Looking Back

10 Oct 2007

Looking back to before you started swinging, do you think you always had the mindset to be a swinger?
For example, even before I met Joe I loved the attention that men gave me ( maybe a little too much redface

)
Im not saying that I went around shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry, because I certainly did not, but I realise now how open minded about sex I was even at an early age ( by early I mean 17+) and now I think back, I was probably always destined to join this lifestyle, or something similar.
What did you think about swinging before you became interested in it?
Were you an open minded about sex type of person before you were introduced/started swinging?
Were you a bit scared/put off/worried/not turned on by the thought of swinging until you tried it?
Louise xx

10 Oct 2007

Just breifly (thank goodness) I was a tad troubled when younger by a slightly kinky edge... having no real idea where it came from or what indeed to do with it. Imust have caught the occassional kinky image in a magazine or somewhere.. fueling the fire.. for some strange reason I had the impression it was very Europian and for the beautiful people so inaccessable to myself.
and swinging/recreational sex?... well... again a feeling of seperation prevented any early exploration.. perhaps class? It was yet another {i]beatiful people passtime? I really don't know.
I always seemed open to discussions of sex and perversion.. and strangely appeared to know more than my peers when young, though had practiced not at all... odd that.
then came the internet, and all hope was lost!
lp

10 Oct 2007

Good topic Missus wink

Tough one for me though, but putting things down chronologically might be the best way.
May 1989, when I was 15 I lost my virginity, outdoors, to a guy I "loved" at the time. It was a few days before I turned 16.
He'd dumped me by my 16th rolleyes

Within a couple of weeks, my best friend and I pulled a couple of scottish guys. Neither of them were very tall- but as she was taller than me, she shotgunned the tallest lol

Within a couple of days, after some heavy petting with "my" one, his mate orchestrated a "switch" of partners, which I was happy with. I slept with the "new" one a couple of times- they were sharing a tiny caravan....and guess what? I was naive enough to believe that his mate wasn't going to look through the curtains on his bunk when we were at it redface

Between May & August, I'd gone through 6 sexual partners-Mr W was #6.
I met him when I was going out with his best mate (as a favour to my mate.)
This guy was only seeing me for sex- I was seeing him as a favour, and as he had a car- he was daft enough to be giving me lifts to me ex's :roll:
The night Mr W arrived for a weeks visit, my BF- his mate, suggested a threesome. I was horrified & told him to piss off. As the evening wore on, I started to fancy Mr W- he was a challenge.
One bottle of Bacardi later- we were at it like rabbits on the lounge floor. Mr W and I started seeing eachother on the QT. I spent a week trying to get his mate to dump me, so that he felt better about things.
Eventually, he did- and we started seeing eachother w was making comments about his kinky side from the very start, and the rest as they say is history.
On the one hand, the stuff I did before settling down (in a very short period) could be described as promiscuity- pure & simple.
On the other hand, it's not til you look at in in black & white you see that all the elements were there already, maybe. dunno

10 Oct 2007

To be honest, we'd not really heard of swinging before we started looking. The initial thoughts came from us talking one evening about how we wondered what sex would be like with other people (we were trying to remember sex with others before we met). I was also very bi-curious and had been for some years.
I was brought up by parents who were only young and I think the fact that they had a young outlook, would have been a huge influence. My sisters and me were always able to be very open with both parents. MrFB's parents were considerably older and less open, but he was just your average 20-something horny fella. So yes, we were already open-minded.
We initially looked in newspapers and then on dating sites for women, to help me explore my bi side. We found swinging sites by accident, when the old MSN chatrooms existed. From there, we just started talking in chat then by email etc. We were both turned on by the thought of swinging and also a bit worried in case things didn't work. We had a few dips along the way (still do really - confidence about everything looking and working OK) but we're quite happy at the moment with what we're doing.

