meets

16 Apr 2007

hi all xx

when u meet someone , a single or a cpl , afterwards do u feel sometimes u been used in a bad way , when they dont even say thanks or keep in touch afterwards, i'm a person who like to make friends aswell , if the meet did not go well , afterwards and u wanted to meet again , a thanks but no thanks be a good thing to say , not just blank u out , which with me , when someone does that it makes me feel really bad, ..... but most of the time i do keep friends with the ones i have met! but it's the odd few , when u know they have had a really great fun time, :lol: and u let them in to your home , then nothing afterwards, i know this is swinging site , but it's good to stay friends x at the end of the day respect for all xxx wink

so feel free to add your say xxx cool

16 Apr 2007

See my rant in the steam room...
Stems from the same origins I think kiss

16 Apr 2007

Not everyone likes to stay friends afterwards. Although a simple thank you wouldnt go a miss. I definately do not to want to stay friends with everyone that i meet. I am friendly and I do keep in touch with some but I havent got the time to be friends with every person that I shag. Sometimes I wouldnt want to either lol

Louise xx

16 Apr 2007

i know me to , but a simple thanks no thanks , sometimes it's worse when they say yer great time love to meet again , then nothing ......pissy me off sometimes xxx allways when u really get on with them too ..... life i guess xx

16 Apr 2007

hi rachel i totally agree with you

16 Apr 2007

Quote by racheyxx
i know me to , but a simple thanks no thanks , sometimes it's worse when they say yer great time love to meet again , then nothing ......pissy me off sometimes xxx allways when u really get on with them too ..... life i guess xx

This has happened to me even after social meets. You think it all goes well, they're really up for a 'proper' meet, promise to arrange a date then fall off the edge of the earth dunno

I would much prefer to be told straight, if not face to face then certainly by pm/email

16 Apr 2007

it's crazy , with me , most of the time , love to chat them 1st , to get a little friendship up 1st , but stil hurts tho when u let them into your home, so called get what they want , then go ...... and nothing atferwards ....i have let my heart go 2 times on this site , never again , so i like make lots of mates , just makes me feel used big time afterwards when they say "meet again " and dont ...

16 Apr 2007

Don't take it personally though hun. For every person that does this to you there will be 3 that won't.
Look at it this way, would you want to meet them again after being treated like that?
Shrug it off ( not easy I know but you will ) and move on to the next wink

16 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Shrug it off ( not easy I know but you will ) and move on to the next

Exactly

16 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Don't take it personally though hun. For every person that does this to you there will be 3 that won't.
Look at it this way, would you want to meet them again after being treated like that?
Shrug it off ( not easy I know but you will ) and move on to the next

:wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:
:giggle:
Louise xx

16 Apr 2007

Quote by Mallock2006

Shrug it off ( not easy I know but you will ) and move on to the next

Exactly

:wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:
:giggle:
Louise xx

16 Apr 2007

This maybe a bit 'off' but it is a swinging site. I have met a few people wink

I have had a lovely time with all of them.. I am honoured to be in their lives and sharing their bodies for the time that we are together. (2 hours - 48 hours)
I never promise, nor do I expect friendship. Some of the people have gone on to become mates.. and I smile when I see them 'around' have a banter and chat. Others I say hi to. Most I have no intention of meeting again. They helped me tick some boxes and I had a lovely time.. but time/circumstance/location/stuff all mean that the experience won't be repeated. I wouldn't be rude or impolite. I don't initiate text chats but will reply when they text. I don't ever make promises prior to meeting that I will meet them again.
There has been a couple of people who I would meet again and who clearly don't want to. I presume that I fall into the same criteria of time/circumstance/location/stuff being an issue. Whatever it is, it is their perogative. I certainly bear them no ill will. It is a swinging site after all and if I wanted mates/partners etc then I would be looking elsewhere. I understand that some relationships on here do progress but it isn't something I would ever expect or get hurt over.
Perhaps set your expectations out more clearly before you start with them rachey? I am sorry that you are feeling hurt.
splendid

16 Apr 2007

its good to still be freinds with them or at least say hi either when you meet at a munch /social what ever at least to be polite ,have met people at swing clubs where you have played and they expect to meet at club every week to play with just them,but in a club all have so much in this scene you see people come and go its best not to get attached and you will not expect to get hurt in any way way hope you have a blast keep your chin up

16 Apr 2007

not that i have met anyone myself ofcause..
but surely its simply good manners to at least say hi. it would be totally rude to blank or shun anyone you had the pleasure of meeting.

