As Swingers we really love keeping company with other swingers socially as well as sexually. How brilliant is it to be able to talk about anything and everything with people who swing and know what the score is. also think it spills into other areas of conversation too. I guess one drawback is that, and I hate to admit it, but I'd prefer to seek out the company of swingers more so than those who aren't. Is that bad?
In fact I's say that our bestest buddies are people we've met through swinging and even though we mat not do the do with them or may of started off doing the do with them, and the fact that we love their company socially, means that even though we don't swing with them anymore, or so much at least, we still seek their company and cherish their friendship more than ever we though could happen.
At first when we started out about seven years ago we knew that swinging could possibly become complicated and give stresses and strains where there were none before but we we're at the very least secure with each other. What we didn't expect is swinging to change the rest of the world we lived in, The people the places the things we do and who we do them with. all to the good I might add.
Agree to a degree. Going to socials is great knowing your in similar company and we for the most part like the people we meet. Though in general we have found other swingers too unreliable or to busy to form long standing firm friendships with. In the whole time we have been here have only had one couple round for a one to one non play purely social event. There are lots of people who are great to see at the next event but that seems to be about as far as it goes. Its not all one way though, guess we have jobs kids life to be worked around as well. Therefore virtually all of our best friends remain non swingers who dont even know what we do :neutral:
We have made some fantastic friends through swinging, some of them we have really hit it off with as friends even though we have never played.
We have been out for the day with swinging friends (sometimes with the kids too), there are certain people who I can invite myself round to for a brew when I'm stuck in traffic jams or just passing on my travels, etc.
I cant say that I prefer swinging friends to vanilla ones or vice-versa although it is nice to have friends that you can be totally honest and open with. What I can say is that there are some lovely people who choose to live this lifestyle and I feel honoured to call some of them my friends.
There is something about swingers. I think is that we can just relax. Also, very few swingers have anything to do with my other life so that helps.
I have one friend I see every now and again, I look forward to meeting her, but I know we will never play. Many have cum and gone in an evenning, some have cum back for more.
One, I can not call a friend but when we are together I feel free to say anything to her, and free to explore anything. We are both rather dirty.
Travis
I meet relatively few swingers generally, but I have one very close friend whom I met here some years back, and I have another friend whom I meet frequently, usually for a drink or for lunch. I enjoy their company very much, but I can't say that I enjoy it more than being with non swingers. In fact being in the company of swingers whom I've never met doesn't cause me to feel I'm amongst friends.
To the best of my knowledge few of the many people I have sex with are swingers; this isn't confirmed but I suspect most of having a partner who doesn't know of their activities. What I do find is that having someone close enough to be able to talk to can be important. I have this, to some degree, with a regular sex partner. Many of you have a partner to share with, and that's good. Nice people are everywhere and we should make the most of opportunities to make real friends, even if they have strange hobbies. If I consider that I would introduce them to my family then they can be my friend.
I don't have swinging friends, hobby friends or work friends, I just have friends, how or where I met them is immaterial. I don't see the point in pigeonholing them or labelling them as defined by which scene or circle I move in. People are either friends or aquaintances, that's as simple as it gets for me.
Know what your saying about pigeonholing and labeling Essex, and for the most part I agree, although there has to be some sort of distinctions made in some areas of life so as to be able to know how to approach people and situations in an appropriate way.
We definitely approach swingers in a different way to our non swinging friends but how we do can vary very much, obviously as people and attitudes and vales they and we hold vary greatly. For instance. My oldest and closest pal is a church minister so to be too open to him would not be fair on either of us yet I value his friendship massively. He would be appalled at what we do so I label him as a non-swinger, seems a fair label to me lol. It is difficult though as I'd love to share that part of our lives with him but i'm not going to compromise his position and our friendship
I agree with Lost tons here and I know why.
Its simple, I can be 'me' when with the people I have met here.
Within reason I don't have to worry what I say, how I act or what I do.
For want of a better term, I think swingers are more fun and less judgemental. More accepting than vanilla's and I think they are more approachable.
But if you do not "pigeon hole" them as has been said how do you act when around different types of friends.
When in the company of other swingers I don't have to be guarded in what I say as much, ie I can happily say that we went to Atlantis or Chameleons last week, or that we met some great new friends without having to think of a place we met them that is not swinger related.
I am sat here now in my boxers, chilling out and watching TV, if my swinging friends pop round for a cuppa I stay the way I am, if not swinging friends were to pop round I would have to dress before opening the door.
Most may not want to pigeon hole people, but most will find that they have to.
As for social swinging friends, we have quite a few that "pop in" for a social time, there is MnD who we have known for years, they live close by and we meet up at least once a week to socialise, go for a meal, play on the Wii or watch movies with, we play with them around once a year, the rest of the time is purely social, there are a number of single fems who pop in for a drink or stay over here and sometimes we play sometimes we don't, there are quite a few friends who come and stay over when they are going to Atlantis as we have 3 guest rooms and are just a few minutes from the club, they are not coming to play with us and we rarely do play with them but we are happy to have them stay, it is always a good laugh and it is nice to be able to help them when they are going to the club, we have one such couple coming next Saturday, known them for years, will not be playing with them but will enjoy thier company.
That does not mean what we do is right for anyone else, swinging is what you want it to be not what others want, you will always find people who like it the same way you do.
It is fun socialising with swingers. Play golf with one guy. Good way to put him off his swing ( pun intended) is to tell him what I'd like to do to his wife at the appropriate moment lol
I have to say that when I'm away on business I find my SH friends good virtual roomies! Since joing the site I have learnt so much by just logging in and chatting with couples and have often discussed my fantasies with complete strangers which I have to say is a bit of a turn on. My "regular" friends do not know I am on this site or looking into this lifestyle so it's great to be able to talk to likeminded people and I have also found recently that other couples have the same life whereby hubby or wife is away on business and we are now making so many friends here that I plan to meet some whilst away on business not for naughty fun, but just for a beer and a laugh!
Mr Livelife
We have enjoyed our time on SH. We have had some great social times because of it, in fact way more than actual sexual meets!
yes, we know we are restricted by only looking for single males!
The best part of it is feeling relaxed. Before we moved to Devon from Scotland we found out that our neighbours were swingers. we were on cam at the time that we found out and our reaction was priceless I'm sure. However the next few weeks were an absolute dream and although nothing sexual ever happened it was such a great feeling just to be freeof the normal shackles.
I'll get me coat 