10 Oct 2007

I've loved sex for like ever! lol

Joking aside, since my teens, I have stupidly mistaken sex for love, therefore wandered from relationship to relationship. Yes the sex was wonderful, but after a few weeks I was bored and quickly moved on, I never actually loved the guys I was with. I flirted terribly with other men even when I was with these guys redface

Then I met Jay, and bang! something hit me like a brick, here was love and good sex mixed together but the difference was the love came first. He wasn't after me for sex nor was I with him. We were friends long before lovers. I no longer felt the need to flirt with any other guys.
So what I'm trying to say is for me swinging wasn't always in my even though I loved sex, Jay was in me (oh er surprised

ops: ) mentally before we even discussed swinging, therefore swinging to us is a horny enhancement to something we already have which is wonderful.
Like FB we decided to explore my curious bi-side and everything else fell into place from there. We've tried the MMF and really it wasn't for us, so we've settled with meeting couples and females... what could be better?! wink

Am I prattling or am I making sense? confused

11 Oct 2007

Post subject: Looking Back
Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 11:00 am
Looking back to before you started swinging, do you think you always had the mindset to be a swinger?
I think, regardless if you are a single or couple, you have to be "that way inclined" to be a swinger. A condition, thankfully, which I have always had!!
Echoes

11 Oct 2007

of course I knew
I'm a man............ rolleyes

11 Oct 2007

Quote by markz
of course I knew
I'm a man............

thats a matter of opinion..????

11 Oct 2007

must admit I stumbled across this place.. I always thought swinging was couples throwing keys in a bowl...etc etc.. I never knew all about clubs and the social scene that goes with all this.

12 Oct 2007

I (mr srne) had a pretty wild time during my teens, where we grew up was a bit "rough" some would say and friday and saturday nights were spent down the park swigging cider and chatting up the girls who used to always seem to be around.
One week you would be having a bit of a feel or grope of one girl then the next week or even night it would be her best friend and your mate would be "getting off with" (cringeworthy phrase redface

) the girl you were with the night/week before.
This really didn't seem wrong or bad in anyway and in fact was pretty bloody enjoyable, and very erotic!!
As we started getting a bit older and people would have teenage parties when their parents went out, the sexual shenanigans started escalating to what would now probably be akin to a swingers party. Oral and full sex would be quite common and even on occasion (if you were a bit popular) you could have the company of two or more ladies in the space of a night before whoever's party it was' parents came home and booted you out!! sad

Miss srne had a pretty sheltered teenage life and in her neck of the woods it was the "norm" to have a steady boyfriend and all her friends would hang around together with the boyfriends who all tended to be friends as well.
Needless to say Miss srne had quite limited sexual experience before i corrupted (i mean met) :twisted: her, and when we started talking about past sexual experiences she was shocked (and more than a little turned on) by what I told her.
This is really where our swinging experience started as I understood her desire to want to experience these things (were all only human after all), and I wasn't going to complain now was I lol

Since starting swinging we have had some good nights but I think we are more into eroticism than MOST of the people we have met and it seems that a lot people we have spoken to in our age group are more into the sexual than the eroticism side of the lifestyle.
I might start a thread on that now :twisted:

12 Oct 2007

Just to be different...
It didn't enter my head at all until the last few years and to be honest I think when we used to hear of promiscuity around when we were young we were quite shocked... it just wasn't the done thing for either of us or our friends in general. That's how we grew up. Kinda sheltered I suppose, like Miss SRNE.
In our relationship and we've been together since our late teens, we have been sexually experiental together and have always looked at other people and been quite cool about that...but still the thought of sleeping with anyone else than each other would have horrified us.
But after a busy life in our 20's and 30's of big careers and having kids, our relationship kinda changed in a much more sexual way and we discussed other things. TBH I think we all get more accepting as we get older of "alternative" ideas and become far less judgmental (and basically mature) over the years. Well we do anyway.
So to summarise, no there were no signs I don't think for us, this has been something we have evolved into.
pink x