16 Apr 2007

You mean people actually do meet each other on this site????
Well I never...........

Quote by racheyxx
it's crazy , with me , most of the time , love to chat them 1st , to get a little friendship up 1st , but stil hurts tho when u let them into your home, so called get what they want , then go ...... and nothing atferwards ....i have let my heart go 2 times on this site , never again , so i like make lots of mates , just makes me feel used big time afterwards when they say "meet again " and dont ...

Rachey
as others have said before me, the harsh reality is that this is a swingers site and loads of people are here to just have no strings sex, nothing more nothing less.
Not everyones cup of tea to be life long friends after the event.
But for others the friendship is a hugely important aspect of it all.
I put myself firmly in the latter category but each to their own.

16 Apr 2007

cool thanks allxx lol

i like going in the chat room too, and when u meet peeps off there , then dont speak afterwards and in the room , i just think it is rude and have no manners at all , yer ok it's a swinging site , but i'm a person who like to make friends ,the room i go in is mainly the mids room , it like a 2nd family really , still good to have manners !! just respectfull ......yer ok not everyones cup of tea, just the person im really .....i been swinging 6 years (with the ex)and 6 months on my own :lol: , and most do still chat to me and has become good mates, i been chatting to lots over the years but have not meet , so the friendship is good , but just naffs me off sometimes xxx mad

i dont really wish for a partnership , as i like the fun more , but still good to be friends xxx and know where u stand lol cool

16 Apr 2007

Quote by racheyxx
it's worse when they say yer great time love to meet again , then nothing ......

Sex is a very personal thing and if you meet someone and it doesn't work for you it is sometimes hard to say to someone, "I really appreciate you meeting me and playing with me but it didn't really do it for me", without sounding rude and dismissive. It is a particularly British thing I think. How often do we ask someone how they are and they almost always reply 'fine' even though they may be far from fine?
That is why I tend to meet older women and couples on here, as often with maturity comes the ability to deal honestly with someone without hurting their feelings.
I also like to get to know people before we actually meet. In fact this is one of the really enjoyable parts of swinging. The meeting and getting to know new people. I know you can't always guarantee what someone will be like in 'real life' but you can go a lot of the way towards it.
And as someone else said, would you really want to meet someone again who basically ignores you after they have fucked you?
Having said that the last five or six people I have met on here have been absolutely lovely in every respect (they know who they are smile

) and some of them I can see being friends for life.
Take care Rachey and good luck.
Lonni xxx

16 Apr 2007

Hi Rachey.
Are they stupid or just plain rude? Either way, why would they not want to be sociable afterwards.
I reckon you'd probably struggle to keep most of us away afterwards! :twisted:

16 Apr 2007

I sometimes think of the Soft Cell Numbers after a particularly easy lay...
'Numbers
Who's the person that you woke up next to today...
Until you wake up one day
And find that you're a number
Body one, body two, body three, body four
Body one, body two, body three, body four
Numbers'
But then I get depressed.

17 Apr 2007

Rachey i was a single fem for 2 years ,do as i did fuck n run !! enjoy but dont expect more than that, then if there is more its a bonus!! well most of the time wink

xxj

17 Apr 2007

Simple but enlightened. And so true!

17 Apr 2007

kinda agree with most comments because we all have diffrent idea,s on swinging some want long term friendships thats fine if thats what you want. Some want just one night stands that is allso fine, but no matter what you want manners do not cost anything so a polite thx not cost anything. If people do not want to keep in touch really think they should just be honest and say so. We kinda hope we can stay friends with people we meet but dont want them in our pocket so to speak.

