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Mastectomy, ileostomy, colostomy, we still want to swing.
Sex God
Quote by Smooth2
Mother Nature has been unkind to some swingers giving us mastectomies, ileostomies or other surgical procedures which change our appearance a little but not us as people. Would YOU be comfortable with a partner who had one of these? Please be honest.
I doubt anyone who has not been in the situation, would be able to imagine how they might feel.
Casanova
in all honesty? Probably not. I guess the exception to the rule would depend on how well I new them and if I found their inner being sexy.
I'm not sure what an ileostomy is, is it similar to a colostomy?
I think I'd be a little trepidatious (is that a word?) in case anything got dislodged. We had a difficult time with my father-in-law's colostomy bag. So that would be the only thing that might put me off, worry that I might hurt someone.
As far as being attractive, sexy, etc - well as I've said on another thread, scars, and other unusual aspects just make a person more interesting, to my mind.
I think I'd be a little trepidatious (is that a word?) in case anything got dislodged. We had a difficult time with my father-in-law's colostomy bag. So that would be the only thing that might put me off, worry that I might hurt someone.
As far as being attractive, sexy, etc - well as I've said on another thread, scars, and other unusual aspects just make a person more interesting, to my mind.
Wow...I have so many bits missing (and not just from my head!) but am still functioning!
It's a hard question.
Seriously...I do have bits missing and enough scars to map out the roads of Britain!! It has never affected how people relate to me as a person or sexually.
Scars and slight disfigurement and 'wonky' bodies wouldn't bother me (or I'd be a right hypocrite!!). But (this may be controversial) extreme disfigurement would be something that I would not find attrative.
Another factor to sexual atteraction is how confident the person is in their skin...but that goes for everyone, not just people who have had surgery!!
It's a hard question.
Seriously...I do have bits missing and enough scars to map out the roads of Britain!! It has never affected how people relate to me as a person or sexually.
Scars and slight disfigurement and 'wonky' bodies wouldn't bother me (or I'd be a right hypocrite!!). But (this may be controversial) extreme disfigurement would be something that I would not find attrative.
Another factor to sexual atteraction is how confident the person is in their skin...but that goes for everyone, not just people who have had surgery!!
I do believe I once frolicked with a lady who had a colostomy bag or something similar- she was very dubious about uncovering of/touching relevant areas etc.
Not sure if I could deal with a colostomy bag if I could see it though, TBH. But I think thats a very personal thing- just ask anyone who's been to camp what I'm like if there's any mention of anything toilety
Not sure if I could deal with a colostomy bag if I could see it though, TBH. But I think thats a very personal thing- just ask anyone who's been to camp what I'm like if there's any mention of anything toilety
to be honest, i dont think it would bother me, i like to get to know the person first prior to any form of play, i would miss playing with nipples but im sure there would be other places to turn the lady on.
none of us are perfect, we all have our own dislikes on our bodies, and personally i think we all worry to much about how others percieve us.
none of us are perfect, we all have our own dislikes on our bodies, and personally i think we all worry to much about how others percieve us.
Quote by Smooth2I think you've hit the nail on the head. Many swingers look at the body and not the person within. I've just posted a topic about bad pics because mine always look crap. I know how this puts people off and i want to change how people see me.
but many potential swinging partners cannot see the person 'inside, only the body 'outside'.
I'm able bodied but can't even start to imagine how these people feel.
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
We've actually swung with a couple where the woman's had a mastectomy... so what?the poor woman had cancer and lost a breast... did it make her less of a woman? absolutely NOT!
People are fickle if they even THINK this would be a problem.. sorry and all that
here here :cheers:
If everyone was so hung up on physical appearance alone would anyone actually play or meet?
I have scars, marks, stretch marks, cellulite, fat bits, acne, bald patches, along with the physical problems of having neck and back problems, hell i even wear glasses
what im getting at is im not perfect and i dont expect to play with someone who is perfect because quite frankly do they exist? are they real? and if they do im afraid i might get rather bored!
