oops,just posted message on lets meet up-should have been on here-i had arranged a meet lastweek to meet this week(she shall remain nameless)we exchanged e mails, yesterday made some nonsensical ramblings she had obviously changed her mind,fair enough-but why waste both our times?and why not be honest?i shall still continue with this site as i think it has witty and interesting threads and is good fun!
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let down
hun it happens to us all at one time or another.
I've been stood at the door in basque stockings and high heels after arranging to meet a guy who 5 minutes previously had called me to say he was on his way actually driving to my place after weeks of chit chat and flirting in the room. He never showed. 3 weeks later i got an email saying " Sorry i lost my bottle".
Kinda puts you off even trying again....
.xX Joanne Xx.
P.S. Only kinda puts you off
the next guy wont get away from me so easy.
I've been stood at the door in basque stockings and high heels after arranging to meet a guy who 5 minutes previously had called me to say he was on his way actually driving to my place after weeks of chit chat and flirting in the room. He never showed. 3 weeks later i got an email saying " Sorry i lost my bottle".
Kinda puts you off even trying again....
.xX Joanne Xx.
P.S. Only kinda puts you off
the next guy wont get away from me so easy. That someone cancells doesn't make them a time waster. As Libra says above there may have been good reason. Of course we don't know the details of the conversations you had with the person you arranged to meet though. There are a million and one reasons someone might cancel, doesn't mean they are not genuine.
Quote by Jewcy_Joanneknow what you mean-he must be mad tho,i wouldnt bottle it!
hun it happens to us all at one time or another.
I've been stood at the door in basque stockings and high heels after arranging to meet a guy who 5 minutes previously had called me to say he was on his way actually driving to my place after weeks of chit chat and flirting in the room. He never showed. 3 weeks later i got an email saying " Sorry i lost my bottle".
Kinda puts you off even trying again....
.xX Joanne Xx.
Some like to do the talk and the whole idea is a great turn on for em and when the opportunity actually arises... they find that the fantasy is much more exciting than the real thing.....
On the other side i've promised to goto Partners on a particular night ( not to play ) and when the night's arrived I'm not in the mood for i dont.
The main thing is that you let the person/s know... I'd rather have a call the day before saying " blah blah it aitn gonna happen" than have what happened to me.
If I ever see him uwwwwwwwwwe
On the other side i've promised to goto Partners on a particular night ( not to play ) and when the night's arrived I'm not in the mood for i dont.
The main thing is that you let the person/s know... I'd rather have a call the day before saying " blah blah it aitn gonna happen" than have what happened to me.
If I ever see him uwwwwwwwwwe
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oops,just posted message on lets meet up-should have been on here-i had arranged a meet lastweek to meet this week(she shall remain nameless)we exchanged e mails, yesterday made some nonsensical ramblings she had obviously changed her mind,fair enough-but why waste both our times?and why not be honest?i shall still continue with this site as i think it has witty and interesting threads and is good fun!
At least she let you know - she wasn't taking the piss, leading you on a wild goose chase, letting you arrive at the meeting place and not bothered to turn up herself. She done the polite thing and called to say the meet was off - it doesn't matter what the excuse was, whether there was an actual reason, or even if she just felt uncomfortable........ Fraid to say it just happens like that ............. and it's ok.
Would you have preferred her to meet up if she wasn't totally comfortable?
I would only ever meet up with people that I KNEW would understand me backing out of anything, whether before a meet, or even at any point during a meet. Put the boot on the other foot and you were not comfortable with a situation, you too would want understanding and the ability to back out with no bad feeling.
Continue with the site, have fun, enjoy it - and the right thing will happen at the right time for you and the other party.
hi
we had a meet much like you scandle
pics we got shown were 10 years younger than when they showed up it was gastley
but things like this happens .
you just get on your bike and try again .
we do ask this question now before we meet .
good luck hope everything turns out for you all :lol: :lol: :lol:
lots of love
jaky xxxxx
we had a meet much like you scandle
pics we got shown were 10 years younger than when they showed up it was gastley
but things like this happens .
you just get on your bike and try again .
we do ask this question now before we meet .
good luck hope everything turns out for you all
:lol: :lol: :lol: lots of love
jaky xxxxx
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oops,just posted message on lets meet up-should have been on here-i had arranged a meet lastweek to meet this week(she shall remain nameless)we exchanged e mails, yesterday made some nonsensical ramblings she had obviously changed her mind,fair enough-but why waste both our times?and why not be honest?i shall still continue with this site as i think it has witty and interesting threads and is good fun!
At least she let you know - she wasn't taking the piss, leading you on a wild goose chase, letting you arrive at the meeting place and not bothered to turn up herself. She done the polite thing and called to say the meet was off - it doesn't matter what the excuse was, whether there was an actual reason, or even if she just felt uncomfortable........ Fraid to say it just happens like that ............. and it's ok.
Would you have preferred her to meet up if she wasn't totally comfortable? can see your point,tho she did not tell me,i read signals that it would not happen-but only needed telling once and she didnt do that-will be more cautius next time tho
I would only ever meet up with people that I KNEW would understand me backing out of anything, whether before a meet, or even at any point during a meet. Put the boot on the other foot and you were not comfortable with a situation, you too would want understanding and the ability to back out with no bad feeling.