17 Apr 2007

Quote by racheyxx
hi all xx
when u meet someone , a single or a cpl , afterwards do u feel sometimes u been used in a bad way , when they dont even say thanks or keep in touch afterwards, i'm a person who like to make friends aswell , if the meet did not go well , afterwards and u wanted to meet again , a thanks but no thanks be a good thing to say , not just blank u out , which with me , when someone does that it makes me feel really bad, ..... but most of the time i do keep friends with the ones i have met! but it's the odd few , when u know they have had a really great fun time, :lol: and u let them in to your home , then nothing afterwards, i know this is swinging site , but it's good to stay friends x at the end of the day respect for all xxx
so feel free to add your say xxx

In our opinion 'most' swinging couples are quite protective about their relationship and tend to try and keep emotionally detached from their 'hobby.' Most sigle guys on here openly advertise that they are looking for NSA fun and as single guys do...... so don't be surprised.
Having said that there is always room for politeness in this world but it is something that seems to be in short supply.

17 Apr 2007

hmmm... I've just been having a little think about this, and a little think can be a dangerous thing, so beware!
as far as singles guys keeping in touch with single women or couples after a meet:
Yes, indeed.. certainly at the parting after meeting, or perhaps in a mail/text the following day or whenever, a little civility would go a long way.. especialy if all appeared well, and an apparent good time was had by all.. only good manners, innit?
however... let me just say this, and this is where the *little thinking/lp's dangerzone* may lay;
some chaps, only some, I hasten to add... could possibly find themselves in a little bit of a quandry after a meeting... even on a social level... or indeed after some preliminary contact through on-site PM etc... where they may be wary of appearing to be pestering the previous contact.. see what I mean?
It could well be that further contact, be that a meeting, chatting online ... social>?<friendship could well be on thier minds, although as is often pointed out on this site, they wouldn't want to become labeled as the sort of chaps who might be pests..
It can be a little bit of a problem striking the right balance at times...
there.... I've stopped thinking now, honest...
you may well think it very unlikely I thought before posting... but one thing's for sure... I'm stopping typing...
righhhht...
now!
lp

23 Apr 2007

Totaly agree with you Racheyxx
Having met you we know how nice a person you are smile

but you have to remember that not all people are the same as you.
Like everything in Life you have to take the rough with the smooth and how ever frustrating things can get you just have to put it down to experiance....
Have fun Hun kiss

Mr & Mrs goodtimez

23 Apr 2007

i would never ignore someone i had played with, but not all are the 'friends' making types
i have some fantastic friends on the scene but not all of them i've played with.
i dont particularly think i would want someone to say 'thanks for shagging me' but its nice to get a thanks for a great time and was nice to meet you message.

23 Apr 2007

I've met people I've never seen again. I've met people who have become really good mates. I've met one or two that have become very close friends.
Everyone's different, thakfully wink

23 Apr 2007

I agree with flower, not about the erection problem obviously but the embarressing side of it. We have met some couples that we still chat to but kno we wont meet them again, other couples can become very pushy to meet again, and we don't like to be nasty, so we have blocked them from our msn. On the whole we still chat to all that we have shagged !!! lol

23 Apr 2007

Quote by dirtydiva
and we don't like to be nasty, so we have blocked them from our msn.

LMAO that should get the message over. Dunno why but that just tickled me.

23 Apr 2007

Quote by LondonPlaything
hmmm... I've just been having a little think about this, and a little think can be a dangerous thing, so beware!
as far as singles guys keeping in touch with single women or couples after a meet:
Yes, indeed.. certainly at the parting after meeting, or perhaps in a mail/text the following day or whenever, a little civility would go a long way.. especialy if all appeared well, and an apparent good time was had by all.. only good manners, innit?
however... let me just say this, and this is where the *little thinking/lp's dangerzone* may lay;
some chaps, only some, I hasten to add... could possibly find themselves in a little bit of a quandry after a meeting... even on a social level... or indeed after some preliminary contact through on-site PM etc... where they may be wary of appearing to be pestering the previous contact.. see what I mean?
It could well be that further contact, be that a meeting, chatting online ... social>?<friendship could well be on thier minds, although as is often pointed out on this site, they wouldn't want to become labeled as the sort of chaps who might be pests..
It can be a little bit of a problem striking the right balance at times...
there.... I've stopped thinking now, honest...
you may well think it very unlikely I thought before posting... but one thing's for sure... I'm stopping typing...
righhhht...
now!
lp

We met with a guy (through the ads here) who got it just right. He said "you won't hear from me, unless I hear from you first." :thumbup: