Just to add to the shrep debate - we have not got any for having sex just for chatting online.
It feels rather awkward when you have sex with people you meet at a swingers club and establish they have Swinging Heaven accounts. As you leave, it did not feel right asking a fella to add shrep if he enjoyed my missus!
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Quote by lilnfil
If there are no pictures we move on, if people with no pics contact us we explain our preference to them and wish them lots of fun, no pictures or pictures of close up body parts does nothing,
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Mids
Please have a look at our profile and see what you think :doh:
Can I ask......what would be wrong with folks verifying them selves on cam in chat?
We are quite happy to open a private room and both go on cam, which tbh......would be quicker to do than read your profile
We have spoken to MidsCouple24(Sasha) in chat, and would presume its the female of the couple, but never seen either of you on cam.........so how do we know its Sasha?
Your profile could mean as little as ours does.........if you're not genuine
And for the record, judging by your posts complaining you can't get meets, we have no problem getting them :thumbup:
Whats ya theory on that one
:lol:
Sex God
:laughabove::laughabove::laughabove:
maybe sasha's gonna answer it
maybe sasha's gonna answer it
Sex God
Quote by Lizaleanrob
:laughabove::laughabove::laughabove:
maybe sasha's gonna answer it
Nah, she doesn't use this site, remember?
Quote by Z_couple
I would like to add I the 'professional' aspect of this debate.
On our profile we have used the word 'professional' an stated that we would like to meet like minded people. This term has not been used to describe our educational/employment status or lack of! We have used the terms a a polite way to say - no chavs.
I (Mr Z) am happy to admit that I have working class root and do not associate education/employment status with class. There are plenty of rich chavs where I live. We used the 'professional' term or this reason and see it as the most appropriate and polite way to filter out chavs - regardless of background.
When we have met with other couples, they seemed to have appreciated using the professional term as it gives them confidence that we are not likely to be morons. I am therefore surprised it irks some people when our feedback for it has been positive.
And quite right that you should use the word if you want to, we are glad that you do as it means we can avoid meeting you, you like your kind of people we like ours and never should the twain meet as they say, why don't you say "no chavs" on your profile ? as you say many chavs are rich so putting that your professional is not going to put them off contacting you is it, many of them would have employment that some (mostly themselves) consider professional (or better than others) like footballers and a few of those chav wags, people who have made a killing in websites or anything else, the wealth does not the upbringing make.
I think personally that while it is your choice what you put you have just confirmed what many have said about those who use the word professional to describe themselves on thier profiles
Quote by MidsCouple24
When it comes to pictures we understand totally that some people cannot put identifiable pictures in thier public profile, I wonder why some don't put non-identifiable pics in there, faces/tattoos etc blotted out, full body shots from the rear, but each to thier own. for us pics are important, we do need to find people sexually attractive to make us feel we want to have sex with them, we understand that for many this kind of attraction is not important whatsoever, for others it is the penis size, or the age and so on.
If there are no pictures we move on, if people with no pics contact us we explain our preference to them and wish them lots of fun, no pictures or pictures of close up body parts does nothing, the only time we find it annoying is when we do explain but they come back to us saying "we do have pictures" we check again only to find they are group fun pictures and you don't know who is who or which man and woman you would actually be meeting or they are just close up pussies n cocks.
Can I ask ? does any man on here arrange a meet JUST BECAUSE he likes the look of a womans pussy whne she has a close up picture with her legs open ? or do there need to be other factors involved, (yes I know the size of some willies does attract some women which is why I ask the men only).
a lot of guy's do decide on pussy or body pic's. i agree that a lot should depend on personality etc, but when was the last time any guy actually looked across a room and thought " wow, she looks like she's got a nice personality " and i do mean any guy in normal life as we , hopefully, know when it is not going to work or not. a lot of single guy's are just hoping to get lucky. that is why we like a pub meet
Quote by lilnfil
If there are no pictures we move on, if people with no pics contact us we explain our preference to them and wish them lots of fun, no pictures or pictures of close up body parts does nothing,
.
Mids
Please have a look at our profile and see what you think :doh:
Can I ask......what would be wrong with folks verifying them selves on cam in chat?