A body can tell us a life story without uttering a word but a blank canvas is just that - blank.
Im alot more bothered about whats in someones head after all the brain is the ultimate sexual organ
Quote by TanKinky
We've actually swung with a couple where the woman's had a mastectomy... so what?
People are fickle if they even THINK this would be a problem.. sorry and all that
here here :cheers:
If everyone was so hung up on physical appearance alone would anyone actually play or meet?
I have scars, marks, stretch marks, cellulite, fat bits, acne, bald patches, along with the physical problems of having neck and back problems, hell i even wear glasses
what im getting at is im not perfect and i dont expect to play with someone who is perfect because quite frankly do they exist? are they real? and if they do im afraid i might get rather bored!
A body can tell us a life story without uttering a word but a blank canvas is just that - blank.
Im alot more bothered about whats in someones head after all the brain is the ultimate sexual organ :hump:
:thumbup: you said it girl!
Sex God
I don't usually worry about such things I'm much more interested in getting to know the person.
Sex God
I agree with what Jaymar and Tan say but it is true to say that there are people, who swing just for a shag and look for things on a shallow (I don't mean that in a nasty way) level. This is perfectly valid - we all need to acknowledge eachother's preferences and there is space for all.
So if people are out for plain sex and nothing else then, I guess it is quite possible that they will be judging by appearance to a greater degree than looking for the person within.
That is not to say that they would baulk at the colostomy or mastectomy but I think it is more likely that they will.
Personally, I prefer the whole package type of person - it is so much more fun and rewarding in my view. Imperfections are what make people fascinating in any case - as Tan says perfect is boring.
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So if people are out for plain sex and nothing else then, I guess it is quite possible that they will be judging by appearance to a greater degree than looking for the person within.
That is not to say that they would baulk at the colostomy or mastectomy but I think it is more likely that they will.
Personally, I prefer the whole package type of person - it is so much more fun and rewarding in my view. Imperfections are what make people fascinating in any case - as Tan says perfect is boring.
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Sex God
Quote by __random_orbit__
I believe I may have said something similar before, but:
Japanese potters used to deliberately add an imperfection to thier finest wares.. in the belief that the flaw would add to piece.
lp
If they're 3 foot high they're always better stood on the flaw.
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Quote by westerross
I believe I may have said something similar before, but:
Japanese potters used to deliberately add an imperfection to thier finest wares.. in the belief that the flaw would add to piece.
lp
If they're 3 foot high they're always better stood on the flaw.
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If they're three feet high, I'll place them on a pedestal
lp
Sex God
Answering this thread the lazy way, cause others have said it a lot more eleguantly thank I ever could
Well, I for one would have a fairly boring existance
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It is the whole package thing that matters. I like the person, the personality, the lumps, bumps, scars and its when all these things are pulled together into a human being you actually find what sex appeal really is.
Ok, there was no need to bring me into this discussion, an I will have you know I am not three foot, I am actually all of five foot (in my heels)
Smooth, going back to the original question as to whether this would put me off swining with a person/s who had a masectomy, colostomy etc. The honest answer is that I dont know. I could only actually answer this when I know what the whole package was like. Just because a person has a few added bits, or a few less bits would not in itself put me off, but if I didnt find the rest of the person attractive (and that starts mainly from their personality) then I just would not even consider swinging with them.
Hope that helps and sorry for rambling on a bit :wink:
Quote by jaymar
People are fickle if they even THINK this would be a problem.. sorry and all that
Quote by TanKinky
If everyone was so hung up on physical appearance alone would anyone actually play or meet? :
Well, I for one would have a fairly boring existance
Quote by TanKinky
A body can tell us a life story without uttering a word but a blank canvas is just that - blank.
Im alot more bothered about whats in someones head after all the brain is the ultimate sexual organ
:thumbup: Quote by westerross
Personally, I prefer the whole package type of person - it is so much more fun and rewarding in my view. Imperfections are what make people fascinating in any case - as Tan says perfect is boring.
