Been a member for a bit now,but never meet anyone yet{very nervous and a little shy}but what does worry us is meeting someone who is not what they seem.
Has anyone had a bad experience with anybody whats got out of hand?
any advice ? would a club be better?
kate and tom
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jus make sure that if you do mee tsomeone its i na public place, pref you are not alone. dont agree to anything on the first meet.
make sure you dont go straight home drive around to make sure your not being followed. if you get the feeling things are not right, then make an excuse and exit as soon and politly as poss.
just be carefull.
and report them to site admin if you think they are dodgy.
good luck.
make sure you dont go straight home drive around to make sure your not being followed. if you get the feeling things are not right, then make an excuse and exit as soon and politly as poss.
just be carefull.
and report them to site admin if you think they are dodgy.
good luck.
as others have said, if you are in any doubt then don't meet.
Also if you get that feeling at any point then stop and walk away. Life on here is no different to anywhere else and by numbers alone there are bound to be some nutters. Just ensure you rely on gut instinct and do what you are comfortable with.
Also if you get that feeling at any point then stop and walk away. Life on here is no different to anywhere else and by numbers alone there are bound to be some nutters. Just ensure you rely on gut instinct and do what you are comfortable with.
as for 'really wrong'.... nah, I have met one person on here that I seriously regret meeting. I have had one idiot who had to be warned off me by admin.
Including the lovely people that I have met at Munches and the odd social that I wouldn't fuck and those people that I have met in various ways and gone onto enjoy fucking I am easily into the hundreds.....
so, as a numbers game I would say that is quite good odds for the nutter/lovely ratio
Including the lovely people that I have met at Munches and the odd social that I wouldn't fuck and those people that I have met in various ways and gone onto enjoy fucking I am easily into the hundreds.....
so, as a numbers game I would say that is quite good odds for the nutter/lovely ratio 
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Kate
Your profile says warwickshire, so why not try the Coventry Christmas social, which is now back on and to be held in coventry on December 13th
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/288305.html
Socials / munches are a good way to meet people off here without pressure
John
Your profile says warwickshire, so why not try the Coventry Christmas social, which is now back on and to be held in coventry on December 13th
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/288305.html
Socials / munches are a good way to meet people off here without pressure
John
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I've not had a meet that has gone awfully wrong. Possibly a couple I regret now in hindsight... but not majorly.
You have to learn to trust your instincts and also be clear about what you want.
You have to learn to trust your instincts and also be clear about what you want.
I personally wouldnt recommend a club , what you are doing is right by advertising what you want and who you want to meet . All of us at some stage or other meet people that are not quite what you want just be polite, stating you will be in touch at a later date ??? none of us like to be let down after you have made your self look the bees knees but thats life we cant fancy everyone ?.It takes time experience and the perseverance to meet quality swingers who make it worth while , just carry on what you are doing its all fun ....and if a meet doesnt work go home and bonk each other silly that will remind you that thats why we do this swinging scene for each other xxxxxx
steve xx
steve xx
Nervous and shy! That was us......note the ..was!
We drove round a roundabout about 5 times before taking the turning off that lead to the hotel!
There are people on here who are not they seem, that will be your call to decide who they are, but saying that , there are many many genuine lovely folk on this site too!
You will always hear bad stories about some meets, but we strongly feel they are in the minority. My advice would be tread carefully, do not be rushed into a meet, chat loads, on here, msn, or by phone, then just go for it, if you feel all is ok between you all!
It is all meant to be fun, so dip your toe, and enjoy the ride!
Lucys post.
We drove round a roundabout about 5 times before taking the turning off that lead to the hotel!
There are people on here who are not they seem, that will be your call to decide who they are, but saying that , there are many many genuine lovely folk on this site too!
You will always hear bad stories about some meets, but we strongly feel they are in the minority. My advice would be tread carefully, do not be rushed into a meet, chat loads, on here, msn, or by phone, then just go for it, if you feel all is ok between you all!
It is all meant to be fun, so dip your toe, and enjoy the ride!
Lucys post.
Sex God
Quote by kate07Personally I've always got to know people socially first, but I guess if you don't want to socialise all you can do is jump in and accept that sometimes it may not be as pleasant as you had hoped.
Been a member for a bit now,but never meet anyone yet{very nervous and a little shy}but what does worry us is meeting someone who is not what they seem.
Has anyone had a bad experience with anybody whats got out of hand?
any advice ? would a club be better?
kate and tom
I would say that absolutely everyone falls into the category of "not what they seem" if your expectations are based purely on a website profile. That's not because people are generally deceptive, I think it's just that it's really hard to get an accurate picture of someone you haven't met, so I would say try not to have too many expectations to start with - just turn up and see if you like them. And if a new person is not what you hoped for, don't feel obliged to go through with anything out of a sense of politeness - it's perfectly OK to say sorry, we don't think you're right for us.
