Kiss &amp; Tell?

26 Jul 2008

Appologies if this has been done before. I did a search but couldn't find anything.
I had words with somebody earlier in the chatroom because he came in telling everybody about his meet last night and naming the people who was there. None of these people were in chat at the time so could not speak for themselves. I told him I didn't agree with him naming who the people was and asked where is "Discretion"!! Where he got on his high one and said that they were naming who was there in the chatroom last night so it was all ok. I still didn't agree with this and regarless of them naming it last night, the other parties today, might not want everybody to know there buisness!!
A few people agreed with me... but he got very shirty!! Anyhow, it got a bit heated and i was told off another member to no be so "frigid"!! confused

: Anyhow..We sorted it out between ourselves and he appologised, all is ok now.
My point of this thread is... How would you feel to somebody discussing your private buisness? Would you mind or would you get quite annoyed about it? Would u Kiss and Tell to an open chatroom??
Your thoughts please.
Lil xx

26 Jul 2008

I don't use the chatrooms very much at all, but David used to quite a lot - and this was one of his biggest gripes. confused

Over and over again, people would be in the room, divulging details of a meet, names and details that is. He barely ventures in the chatrooms now sad

Having said that tho, from my experience it hasn't been restricted to chatrooms :?
Even worse, when people go on and on and on about discretion, then complain about others, when they're doing it in trumps themselves :shock: double standards evil

I'm not talking about people that accidently say a snippet when talking to their friends, then quickly realise and don't say any more, it happens and it's often something vague. It's the people that deliberately give so much detail of meets..... why :confused:
Even if you have permission to speak of meet details, you still don't know what details are ok and what aren't. I mean if it was a fabulous horny bluddy good time occasion........ but one of em farted in the heat of the moment, did they give permission for that bit to be mentioned :? :? :?
Dodgy ground, and shouldn't be done I say :?

26 Jul 2008

Lilmiss, I think you are spot on in what you have said. Swinging is supposedly about discretion and trust and if someone actually thinks it is ok to talk about thier exploits in an open chatroom, then personally, I hope they never get another meet from this site (they certainly dont descerve to get them.

Quote by Missy
It's the people that deliberately give so much detail of meets..... why :confused:

Its probably the only way some people can get verified :roll:

26 Jul 2008

if we found out some one was discussing what we had done the neet before we wouldnt ever meet them again even if it was the best meet we had ever had,some ppl just dont know the meaning of discretion and seem to think bragging bout it is gona bring on more meets sad really that they feel the need to tell every one.

26 Jul 2008

This is a crucial point for me, if things go that far between me and anyone I want it to be private.
I think it's ok to say you've done things but not to be specific about names and locations.

26 Jul 2008

There used to be a couple who were members here (not sure of their names or if they are still members) but they positively encouraged the males they met to tell everything about it....
Each to their own I suppose...

26 Jul 2008

Not using chat rooms, I can only say that I would not like to be talked about in such a manner anywhere. Not without my permission any way and I do not talk about others in such a manner. Then again some just consider me to be uptight and square!

26 Jul 2008

Some people like to let others know their business, sometimes to the point of displaying their meets on cam. Some are more private. As long as all parties are happy for everyone to know who and when they meet I don't have a problem, but if it's just one half of the equation saying "Oh I met xxxxx last night" I consider that totally out of order.

26 Jul 2008

Quote by
Not using chat rooms, I can only say that I would not like to be talked about in such a manner anywhere. Not without my permission any way and I do not talk about others in such a manner. Then again some just consider me to be uptight and square!

you are certainly not on this subject....
I think I would be horrified if someone was doing that without my knowledge.... it would be like part of me was violated......
we all have a go at newspapers when they do it... the latest "club expose" so to speak..... so why should people do what amounts to the same thing....

26 Jul 2008

Quote by fabio
Not using chat rooms, I can only say that I would not like to be talked about in such a manner anywhere. Not without my permission any way and I do not talk about others in such a manner. Then again some just consider me to be uptight and square!

you are certainly not on this subject....
.... ...but some do not know me nearly as well as they think, long may it remain so.

26 Jul 2008

Quote by Lilmiss
Appologies if this has been done before. I did a search but couldn't find anything.
I had words with somebody earlier in the chatroom because he came in telling everybody about his meet last night and naming the people who was there. None of these people were in chat at the time so could not speak for themselves. I told him I didn't agree with him naming who the people was and asked where is "Discretion"!! Where he got on his high one and said that they were naming who was there in the chatroom last night so it was all ok. I still didn't agree with this and regarless of them naming it last night, the other parties today, might not want everybody to know there buisness!!
A few people agreed with me... but he got very shirty!! Anyhow, it got a bit heated and i was told off another member to no be so "frigid"!! : Anyhow..We sorted it out between ourselves and he appologised, all is ok now.
My point of this thread is... How would you feel to somebody discussing your private buisness? Would you mind or would you get quite annoyed about it? Would u Kiss and Tell to an open chatroom??
Your thoughts please.
Lil xx

When we meet people IF we play we always say it stays between the parties involved. The same if any pics are taken.
If the other person or persons then went against that and was telling others in an open chat room and naming us, I would def have the right hump and would expect admin to check the logs and take the appropriate action, whatever that may be.
But of course there are some that dont bother about who they tell...naughty. lol

26 Jul 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Lilmiss, I think you are spot on in what you have said. Swinging is supposedly about discretion and trust and if someone actually thinks it is ok to talk about thier exploits in an open chatroom, then personally, I hope they never get another meet from this site (they certainly dont descerve to get them.

It's the people that deliberately give so much detail of meets..... why :confused:

Its probably the only way some people can get verified :roll:
Hehe - my thought exactly! rotflmao

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27 Jul 2008

lil this is one of mine and allens biggest gripes is that people ask who u played with etc when it aint none of their business people on the scene should be discreet and we must admit we have turned down people who have told others about meets we have had with them

27 Jul 2008

I would never tell anyone what I'd done with another couple, and I would demand the same respect back with me.
There are people I'm sure who aren't quite as nice as I am though sad

27 Jul 2008

There is no place for name dropping in a chat room, certainly not in the open so all can see. I'm glad you commented on it while he did it.