Listening to Lily Allen's song I asked my wife, "Do you want me to call you 15 times a day?"
The answer came back, "No"
So what do you think?
Is it a sign of caring, or insecurity?...or may be control?
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Lily Allen, 15 times a day, would you, could you, have you..
ooo now this is an interesting one, and thinking back to previous relationships, i'd say it could b all 3 depening on the person.
The result would be the same though, i'd feel trapped, hemmed in, and even if it was done in the caring sence, eventually I know I would start to feel untrusted.
A txt, phone call every now and again, saying 'love you' etc means so much more.
The result would be the same though, i'd feel trapped, hemmed in, and even if it was done in the caring sence, eventually I know I would start to feel untrusted.
A txt, phone call every now and again, saying 'love you' etc means so much more.
We speak to each other a fair few times during the day, we ring each other once or twice (but usually for a reason not just to chat) and we often send "love ya" texts or emails. I can't say it's all the time though, some days we rarely speak lol
It's not about trust for us though (or lack of) it's more a "thinking of you" type thing for us.
It's not about trust for us though (or lack of) it's more a "thinking of you" type thing for us.
Sex God
15 times a day from the same person, would drive me nuts, and make me feel like I am being checked up on.
However, if they were texts then I could read those when I had free time at work, and reply when I was ready.
However, if they were texts then I could read those when I had free time at work, and reply when I was ready.
Sex God
My wife would kill me if I called her 15 times a day... I think in the first flushes of exhuberant love you do tend to speak a lot of...erm... fluff to each other. But over time pragmatism kicks in and you tend to keep things down to a minimum, though it's always nice to get an "I love you" or "You're damn sexy" message as opposed to "Can you check the dog hasn't vomited in your sock drawer again" messages that tend to be the norm after many years of being shackled together.
Ian and I call or text each other almost that much if he isn't in the office 
I am not insecure, far from it. I tell him I love him, can he get a loaf of bread on the way home or ask how his meeting went. Ian was in a different office but in the same building as me today and I still text him once :lol2:
Ian sometimes texts comments such as 'nice ass' when I am walking down the office. We have a laugh with it and send rudey stuff when I know he has people at his desk.
I guess we offer support for work and have a hell of a laugh at other times :thumbup:
I am not insecure, far from it. I tell him I love him, can he get a loaf of bread on the way home or ask how his meeting went. Ian was in a different office but in the same building as me today and I still text him once :lol2:
Ian sometimes texts comments such as 'nice ass' when I am walking down the office. We have a laugh with it and send rudey stuff when I know he has people at his desk.
I guess we offer support for work and have a hell of a laugh at other times :thumbup:
Sex God
Depends on the situation: fifteen smutty, horny, promising little chats to build up a bit of sexual tension during the day, maybe. But fifteen controlling where are you/who are you with/what are you doing tupe of chats or texts a day and no, I'm outta there.
Sex God
I'd like to make Lily scream 
:lickface:
:lickface: 
Sex God
I never wanted a mobile phone - couldn't imagine a reason to have one in my normal life. My husband (at the time) insisted I get one. Then every time I was out in town or whatever - would ring me asking why I needed to be out so long and when I was coming back.
That was controlling. He used my mobile - which I was paying for by the way - as a leash. I LOATHED that and stopped answering or responding to texts while I was out - and then he got really narked.
So it's not the number of calls, it's the intent behind them.
That was controlling. He used my mobile - which I was paying for by the way - as a leash. I LOATHED that and stopped answering or responding to texts while I was out - and then he got really narked.
So it's not the number of calls, it's the intent behind them.
