psyche on here given the anonimity of the environment. In real life when it comes to interacting with touchable people I tend to be a lot more reserved and will hold a lot of myself back until I know people better.
Remember the only person that can make us miserable is ourselves!
I only care about the opinions of people who matter to me, of me.
They're the ones who know me, and they're the ones I care about. If someone has come to matter to me, I know they're not a fuckwit. That's not to say that anyone I don't care for is one, mind you.
In the same way, people I care nothing for don't have the ability to hurt me. I don't try to come across as anything I'm not. What would be the point? Take it or leave it, I am what I am. 99% nice, but with a Turbo Boost on my bitch switch. Fortunately, few people flick it these days - a result of either maturity or contentment with who I am I guess.
They're the ones who know me, and they're the ones I care about. If someone has come to matter to me, I know they're not a fuckwit. That's not to say that anyone I don't care for is one, mind you.
In the same way, people I care nothing for don't have the ability to hurt me. I don't try to come across as anything I'm not. What would be the point? Take it or leave it, I am what I am. 99% nice, but with a Turbo Boost on my bitch switch. Fortunately, few people flick it these days - a result of either maturity or contentment with who I am I guess.
There are very few people who have an opinion of me I care about.
I try to be a nice guy and I leave myself open to all sorts of abuse (not that sort!) but it only happens once per person and I get over it remarkably quickly, they don't get a second chance and immediately get added to the 'sod you' list regardless of what they may think of me afterwards.
I try to be a nice guy and I leave myself open to all sorts of abuse (not that sort!) but it only happens once per person and I get over it remarkably quickly, they don't get a second chance and immediately get added to the 'sod you' list regardless of what they may think of me afterwards.
