Oh er .. I come from a line of traditionalist.
My parents were married once for 53 yrs till dad died of lung cancer.
My in-laws were married for 63 yrs till my father in law died of a stroke
I've been married for 33 yrs and have no interest in divorcing my husband but am very happy with him.
He is my best friend and companion. I wish he could still be my lover but life has intervened on that side of our relationship so I come here for some comfort.
To anyone thinking of marrying I would say think hard about what you want to marry for. Are you sure its what you want.
I have had lots of ups and downs in my marriage including a 2 yr separation period, but we are still together and happy in each others company.
One thing you can't do is predict the future. What it will bring or how you will feel or react to it at the time. Some people manage to stay together despite lifes storms .. others don't.
For me the secret is honesty, humour and forgiveness.
All three are essential for a marriage to work at all.
DD xxx
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Quote by devondelight
Oh er .. I come from a line of traditionalist.
My parents were married once for 53 yrs till dad died of lung cancer.
My in-laws were married for 63 yrs till my father in law died of a stroke
I've been married for 33 yrs and have no interest in divorcing my husband but am very happy with him.
He is my best friend and companion. I wish he could still be my lover but life has intervened on that side of our relationship so I come here for some comfort.
To anyone thinking of marrying I would say think hard about what you want to marry for. Are you sure its what you want.
I have had lots of ups and downs in my marriage including a 2 yr separation period, but we are still together and happy in each others company.
One thing you can't do is predict the future. What it will bring or how you will feel or react to it at the time. Some people manage to stay together despite lifes storms .. others don't.
For me the secret is honesty, humour and forgiveness.
All three are essential for a marriage to work at all.
DD xxx
That's lovely DD its so nice to hear about nice long successful marriages. I love being married. I love belonging to my husband. Does that sound abit sub
: I have been married before so gone through a divorce too and seen the other side of the happy marriage scenario. I much prefer it now I've got it right.
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Fire xx
im 37, ive never been married or honestly been asked or asked onyone.
thats not to say i wouldnt get married.
i have just never met someone who i would want to spend a whole 2 weeks in majorca with let alone a lifetime lol
if i ever do get married it would not be for religious reasons, or to have a big do, cuse im not religious, and id hate the whole big do thing, ive seen the stress the arrangements cause and the cost from friends.
i would love to find that someone who feels the same about me as i did him, who i want to be with in my old age, who has a heart and a mind that is strong and true.
who also understand that swinging for me is not a means to a end or a way of heving sex while im single, its a part of me and a lifestyle. I could not envision only ever having sex with one person for the rest of my life.
some people have questioned this in me, that i would forgo mariage for sex. but i would not cheat so i will not get married if i couldnt swing.
swinging for me is like a hobbie i guess.
i dont think im coming across very clear here, lol probally why im single lol.
xxxx fem xxx
thats not to say i wouldnt get married.
i have just never met someone who i would want to spend a whole 2 weeks in majorca with let alone a lifetime lol
if i ever do get married it would not be for religious reasons, or to have a big do, cuse im not religious, and id hate the whole big do thing, ive seen the stress the arrangements cause and the cost from friends.
i would love to find that someone who feels the same about me as i did him, who i want to be with in my old age, who has a heart and a mind that is strong and true.
who also understand that swinging for me is not a means to a end or a way of heving sex while im single, its a part of me and a lifestyle. I could not envision only ever having sex with one person for the rest of my life.
some people have questioned this in me, that i would forgo mariage for sex. but i would not cheat so i will not get married if i couldnt swing.
swinging for me is like a hobbie i guess.
i dont think im coming across very clear here, lol probally why im single lol.
xxxx fem xxx
Interesting thread!
We are best of friends - were before we got married, and still are! As well as husband & wife. And as well as lovers. We still hold hands walking down the road...
Funny how others say relationships go down hill, sex dries up, no more BJ's....
12 years togther and we have more fun each year! (okay - swinging helps!) No one believs we have no secrets from each other and say "how do you know she isn't having an afair" or "you can't go out for a drink with X what would your wife say". You can't say "well if we wanted a bit on the side we'd do it at home and all join in!" lol!
We've no kids and aren't having any (planned from outset)
So why get married? FOR US. We had a great party (wedding) and wouldn't change a thing.
(okay - enough - you can be sick now)
We are best of friends - were before we got married, and still are! As well as husband & wife. And as well as lovers. We still hold hands walking down the road...