We are quite happy to open a private room and both go on cam, which tbh......would be quicker to do than read your profile
We have spoken to MidsCouple24(Sasha) in chat, and would presume its the female of the couple, but never seen either of you on cam.........so how do we know its Sasha?
Your profile could mean as little as ours does.........if you're not genuine
And for the record, judging by your posts complaining you can't get meets, we have no problem getting them :thumbup:
Whats ya theory on that one
:lol:
we have savvy kids who may break into our to verify via phone etc. should we leave photo's laying around for the boy's to see?. face pics on request only for us. not cos we don't trust you, but!
Sex God
Quote by NEEDFORFUN
we have savvy kids who may break into our account.
If your kids hack into your account they will see your pics anyway, because they are stored on your account! So what difference does it make whether your face is there or not?
Quote by NEEDFORFUN
happy to verify via phone etc.
Is that because your savvy kids can operate and hack computers, but don't know how to use a mobile phone?
Quote by NEEDFORFUNIf they are hacking your account they can see everything anyway. Think about just how much of the sexual world can be seen on this site.
should we leave photo's laying around for the boy's to see?.
Quote by NEEDFORFUN
face pics on request only for us. not cos we don't trust you, but!
Thats understandable and we feel the same, however we dont have the worry that our kids are hacking our account. incidentally is it the parents or the kids that we have quoted?
Warming the Bed
Lack of info on a profile but lots cock/pussy shots, just make me pass by.
Along with the 50 pics of the car/bike, the car in the sun, the car in the rain, lying on the car, opening the car door,
what is that about? Am I supposed to suck off the exhaust pipe?
As for pics, as mentioned by others, my face isn't shown as I could lose my job!
Yes I guess by definitions on here I am a professional, got the piece of paper with BA (hons) to prove it, after leaving a council estate secondary comp with out a single qualification.
Do I like opera? NO
Do I like fine wine? wouldn't know a good one from a lambrusco,
Classical Music? Give me a bit of soul please!!!
But I am surprised that no one has pointed out that the oldest profession in the world,
is about sex and therefore not a bad profession for this site, it certainly would constitute having the right skills and talents, so would this particular profession in mind I shall now call myself a 'professional', and my pay for the job in hand? 1/2 a lager and lime please!
Along with the 50 pics of the car/bike, the car in the sun, the car in the rain, lying on the car, opening the car door,
what is that about? Am I supposed to suck off the exhaust pipe?
As for pics, as mentioned by others, my face isn't shown as I could lose my job!
Yes I guess by definitions on here I am a professional, got the piece of paper with BA (hons) to prove it, after leaving a council estate secondary comp with out a single qualification.
Do I like opera? NO
Do I like fine wine? wouldn't know a good one from a lambrusco,
Classical Music? Give me a bit of soul please!!!
But I am surprised that no one has pointed out that the oldest profession in the world,
is about sex and therefore not a bad profession for this site, it certainly would constitute having the right skills and talents, so would this particular profession in mind I shall now call myself a 'professional', and my pay for the job in hand?
1/2 a lager and lime please! Sex God
Good job LilnFil are patient!
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Good job LilnFil are patient!
a stern answer is no reply .............or is it no reply is a stern answer
Sex God
well im sure what ever u guys put on yr profiles must work....or u would of changed them....
Sorry everyone (who gives a toss) for not replying sooner, we have not been on the site for a week or so.
How can it have been Sasha you spoke to, when Mids clearly states in his signature that Sasha does not use this site?
Sorry everyone (who gives a toss) for not replying sooner, we have not been on the site for a week or so,
Quote by Freckledbird
We have spoken to MidsCouple24(Sasha) in chat, and would presume its the female of the couple, but never seen either of you on cam.........so how do we know its Sasha?
You don't, but personally, we take things as we see them when chatting, we don't cyber, we don't send or accept pictures, we don't discuss intimate details of how we like our meets to go etc, we just chat in general, so not a lot to be gained from deciept, Sasha will ALWAYS chat on the phone to prove it is her and ALWAYS chat on the phone there and then, not hours or days later, so if anyone does want her to confirm her identity when in the chatroom she will do so there and then on request by phoning you or by allowing you to phone her. This is all part of the various techniques we think people should use to verify people they feel they want to verify, cams, phones, shrep, friends are some of the ways that this can be done and each person should use thier own preferred system.
