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Quote by westerross
Think it might be helpful if Bigpaul clarifies why he thinks married guys are more discreet.
If it's because they're cheating, then the answer most people would give, I suspect, is 'No'. That is contrary to the tenets of swinging, where honesty has got to be the most precious principle.
If it's just because you suddenly become more discreet when you get married then I guess most people would challenge why you think that.
I have been told several times that I am discreet in the extreme and I have also been told once that I am indiscreet. I took serious offence at the latter because it was, in my view, just an excuse to justify some other motivation of the other party.
There are also degrees of indiscretion in my view. At one end of the scale lots of people indulge in the flirty kind of 'letting snippets of information out' when it is mutual. Others indulge in the more pernicious practice of talking behind other people's backs.
Discretion is important but honesty is more important.
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I am not saying they are,,just wanted some points of view and didn't expect to be called an ass. I didn't.
I am new to this site and I thought the whole point of a forum was to discuss topics and find points of view and get people offering different opinions. Which is exactly what I did.
Yes I am married but not a philanderer and I have very good reasons for joining this site to look for some like minded people whether they be married or not and I am grateful I've found that already.
If you want to really know more about me then send me a message where I will open up about my personal situation to people who really want to know and not just be subject to
remarks from people who don't know me.
I am not a sad or desperate person who needs this site but i'm just looking for a bit of fun( like every body else), there are plenty of married women in the same situation and I would trust their discretion more than a single lady.
Can't imagine why you've taken offence at what I said - but as you say I don't know you.
I didn't and wouldn't call you an ass on the strength of what I know but I'm getting there.
Keep smiling!
. I know you didn't someone else did,now excuse me for being be honest i'm not that bothered and i'm sorry if I posted the topic question as ambiguous (grammar is not my strong point)and i'm sorry if it's been covered before and done to death,but at least it got reactions!
the truth is i was reccomended to this site by a lady who is married and only looks to play with married men for the very reason i is her choice(she's not my cup of tea by the way but a lovely girl)now that is her criteria and she has her own reasons which probably prompted me very badly to ask the question and what are peoples experiences.I wasn't trying to be judgemental and wouldn't do that at all on this site.
it seems there is more etiquette than a vicars tea party which is a good thing.
i've met two couples one who i've played with and one we hope to meet after new year and they know my marital status and couldn't give a monkeys
Sex God
Now we've established you don't actually care.... can we hijack your thread now? 
;) 
;) Quote by solofun
I know you didn't someone else did
Who called you an ASS
: i've read this full thread and can't see it anywhere :?:Abiline did and i'm going to go away and cry my eyes out.
seriously though this is great fun at least thanks for looking!
The truth is the question i posed was taken out of context (may be i should be a NOTW reporte)r so apologies to all who had taken 's done to death now so i'm going home for my tea.
Quote by Abilene
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
Right- this was not calling YOU an ass.
Maybe now the facts have been pointed out in black and white you might stop behaving like one.
Quote by winchwench
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
Right- this was not calling YOU an ass.
Maybe now the facts have been pointed out in black and white you might stop behaving like one.
I will
promise
Sex God
Quote by Bigpaul44
The reason I would choose,given the choice, a married lady is it's my preference just the way you have your preferences.I am not looking for love but illicit sex.I didn't join this site to be virtuous,does your mother or brother or vicar know your a member of a swingers site.
.maybe it is just me (and probably is....) but i don't see swinging as "illicit sex".. maybe it is "illicit" for you because by your own admission you are playing away
which brought me to an article in todays metro.........and quite an interesting piece it is......
For me "that" is way more illicit than swinging will ever be.... because there is a sort of "deception" going on..........
Quote by earthchild
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
i know the feeling hun :twisted:
i have never liked lies and never will ...although i was lucky as i have not had a wife on the phone yet....i have had a few nice ladies that didn't know what to say when i was so so nice on the phone they say ' sorry i have the wrong number' :doh: i most be doing something wrong ....i don't sound like a swinger (open minded person) on the phone
i most sound as the person i truly am ....sweet and innocentjust for the record ...i don't knowingly play with married men ...this is my choice, i don't nor will i lie about something behind someone's back even through i don't know thier wife's! if someone lies and i work out they are married ...it is ended one way or another
:twisted:
Quote by winchwench
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
Right- this was not calling YOU an ass.
Maybe now the facts have been pointed out in black and white you might stop behaving like one.
OMG !! Just saw this .... ta Wench .. i sure didn't call anyone in this thread an ass ... lol ... dammit, causing truble and didn't even know it.
