"what's love got to do with it, what's love but a secondary emotion"..... Don't ask me to sing it ;-).
People may say i have led a sad life (in terms of love) but i have never loved in a way my mates tell me they do with their partners. A lot of people say they have love and it's ever-lasting once you meet the right person - then after some time they split up hrmmm. Also, I have always been told if you love your partner you would never share them with anyone else. This does not appear to be the case with swinging as there is love here and sharing so it's all very confusing.
What my heart tells me - I think love is about respecting someone, caring for them, having that je ne sais quoi feeling you can't explain, having many things in common etc etc. My head tells me that its a secondary emotion.
Please, i am not judging here and would love your views on this.
Westgate x.
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I thought I was in love, once: now I'm not so sure.
Basically I'm great at the unrequited stuff
but not so good at the mutually reciprocated bit. 
Nola x
Basically I'm great at the unrequited stuff
but not so good at the mutually reciprocated bit. Nola x
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I think that to discuss love within swinging relationships is both simple and complex... but I wouldn't really know, being single.
I'm sure there will be a coupley type along soon enough to give you their take on it.
Nola x
I'm sure there will be a coupley type along soon enough to give you their take on it.
Nola x
What is love? as Haddaway asked not quite so memorably.
"Love is all around" answered the Wets, which was very nice sentiment but didn't really get to the point of the initial question.
"Love in an Elevator" sang Aerosmith, before adding a suggestive "Going Down" which isn't really about love, but sex, but they are American's and frightfully dim at times, if rather good rockers for a bunch of old chaps.
"All you need is love" said the Beatles, but not a lot of people do need love really. Many don't. A change of name may have been in order but "All you need is casual sex with a variety of acquaintances of either sex" didn't quite have the same ring to it.
ABC sang about the "Look of Love" which is probably somewhere between Bonnie Langford and the cafe scene in When Harry Met Sally. Is that really what it is all about?
John Lennon said it best.
"Love is knowing we can be."
Pedants may argue it is a little vague, but extrapolate away from that central view and you find that all the many and varied strands that form the whimsical notion of love are encompassed within...
...well... Apart from the kind of "spank me on the botty bitch and make me beg" kind of love. That's more your Brotherhood of Man or St Winifreds School Choir domain.
"Love is all around" answered the Wets, which was very nice sentiment but didn't really get to the point of the initial question.
"Love in an Elevator" sang Aerosmith, before adding a suggestive "Going Down" which isn't really about love, but sex, but they are American's and frightfully dim at times, if rather good rockers for a bunch of old chaps.
"All you need is love" said the Beatles, but not a lot of people do need love really. Many don't. A change of name may have been in order but "All you need is casual sex with a variety of acquaintances of either sex" didn't quite have the same ring to it.
ABC sang about the "Look of Love" which is probably somewhere between Bonnie Langford and the cafe scene in When Harry Met Sally. Is that really what it is all about?
John Lennon said it best.
"Love is knowing we can be."
Pedants may argue it is a little vague, but extrapolate away from that central view and you find that all the many and varied strands that form the whimsical notion of love are encompassed within...
...well... Apart from the kind of "spank me on the botty bitch and make me beg" kind of love. That's more your Brotherhood of Man or St Winifreds School Choir domain.
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What is love? as Haddaway asked not quite so memorably.
"Love is all around" answered the Wets, which was very nice sentiment but didn't really get to the point of the initial question.
"Love in an Elevator" sang Aerosmith, before adding a suggestive "Going Down" which isn't really about love, but sex, but they are American's and frightfully dim at times, if rather good rockers for a bunch of old chaps.
"All you need is love" said the Beatles, but not a lot of people do need love really. Many don't. A change of name may have been in order but "All you need is casual sex with a variety of acquaintances of either sex" didn't quite have the same ring to it.
ABC sang about the "Look of Love" which is probably somewhere between Bonnie Langford and the cafe scene in When Harry Met Sally. Is that really what it is all about?
John Lennon said it best.
"Love is knowing we can be."
Pedants may argue it is a little vague, but extrapolate away from that central view and you find that all the many and varied strands that form the whimsical notion of love are encompassed within...
...well... Apart from the kind of "spank me on the botty bitch and make me beg" kind of love. That's more your Brotherhood of Man or St Winifreds School Choir domain.
Spooky - I just heard Haddaway's version on TV
I am a coupley type but this only applies to us as we`re all very differnt on here. I met BMW on this site, he was someone i saw regularly and the more i saw the more i liked, to the point that i would cancel others to see him, realy bad i know 
then we became "exclusive" and even tho we like to go to socials etc we only play together.
It is love i know that, and so does he, we miss each other terribly when he works away, like he is now, and i dont see anyone or meet while he`s not here, thats something we do together as a couple, but loves a strange thing to define because we have lots of things in common that we share, but we ar also very different, all i know is he was all that i wanted a man to be.
So does that sound like love to you????
then we became "exclusive" and even tho we like to go to socials etc we only play together.It is love i know that, and so does he, we miss each other terribly when he works away, like he is now, and i dont see anyone or meet while he`s not here, thats something we do together as a couple, but loves a strange thing to define because we have lots of things in common that we share, but we ar also very different, all i know is he was all that i wanted a man to be.
So does that sound like love to you????
ye you right, when i posted it i noticed but didn't go to edit and let it roll cos a second hand emotion or symplified emotion or secondary emotion mean basically the same thing to me. Sorry for the confusion and my interpretation.
I see it like a second hand pair of underwear not much use to me so why all the fuss bout Love.
and just wanted to know what you folks think about how it relates to swinging.
Westgate.
I see it like a second hand pair of underwear not much use to me so why all the fuss bout Love.
and just wanted to know what you folks think about how it relates to swinging.Westgate.
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Quote by essex34m
AHHH love!
You can't quantify it, define it or explain it.
Love is giving someone the power to destroy your life, and trusting them enough not to do it.
And it's gone when they try to do just that.
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
AHHH love!
You can't quantify it, define it or explain it.
Love is giving someone the power to destroy your life, and trusting them enough not to do it.
:shock: Bloody hell: that's profound.
Hey Nola, that blew me away also :-). I think i am going to write those defintions down ;-).
I'm very wary of being destroyed cos all sorts of bad shit can happen like be ill, lose job, turn to alcohol etc etc.
"better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" - not sure who said this but i don't believe it. If i aint loved then i don't know what i am missing and can get on with enjoying life cos it can all so easily go pear shaped - i see it all the time.
Westgate.
I'm very wary of being destroyed cos all sorts of bad shit can happen like be ill, lose job, turn to alcohol etc etc.
"better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" - not sure who said this but i don't believe it. If i aint loved then i don't know what i am missing and can get on with enjoying life cos it can all so easily go pear shaped - i see it all the time.
Westgate.
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Quote by essex34m
AHHH love!
You can't quantify it, define it or explain it.
Love is giving someone the power to destroy your life, and trusting them enough not to do it.
No way am I EVER loving someone like that. My life is far too precious to risk. I'll share it - but giving it up to someone else? I did that - I had to get out before I had no life left - never ever again. Giving any other human being power over your life is madness.
For me, love is being willing to give someone up if that is better for them than being with you.
