Blimey, I log off early and this happens!
2p in metre.....tick tick tick.
I'm single but my swing partner is in a relationship. She is fully aware of him swinging. If she wasn't I wouldn't see him.
If a guy is honest enough to say his married he shouldn't be berated for it, but maybe he should be encouraged to extend this honesty to his wife, however I know that each relationship is different and each person has there own reasons for doing what they do. The reason for him swinging may be to explore his bi side, which his wife couldn't help with anyway, and he may not feel comfortable talking to her about it.
As for a woman swinging without her husbands consent, my feelings on that are exactly the same as for a man. Deceit is deceit regardless of gender.
On a more practical note, another reason for not seeing another married man is that they can generally only meet at silly times and spend thier hole time glancing at thier watch. A tiny bit off putting!
Clang.....2p over.
H.x
let he/she who knows ALL the facts be the judge ................the rest of us just go with instinct cos thats all we have.................
staggy
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married people do whatever you feel is right for you and your circumstances because you know whats best!
this life is more than just a read through
The reaction of those offended by the ‘cheater’ can be quite a complex issue. It is not always purely based on the simple view of “he is a cheatâ€.
For those who share an open and honest relationship and the honesty of that relationship forms the foundation of their shared principles for being involved in swinging - of course someone announcing they are looking for a bit behind their partners back is going to sit uncomfortably (to say the least). It is the total opposite of the values and principles which they hold and more often than not - practice.
Some will take into account the possible outcome and devastation to this person’s partner - should their antics be discovered. It is difficult to praise and warmly welcome someone who by their actions is likely do hurt someone else. Again this goes against the principles of swinging which a number of people hold.
I am sure that women who set out to deceive their partners by looking for a crafty shag on the side don’t get the same degree of grief the men get and get unlimited offers for company - But isn't that is due to the vast number of eager cocks which will be happy to find any port in a storm with no questions asked.
However, I have said this before on more than one occasion - it is difficult to continuously apply some principles and avoid hypocrisy in many aspects of swinging. But, is it really that surprising that those who go out of their way to ensure their values and principles are upheld then appear to be ridged in what is allowed and acceptable?
There are some (not all - I said ‘some‘) activities I involve myself in (under the broad banner of swinging) where I have no interest in who this person really is, their status, their liberty to swing - because the moment is then and the situation is right. I am hardly going to ask the proceedings to halt whilst I interview the participants.
There are plenty of couples who it makes not one iota of difference if their guest for the evening is married or not - as has already been said, it can be an advantage if the guy is married as they are less likely to hassle the couples later.
So - do married men with an unsuspecting wife at home stand a chance in the swinging scene…
Yes they do.
Do I think it is right…
Not really - my preference is for honesty …. but I accept it happens and that there are some situations where I just don‘t care.
Should they get a public slating when they announce they are married and seeking a bit on the side…
Probably yes, for being dumb enough to think nobody would mind or even briefly thinking all swingers are without morals, values and principles that relate to this action. Are they not really saying… I am about to lie to my partner about something which would deeply hurt them, - it is hard to reply to that with hip-hip-hooray!
Should they have publicly kept their gob shut to the masses - yet been open and honest to those they arrange to meet….
Yes - that would have been a better move.
What bugs me about this kind of thread/post….
The justification sob story. Why should anyone think a sob story will make their actions acceptable. Why should the sob story make a blind bit of difference to the actions they are taking. You have chosen what it is you are going to do (just as we all make choices when becoming involved in the swinging scene) - don’t try and dress it up as you having no choice. That is the bollocks that sits uncomfortably with me. You have chosen to have sex behind your partner’s back - you have chosen to try to have your cake and eat it - save the “I am only human†sob/sympathy story for them when they find out.
Pololady, absolutely excellent post.
I agree, brilliant post Polo, says it all. :thumbup:
Completely agree with pololady ... if you're going to annouce it to the world then you have to expect a backlash. If you are married and cheating then fine, do it discreetly and don't underestimate the people you want to do it with.
C x
thanks for all your views I guest that the lesson here is not to tell people your story as they are not going to care!!!! I only want fun and I feel that been honest is important. My wife does not know that I swing, however, we talk about it alot together and I feel that she must know that I do. I just will not rub her nose in it !!!!
Can anyone say that they have not lied before.
and bowing at your feet (mind you, some do that already) 
assionkiss: :passionkiss: 
Good to see you finally made it into the land of the muppets :giggle: