Hello everyone,
Our profile Annjohnlancs should now be just Johnlancs has I have split from my wife. It was nothing to do with swinging or things like that but mainly work committments that gave us seperate lives that drifted us apart.
Anyway the purpose of this thread is has anyone else suffered a marriage breakdown and how did ya pull through it. We split on Sunday and my friends have been brill but the worst part is coming back to a big empty house.
Kind Reagards
John
P`s. If anyone fancies a brew in town (North West) for a good old chin wag then give us a shout.
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Sex God
You can change your username and your status on your profile, although you'll probably have to pay. Also, if you're now a single bloke, you should remove Ann's pictures from your gallery really.
Not had my marriage break up, so can't comment on that.
Try a thread in LMU for that meet for a cuppa :thumbup:
Not had my marriage break up, so can't comment on that.
Try a thread in LMU for that meet for a cuppa :thumbup:
Casanova
Bronty ( my better half ) is going though his second divorce I'm not really sure how he got back on his feet but he stayed with sh and kept in touch with friends off the site i think that help him though it then we got together and i helped him with kiss and hugs and sex 
so best advice i can give is get out and have sex 
so best advice i can give is get out and have sex 
Sex God
Been there done that, got the scars to prove it.
Avoid all contact with her, remove all pictures of her and use dating sites to meet other women as soon as possible. Just use the contact with other women to maintain your own self confidence and of course widen your social circle of friends.
You may choose to put the swinging side of your personality on one side for a few months and allow normal relationships to flourish without any sexual overtones (or undertones!!) - this should help you maintain self confidence.
Good luck - you will probably need it - it took me two years to come out of the tunnel albeit the first year was awful and the second year just bad.
(Mr) Too Hot
PS - You might also think about buying a motor bike, or a boat or a classic sports car - you know - just be a guy and do guy things
Avoid all contact with her, remove all pictures of her and use dating sites to meet other women as soon as possible. Just use the contact with other women to maintain your own self confidence and of course widen your social circle of friends.
You may choose to put the swinging side of your personality on one side for a few months and allow normal relationships to flourish without any sexual overtones (or undertones!!) - this should help you maintain self confidence.
Good luck - you will probably need it - it took me two years to come out of the tunnel albeit the first year was awful and the second year just bad.
(Mr) Too Hot
PS - You might also think about buying a motor bike, or a boat or a classic sports car - you know - just be a guy and do guy things
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
can't offer anything constructive to say john, but big hugs for ya anyways.
Can't add anything else to this really, as it's outside of my own experience, but everyone else's advice is probably sound.
Hope you'll be alright.
:( :( Wow...
Sad to hear and it only happened on Sunday you say! Me given the same situation would hardly be thinking about what my new profile name would be fella... :cry: Maybe a bit of time out to see if things can be put right first!! Not having a go but first look at this you hardly seem bothered she's gone! Sorry...
Anyway ....... Has Anne got a new profile too? The girls might be needing consoling lol... :lol:
Ok... Good luck, think you might need it!
Mike
Sad to hear and it only happened on Sunday you say! Me given the same situation would hardly be thinking about what my new profile name would be fella... :cry: Maybe a bit of time out to see if things can be put right first!! Not having a go but first look at this you hardly seem bothered she's gone! Sorry...
Anyway ....... Has Anne got a new profile too? The girls might be needing consoling lol...
:lol: Ok... Good luck, think you might need it!
Mike
Orgasminator
Use your friends John as you said they have been brill, if your invited over for a meal or a drink force yourself to go they will listen to your tales of woe & give you the time to pour your heart out about how you feel & also give you there advice where they think you should direct your energy's .
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Wow...
Sad to hear and it only happened on Sunday you say! Me given the same situation would hardly be thinking about what my new profile name would be fella... :cry: Maybe a bit of time out to see if things can be put right first!! Not having a go but first look at this you hardly seem bothered she's gone! Sorry...
Anyway ....... Has Anne got a new profile too? The girls might be needing consoling lol...
Ok... Good luck, think you might need it!
Mike
i thinking that too :lol: ...if i split up with my wife on Sunday,coming on here to change my profile would be the last thing on my mind...but like you said he doesn't seem that bothered...but he might be once he realises he has joined the ranks of the dreaded single male! :lol: ...the grass isn't usually greener on the otherside!
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Wow...
Sad to hear and it only happened on Sunday you say! Me given the same situation would hardly be thinking about what my new profile name would be fella... :cry: Maybe a bit of time out to see if things can be put right first!! Not having a go but first look at this you hardly seem bothered she's gone! Sorry...