* sits down and sips her wine *
Quote by Bigpaul44
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
Right- this was not calling YOU an ass.
Maybe now the facts have been pointed out in black and white you might stop behaving like one.
I will
promise
Paul- I may/may not agree with anything else you may have written- but :thumbup: for being man enough to say that!
P.S.....thats the first time (i think) I've EVER snapped at anyone on S.H. :shock:
Normal personality will be along shortly.
Sex God
Quote by Kiss
Now we've established you don't actually care.... can we hijack your thread now?
If that means you keep re-posting that lovely atavar then I vote YES!
:grin:
Just so have to quote that and treasure it for all time! :D
:smug:
Quote by insane1
Maybe I'm being cynical, but if a guy puts that he's very discreet on his profile, surely it means he's married/attached/spoken for and that he don't want the world to know.
Or am I reading these profiles all wrong???
maybe a single guy would offer descretion as he may wish to protect those who meet him from the ignomeny of being associated with him in public
Unless of course they choose to share the joy first! :shock:
lp
Sexlightened
Quote by Bigpaul44
I know you didn't someone else did
Who called you an ASS
: i've read this full thread and can't see it anywhere :?:Abiline did and i'm going to go away and cry my eyes out.
seriously though this is great fun at least thanks for looking!
The truth is the question i posed was taken out of context (may be i should be a NOTW reporte)r so apologies to all who had taken 's done to death now so i'm going home for my tea.
dont mean to be a ass :twisted: or nothing but i thought you were at home off work???
Sexlightened
Quote by insane1
Maybe I'm being cynical, but if a guy puts that he's very discreet on his profile, surely it means he's married/attached/spoken for and that he don't want the world to know.
Or am I reading these profiles all wrong???
And I personally would never meet a married man, I'm too scared of the wives!
i think that may be ment as in ''if your a married or '''almost single'' female'' i can be discrete, who knows, thats just my opinion,
*putting my pink ear-muffs back on and going back to sleep*
i think i fall into the category of discrete single male.........
i remember my old man once telling me that it was a sure fire way to get turned down for a "repeat performance" if you werent discrete.......
plus, with all the new anti-stalking/harrassment laws around..... you cant be too careful these days can you?
i remember my old man once telling me that it was a sure fire way to get turned down for a "repeat performance" if you werent discrete.......
plus, with all the new anti-stalking/harrassment laws around..... you cant be too careful these days can you?
I haven't done that much swinging in the year or so that I have been on this site. Partly due to circumstances (I.E I'm nervous and rather shy, despite how I may sound on here), partly due to the fact I thoroughly enjoy the social aspect of Swinging (munches, socials, here), but also due to the fact that I like to get to know people as people. This of course works the other way and people get to know me. As I get more confident, I hope that people get to know me and as such trust me....or not. It allows everyone (myself and anyone I like) to get to know how everyone else is. I know that this isn't infallible as it is still relatively easy to deceive. But it seems to be the best way forward...atleast for me.
Everyone has their own way of rooting out untruthful people....this one is mine.
Everyone has their own way of rooting out untruthful people....this one is mine.
Quote by Dlep
I haven't done that much swinging in the year or so that I have been on this site. Partly due to circumstances (I.E I'm nervous and rather shy, despite how I may sound on here), partly due to the fact I thoroughly enjoy the social aspect of Swinging (munches, socials, here), but also due to the fact that I like to get to know people as people. This of course works the other way and people get to know me. As I get more confident, I hope that people get to know me and as such trust me....or not. It allows everyone (myself and anyone I like) to get to know how everyone else is. I know that this isn't infallible as it is still relatively easy to deceive. But it seems to be the best way forward...atleast for me.
Everyone has their own way of rooting out untruthful people....this one is mine.
You say that, but I'm here to tell everyone different. You try to build this persona, but i happen to know that you are actually a rather lovely single female. If only the guys knew, you would have a full inbox.
Stop living a lie!
I'm single,and I'm discreet and need others to be discreet back but I'm not hiding that I'm married or anything like that.I have friends,workmates,family who'd not even understand my posting on this forum,never mind actually doing anything to do with swinging lol
I'm sure many others on here,single or married,are in the same to alternative sexual expression still have a long way to go in the UK in general and lots of us have to keep our private desires just that,private,but SH is a place we can express ourselves and maybe find like minded people to actually act those desires out with!
I'm sure many others on here,single or married,are in the same to alternative sexual expression still have a long way to go in the UK in general and lots of us have to keep our private desires just that,private,but SH is a place we can express ourselves and maybe find like minded people to actually act those desires out with!