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It is the whole package thing that matters. I like the person, the personality, the lumps, bumps, scars and its when all these things are pulled together into a human being you actually find what sex appeal really is.
Quote by westerross
If they're 3 foot high they're always better stood on the flaw.
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Ok, there was no need to bring me into this discussion, an I will have you know I am not three foot, I am actually all of five foot (in my heels)
Smooth, going back to the original question as to whether this would put me off swining with a person/s who had a masectomy, colostomy etc. The honest answer is that I dont know. I could only actually answer this when I know what the whole package was like. Just because a person has a few added bits, or a few less bits would not in itself put me off, but if I didnt find the rest of the person attractive (and that starts mainly from their personality) then I just would not even consider swinging with them.
Hope that helps and sorry for rambling on a bit :wink:
Quote by Smooth2
Mother Nature has been unkind to some swingers giving us mastectomies, ileostomies or other surgical procedures which change our appearance a little but not us as people. Would YOU be comfortable with a partner who had one of these? Please be honest.
if you really love someson then something like that shouldn't matter as far as how you feel about them.
Its funny i should find this this now becaue is was only the other day i went to a club and there was a woman there who had had a masectomis, she had only had the one breat removed and she was walking about with her towel round her waiste and nothing on top and i remember looking at her and thinking 'god how brave is she?' to me she looked fine it was obvious what what wrong with her and i doubt any decent person would have said anything but i really don't think if i was in her situation i could go to such places, so in my opinion its good we are all diffarent and no matter what if your happy keep swinging :thumbup:
Sex God
Gosh i actually wrote something that made sense
Must of been the vodka.
Must of been the vodka.
Sex God
Quote by redpantherman
Im alot more bothered about whats in someones head after all the brain is the ultimate sexual organ
:thumbup:! Cannot resist compulsion to ask you to fuck me brains out!
Oh go on then ya twisted me arm! :hump:
Master of Sex
I have been in threesomes with a couple where the man had a colostomy bag. No problem at all, they were great fun to be with and we played together several times. Another couple I play with, the woman has had a stroke and one arm doesn't work too well but she is still hot and horny. Sexy comes from inside.
And I agree about naturist beaches. It teaches you to take bodies as they come. Women with a mastectomy can walk about on one and feel proud of themselves.
Now being tubby, ancient, balding and hairy is a different matter.
And I agree about naturist beaches. It teaches you to take bodies as they come. Women with a mastectomy can walk about on one and feel proud of themselves.
Now being tubby, ancient, balding and hairy is a different matter.
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
Im alot more bothered about whats in someones head after all the brain is the ultimate sexual organ
:thumbup:! Cannot resist compulsion to ask you to fuck me brains out!
:laughabove:
Fuck your brains out? Omigosh, my sides hurt!
Stand aside :lol2: this wont take long :hump:
Quote by t-and-k
I am a student nurse and, if im honest i think i would find it difficult if i could visibly see things but otherwise, bring it on!
I have stretch marks, cellulite and a jelly belly and hope people would see me for the person i am rather than what i look like.
Ok, maybe that sounds slightly hypocritical but im sure you get my point!
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i must admit it does sound slightly hypocritical lol
If you want people to see you for the person you are rather than your looks why can't you do it in return?
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I am a student nurse and, if im honest i think i would find it difficult if i could visibly see things but otherwise, bring it on!
I have stretch marks, cellulite and a jelly belly and hope people would see me for the person i am rather than what i look like.
Ok, maybe that sounds slightly hypocritical but im sure you get my point!
xx
i must admit it does sound slightly hypocritical lol
If you want people to see you for the person you are rather than your looks why can't you do it in return?
NN, I'm guessing here- but tk may have the issues I do. Weirdly, I could deal with an open, gaping wound- but when things turn "toilety" :scared:
We all have our Achilles heel I guess.
I think it would depend on the person and what they had, I dont think I would have an issue with most things but there again we are kind of people who are shallow and go on pictures of people before we meet them, we also prefer not to get to know people to well before shagging them so we wouldnt have time to get to know the inner person.