Sasha has started using the chatrooms a little, I still prefer the forums, so 99% of the time it will be her in the chatrooms, me in the forums and occasionally both of us int he chatrooms. I will amend our signature block accordingly
If anyone does doubt that we are a couple just mail us and we will be happy to verify by telephone at anytime with BOTH of us on the line.
Other ways we can be verified is by finding us on other sites where we have many verifications under our usual user name of JednSasha.
We also visit Atlantis most weekends and the owners there would be happy to verify us, as would the staff at Chameleons where I worked for many years and where Sasha and I met when I did work there. But in short, if she is speaking to you in the chatroom she is also available to confirm it is her on the phone there and then.
Your profile could mean as little as ours does.........if you're not genuine
And for the record, judging by your posts complaining you can't get meets, we have no problem getting them :thumbup:
Whats ya theory on that one
How can it have been Sasha you spoke to, when Mids clearly states in his signature that Sasha does not use this site?
Quote by MidsCouple24
I may not support your views or opinions but I do support your right to have them and state them, neither do I insist that you ever agree with any views or opinions I have. (Jed because Sasha does not use this site)
Sorry everyone (who gives a toss) for not replying sooner, we have not been on the site for a week or so,
Sexpert
There's a fundamental confusion in semantics here.
The term "a professional", used in a general sense refers to a learned (pr. lur ned) profession, such as law, engineering, architecture, pharmacy, medicine etc etc and usually implies at least a first degree enhanced with further professional qualifications and experience. As such it is a noun. It makes no statement or judgement on one's material standard of living
The term "professional", when applied to a vocation, trade, line of work etc, is an adjective which qualifies the subject of the phrase, denoting that one plies that trade or vocation etc, for money. E.g a professional athlete (as opposed to an amateur).
The term "professionally" is an adverb qualifying the verb of plying one's trade, vocation etc, and denotes a standard to which that activity has been carried out.
Confusion often arises when, for example, talking about footballers, one might say "he's a professional". In that context, the word "professional" is being used as an adjective and denotes that this activity is pursued for monetary reward, the noun "footballer" is implied from the context.
English is a difficult language and is often poorly taught in schools.
Many people describing themselves as "professionals" using it as a noun, often are not professionals at all. Though it's perfectly correct to describe oneself as a professional (adjective) refuse collector, if that is one's job.
I find it highly amusing when people use the term "professional" as a noun, implying a certain level of academic and vocational achievement, but they spell it incorrectly.
We don't discriminate based on the use of this term when correctly applied and spelt, nor do we discriminate against those who do not see themselves as such.
Like all of us, there are certain types of people we have more in common with than others, and thus choose these as play partners and/or friends. Being a professional or otherwise, is by no means the only criterion we use in assessing compatibility with potential play partners.
The term "a professional", used in a general sense refers to a learned (pr. lur ned) profession, such as law, engineering, architecture, pharmacy, medicine etc etc and usually implies at least a first degree enhanced with further professional qualifications and experience. As such it is a noun. It makes no statement or judgement on one's material standard of living
The term "professional", when applied to a vocation, trade, line of work etc, is an adjective which qualifies the subject of the phrase, denoting that one plies that trade or vocation etc, for money. E.g a professional athlete (as opposed to an amateur).
The term "professionally" is an adverb qualifying the verb of plying one's trade, vocation etc, and denotes a standard to which that activity has been carried out.
Confusion often arises when, for example, talking about footballers, one might say "he's a professional". In that context, the word "professional" is being used as an adjective and denotes that this activity is pursued for monetary reward, the noun "footballer" is implied from the context.
English is a difficult language and is often poorly taught in schools.
Many people describing themselves as "professionals" using it as a noun, often are not professionals at all. Though it's perfectly correct to describe oneself as a professional (adjective) refuse collector, if that is one's job.
I find it highly amusing when people use the term "professional" as a noun, implying a certain level of academic and vocational achievement, but they spell it incorrectly.
We don't discriminate based on the use of this term when correctly applied and spelt, nor do we discriminate against those who do not see themselves as such.
Like all of us, there are certain types of people we have more in common with than others, and thus choose these as play partners and/or friends. Being a professional or otherwise, is by no means the only criterion we use in assessing compatibility with potential play partners.