Funny how others say relationships go down hill, sex dries up, no more BJ's....
12 years togther and we have more fun each year! (okay - swinging helps!) No one believs we have no secrets from each other and say "how do you know she isn't having an afair" or "you can't go out for a drink with X what would your wife say". You can't say "well if we wanted a bit on the side we'd do it at home and all join in!" lol!We've no kids and aren't having any (planned from outset)
So why get married? FOR US. We had a great party (wedding) and wouldn't change a thing.
(okay - enough - you can be sick now)
Marraige is bum sweat, so much so i cant even spell it correctly!!
Its what some idealistic people from a bygone era think we should all do to show to god that we are going to stick to vows that just dont make sense in this day and age.
Things have changed, times have changed and now thankfully laws have changed that mean we dont have to be married anymore to have a legal right to get what we have put into the relationship (on a financial level anyway). The vows of marraige (incorrectly spelt again lol) just dont make any sense in todays cosmopolitan, fast paced world where religion takes a back seat at any time other than during hatches, matches and dispatches.
Christian church vows were introduced as a way of scaring a woman into not having sexual intimacy (or even thoughts for that matter) with or about another man other than her husband in law and before god. Baring in mind these were times when to blaspheme was considered a huge sin an god and his holy righteousness were used to "control" behaviors and views that in this day and age would seem ludicrous but back then were very much believed and adhered to!
So, in summary marraige is not at the top of mine, or miss srne's agenda as we both think its a big commercial rip off an most people these days do it to please other people (usually the parents) so you wont be needin to buy a hat or expect to get an invite soon!
So........ whens the big day maz? :lol:
Its what some idealistic people from a bygone era think we should all do to show to god that we are going to stick to vows that just dont make sense in this day and age.
Things have changed, times have changed and now thankfully laws have changed that mean we dont have to be married anymore to have a legal right to get what we have put into the relationship (on a financial level anyway). The vows of marraige (incorrectly spelt again lol) just dont make any sense in todays cosmopolitan, fast paced world where religion takes a back seat at any time other than during hatches, matches and dispatches.
Christian church vows were introduced as a way of scaring a woman into not having sexual intimacy (or even thoughts for that matter) with or about another man other than her husband in law and before god. Baring in mind these were times when to blaspheme was considered a huge sin an god and his holy righteousness were used to "control" behaviors and views that in this day and age would seem ludicrous but back then were very much believed and adhered to!
So, in summary marraige is not at the top of mine, or miss srne's agenda as we both think its a big commercial rip off an most people these days do it to please other people (usually the parents) so you wont be needin to buy a hat or expect to get an invite soon!
So........ whens the big day maz? :lol:
Sex God
His & I have been married 15years in August :shock: (only do 10yrs for life :giggle: )
He is my soul mate & wouldn't like to ever think that we were not together.
However, I don't think that we would feel any different if we were not married.
For me, I had the 'family' pressure - marriage before children, bla bla
I have had no regrets so Well Busty Babe, don't let this thread put you off
He is my soul mate & wouldn't like to ever think that we were not together.
However, I don't think that we would feel any different if we were not married.
For me, I had the 'family' pressure - marriage before children, bla bla
I have had no regrets so Well Busty Babe, don't let this thread put you off
ops:Quote by naughtynymphos1
If you love someone you love them to dont have to get married to prove it
:thumbup:
My sentiments exactly.
I have never married and I don't think I ever will, I have been in love 4 times in my life and never felt the urge to marry. I think I have commitment and monogamy issues :lol2:
Warming the Bed
well as some say marriage is an institution and who .... wants to live in an institution ......... saying that 28 years on been swinging for 18 of those on and off even in the good old days of it taking months to meet up with anyone ... nowadays u make what u want of it ....... were both closer and more open with each other. Its the ultimate show of love for someone ............ in these days of divorce maybe sme people should be more open with each other .......
anyway maybe some people aint meant to be together
:bounce: have fun anyway its always ur choice to make xx
anyway maybe some people aint meant to be together
:bounce: have fun anyway its always ur choice to make xx
I never thought I would marry again but then I didn't bank on meeting and getting together with fembernie.
I'm now very proud to be able to call her my wife.
I believe trhat marriage is a way of telling friends and family that you have found someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your days with.
I'm now very proud to be able to call her my wife.
I believe trhat marriage is a way of telling friends and family that you have found someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your days with.