Anyway ....... Has Anne got a new profile too? The girls might be needing consoling lol...
Ok... Good luck, think you might need it!
Mike
i thinking that too :lol: ...if i split up with my wife on Sunday,coming on here to change my profile would be the last thing on my mind...but like you said he doesn't seem that bothered...but he might be once he realises he has joined the ranks of the dreaded single male! :lol: ...the grass isn't usually greener on the otherside!
I don't mean to be harsh... but a little sceptic inside almost makes me think .....why???
None of my business anyway lol......
:)My thoughts are that he might well be in massive pain and need comforting, but doesn't want to just come on here and say "we have split up and I need help" - so he's put it in such a way that it sounds appropriate as a post on this forum.
Sorry to talk about you as if you aren't there, John, good luck x
Sorry to talk about you as if you aren't there, John, good luck x
Sex God
Quote by Cherrytree
My thoughts are that he might well be in massive pain and need comforting, but doesn't want to just come on here and say "we have split up and I need help" - so he's put it in such a way that it sounds appropriate as a post on this forum.
Sorry to talk about you as if you aren't there, John, good luck x
But with hardly any posts, none of us knows him well enough to offer the same level of support that his good friends in real life could.
I'm inclined to agree with Mike and Mr. P - this forum would be the last thing I'd think about if my marriage broke down. However, he's already made it plain that he's available to meet and under those circumstances, needs to change his profile details.
well as someone who has recently been through it i can sympathise with you greatly, i would like to say that its easy to get through but cant and at this early stage things will get worse sorry to say.
But time is a great healer and it does get better, make the effort to see your friends and go out, DO NOT mope around indoors on your own and stay away from the drink it might seem to work but it does not. Concentrate on your work and your firnds and any hobbies you have as a distraction and before you know a year will have passed, which is where i am now almost, hang in there and good luck to both parties concerned.
But time is a great healer and it does get better, make the effort to see your friends and go out, DO NOT mope around indoors on your own and stay away from the drink it might seem to work but it does not. Concentrate on your work and your firnds and any hobbies you have as a distraction and before you know a year will have passed, which is where i am now almost, hang in there and good luck to both parties concerned.
Quote by Cherrytree
My thoughts are that he might well be in massive pain and need comforting, but doesn't want to just come on here and say "we have split up and I need help" - so he's put it in such a way that it sounds appropriate as a post on this forum.
Sorry to talk about you as if you aren't there, John, good luck x
Obviously you know him.. Thats good, you understand better then. What if you didn't would you still have said the same given the post?? I'm the last person to have a go honest.. I think you would know that from my previous posts but as I said if that were to happen to me I would not think this site would help just two days after splitting up...
I'm sure he is genuine.. and sure he's feeling it but surely she would be too.. what if she reads the post?? Hurt works both ways and I still stand by saying looking for a meet won't help yet lol... Sorry xxx
Mike xx
Hi Guys n Gals
Thanks for all your support. I never really thought about changing the profile I suppose I would of just shut this one down eventually and then started my new one.
I agree with the post about removing Anns piccys - I will do that out of respect for Ann more than anything. She no longer has access to the net other than work and I dont think she will visit the SH site then.
All my mates have rallied round and I have not been short of company - even Anns family have been supportive.
I was amused with the thread of go out and get more sex lol I`m not sure I feel upto that right now lol
Anyway I am also on xxxxxxxxxso you may find me there and message me.
Kind Regards to you all and for showing support to Ann as well - I`m sure we will remain friends when things settle down in the months ahead.
P`s Ann and John are our middle names in real life
John aka Nick
Mods edit - please don't advertise other sites
Thanks for all your support. I never really thought about changing the profile I suppose I would of just shut this one down eventually and then started my new one.
I agree with the post about removing Anns piccys - I will do that out of respect for Ann more than anything. She no longer has access to the net other than work and I dont think she will visit the SH site then.
All my mates have rallied round and I have not been short of company - even Anns family have been supportive.
I was amused with the thread of go out and get more sex lol I`m not sure I feel upto that right now lol
Anyway I am also on xxxxxxxxxso you may find me there and message me.
Kind Regards to you all and for showing support to Ann as well - I`m sure we will remain friends when things settle down in the months ahead.
P`s Ann and John are our middle names in real life
John aka Nick
Mods edit - please don't advertise other sites
Sex God
I'd remove that reference to the other site if I were you - before a mod does and you get your hands slapped! :shock:
Mod
I've changed your profile to single now, but I also suggest you PM 'Admin' and ask them to change your user name as that will confuse people.
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