Continue with the site, have fun, enjoy it - and the right thing will happen at the right time for you and the other party.
this happens many, many times, but i look at it this way, for every 10 let downs, there is always 1 meeting, never go with expectations, and you will never be dissapointed. and the people i have met, have been some of the best people i have ever met, and strong friendships have been formed, the ones who let me down??? well if we dont arrange another meet, then thats fine, life goes on.....dont get bitter and twisted, put it down to experiance, and carry on...it was just not meant to be.
god i sound like an agony aunt
god i sound like an agony aunt
just seen your profile as well Jewcy_Joanne, definatly his loss although i would still be pissed off if i was in your posistion!
i havnt had the experiance of even meeting some one yet, but if/when i do i know i will not bottle it. And if they bottle it, cant make it for some reason, if they tell me before the planned date then i cant see what the problem is
i havnt had the experiance of even meeting some one yet, but if/when i do i know i will not bottle it. And if they bottle it, cant make it for some reason, if they tell me before the planned date then i cant see what the problem is
this happens many, many times, but i look at it this way, for every 10 let downs, there is always 1 meeting, never go with expectations, and you will never be dissapointed. and the people i have met, have been some of the best people i have ever met, and strong friendships have been formed, the ones who let me down??? well if we dont arrange another meet, then thats fine, life goes on.....dont get bitter and twisted, put it down to experiance, and carry on...it was just not meant to be.
good advice!!!!!!
Of course your feeling let down and dissapointed . Your probably also wondering if you did something wrong, but chances are the other party just changed her mind or had it changed for her, she was probably even more nervous than you.
Unfortunately it happens all the time to all of us its almost part of the game!!. You have to move on and forget the experience. There is still a chance she may come back to you and tell you the real reason for her bottleing out.
however dont waste time brooding on the experience, look forward not backwar. Some things are meant to be some arnt.
Better look next time
Unfortunately it happens all the time to all of us its almost part of the game!!. You have to move on and forget the experience. There is still a chance she may come back to you and tell you the real reason for her bottleing out.
however dont waste time brooding on the experience, look forward not backwar. Some things are meant to be some arnt.
Better look next time
Quote by foxylady 123update,we sorted it out and we are going to try again,she explained fully and i understood fully,so no harm done,al
Of course your feeling let down and dissapointed . Your probably also wondering if you did something wrong, but chances are the other party just changed her mind or had it changed for her, she was probably even more nervous than you.
Unfortunately it happens all the time to all of us its almost part of the game!!. You have to move on and forget the experience. There is still a chance she may come back to you and tell you the real reason for her bottleing out.
however dont waste time brooding on the experience, look forward not backwar. Some things are meant to be some arnt.
Better look next time
Orgasminator
we,ve had meets arranged in the past ,and the guy has been so keen and phoned to say he was still coming and we,ve got to the hotel and guess what ...he did,nt show 
he contacted us again a month later inviting us to his house and a an excuse for not turning up , and as you say shit happens so we gave him another chance and went to his house and a good time was had by all but we,ve chatted to guy,s for weeks who seem pretty keen but nothing comes of it , it,s a case of wether or not you,ve got the bottle. we met with a guy for a drink the other week and he was VERY keen ...we nearly ended up going to a field somewhere but restrained ourselves he said he would arrange a hotel for us to meet and we agreed to go halves ...and we never heard from him since 
i,m sure it,s not me 
he contacted us again a month later inviting us to his house and a an excuse for not turning up , and as you say shit happens so we gave him another chance and went to his house and a good time was had by all but we,ve chatted to guy,s for weeks who seem pretty keen but nothing comes of it , it,s a case of wether or not you,ve got the bottle. we met with a guy for a drink the other week and he was VERY keen ...we nearly ended up going to a field somewhere but restrained ourselves he said he would arrange a hotel for us to meet and we agreed to go halves ...and we never heard from him since i,m sure it,s not me ajg & others,
Shit happens! I've let down quite a few times, & yes, it does put me off the whole thing.
Also people who tell you to your face that Yes, they would love to meet you for some fun, but then you phone them, email them & what do you get but lack of interest. Why not just be straight with people, rather than keep stringing them along?
The other night I was talking to a lady who I have not yet met, but have known "online" for some months. She was angry about having met a bloke who she says used her & "got what he wanted". He sounds a right sh*t, but as I said to her "what did you meet him for, when you could have met me?"
I also have a little challenge going at the moment, which is not to get a date or a shag with a woman.......................... but simply to find someone who will RING ME when she wants to cancel a date, instead of my finding out by chance when I ring her. :x
Shit happens! I've let down quite a few times, & yes, it does put me off the whole thing.
Also people who tell you to your face that Yes, they would love to meet you for some fun, but then you phone them, email them & what do you get but lack of interest. Why not just be straight with people, rather than keep stringing them along?
The other night I was talking to a lady who I have not yet met, but have known "online" for some months. She was angry about having met a bloke who she says used her & "got what he wanted". He sounds a right sh*t, but as I said to her "what did you meet him for, when you could have met me?"
I also have a little challenge going at the moment, which is not to get a date or a shag with a woman.......................... but simply to find someone who will RING ME when she wants to cancel a date, instead of my finding out by chance when I ring her.
:x 