Quite a thought provoking thread this. :thumbup:
I was just thinking about the people I have met and played with from this site. I would say that the majority of them are attractive, looks-wise. All of them are attractive to me personality-wise, or I wouldn't have bothered.
But, that got me thinking... I reckon I punch above my weight in the swinging game as far as attracting attractive people. I don't think that is anything to do with how I look, I think it's because as a single girl I can afford on some levels to be very choosy.
I reckon I've had sex with people from this site who wouldn't have looked twice at me in a vanilla setting and who I wouldn't approach in vanilla-ville either.
Odd, really, the whole "attractive" debate.
on average it tends to put me off for two reasons:
1) I don't consider myself an uggo, but I don't have the confidence in my looks to be as selfassured as to promote myself as particularily attractive. I know from experience that when you write an ad you like people to react and show that they've actually read it... and for the same reason I don't react to adds who ask for vwe people, I don't answer to the "good looks" thing.
2) to me it's important to establish some sort of connection with whoever I consider meeting. if their/her primary concerns are looks..and they/she are not concerned about talking, getting to know each other at least a bit..and see if there is a fascination around the "persona" rather than her body alone, then I don't feel I'll get the "satisfaction" from our meet that I crave for.
to me sex is as much a meeting of minds and "attitudes" as it is of bodies..so I need to get to know the people I plan to meet at least a little bit.
a profile that is focussed on looks and "attributes" just doesn't speak to me, most of the times.
Ive been catching up on this thread and I wanted to say thank you for making me laugh.
I always worry that as a larger lady with a body that has seen over 40 years of action and birthed 5 rather large children, I have no right to assume anyone will find me attractive, looks-wise. I hope I come across as rather more attractive personality-wise in the chatrooms and fora.
I personally prefer slim ladies and gentlemen for playing purposes, partly for practical reasons, but would feel very intimidated by them in the bedroom as I believe I cannot compete. I know there are men out there who say they favour larger ladies, but I have a very powerful negative self-image (which is actually improving) that prevents me making the first contact.
Mr. Stuff is out of commission at the moment with a very bad back problem, and although he keeps saying I can play alone, my self-confidence is not up to it. If someone were to ask though, I would probably say "yes". When we are active, I do feel that he makes up for my 'failings', as he is tall, slim and muscular and I believe he scrubs up well. I can hide behind him and call us an 'attractive' couple.
Of course we are all assuming the people demanding attractive partners for play are themeselves attractive. Maybe they are mingers with over-high standards.
Laughing with my fellow afflictees is a joy.
I do realise the ironic, some would say humorous, juxtaposition of me posting on a thread about attractiveness, but for the sake of it and since I haven't posted in a while I thought I would add my three pence worth.
I always feel if you have to state that you are attractive, then that tells me more about you, than proving you are so by the quality of your posts and pics (though I would say in our case 95% of "attractiveness" to us comes from what people say and do,rather than their profile pictures). I prefer to let people make their own judgements, rather than me tell them "Look, I'm sexy and attractive." Mainly because they'd know immediately that I'm lying and secondly, it at least prolongues the feeble-minded dreams of me thinking people go about their daily business thinking to themselves "Phwoar Rezzer!" as opposed to "Awww, poor Rezzer", which is entirely different, but somewhat understandable.
To some people I am an attractive fat bald git, to others I'm just a fat bald git. Either way I'm a fat bald git, it's up to you whether I'm attractive or not. If I said I was, I'd feel I was a little conceited, or even perhaps dishonest. I'd feel uncomfortable telling someone "Yes I am attractive" when I don't feel I would be to them. I hope I have attractive traits here and there, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And I'd be uncomfortable assuming I fit their description of attractive because I feel that I am. (Not that I do, I don't... I'm confused now... who am I again?)
Don't get me wrong, there are certain attractive physical traits that seem to be winners with many folk. A knob the length of an average garden hose and testicles like two grapefruit in an onion bag for example, or tits you can sling over your shoulders when breaking out into a sprint and all the other tired cliches... But does that make the person attractive? We've seen well documented cases on here of people who seem to have the ideal package physically, yet seem to have the social graces of cat vomit and the sensitivity of a rutting boar. Or is it because they have the body people want, they don't need to try as hard in other areas, whereas a member of the ug-mug clan, such as I, over-compensate here because we're so damned horrid in real life? (Nah, I'm kidding, I'm fecking gorgeous really and I'd have 10 shags a week if I didn't have my paper round)
So attractiveness is entirely subjective in my view. If you are attractive, you don't need to tell anybody or announce it, it should be entirely self-evident. If you do feel the need, then you kind of run the risk of popping into the arrogant section in some peoples eyes I'd guess and to me that's the difference between the two.
In Edit: (I apologise for the feeble, nay heretical, lack of punctuation in that post. In my defence I've had several late nights and early mornings and I'm an old broken, simple-minded man these days...)
Yay! Res is back :bounce:
Sorry, normality resumed. As you were.
Tongue in cheek but i often change my profile..i think they need regular tinkering? My favourite quip of the moment is ...
No pictures on my profile, I'm assuming you know what perfect looks like? good, that's why I'm looking at you ...so do i, this saves the "i only meet attractive people" because however you look at this either, you're assuming you're attractive and so am i ...why ty- lol ...or you're saying fck this is all i can get ...same thing ...why ty lol
btw i like minds as much as bodies ....probably because i really really want one ...lol
its only partly for looks, the rest is posting style and sense of humour and intelligence 
