well it seems to me to be rather unfair in that if one is in a relationship be that male/female or male/male female/female it is ok to advertise for a 3rd person or couple of any sort, yet if one is on their own it is looked on (if one is male) that anything other than gay male or hetrosexual female is ! I agree its irritating to get a pm from those that don't read YOUR ad but what harm is it to profile ones self ? I am sure that there are Bi gay couples that would seek a swinger of the oppsite sex, but again how does one put it if I as a single male is placing the ad ?
I think we need two more choices on the profile setting
Bi female couple
Bi male couple
Surely if a female couple are looking for a male they are a bi couple and not gay?
H.x
There is already an option for couple with Bi female.
No i meant two bi women, couple with bi female implies male/female couple.
H.x
I don't know ! people are not all the same. For whatever reason a gay male may suddenly decide to swing with a female or a hetrosexual couple may want a bi male/female ? My own ad for example is what I seek and I agree that a pm from those that clearly have not understood MY ad are a pain, but that is not to say that I would reply to YOUR ad as it is not what I want.
but then they wouldnt be gay, they would be Bi or Bi-curious!
Yes ! but I know gay (and happy to be so) men who seek a female in their relationship for whatever reason , but a single male could not say that he was Bi if he was seeking a female lesbian ! I don't know why a man would want a lesbian relationship but then as i say. how does one best discribe such a request in an ad. Clearly there is not going to be much milage in it anyway , but if that is their preference and they don't pm other ads that clearly state preferences then what is the problem?
If I were in a gay relationship and my male partner wanted to do exactly the same things to a female as he would do to me then he would be Bi. I however am not, I am gay.! . Its wrong to assume that just because one is male in gender, that there should be any reason for me to want to use my organ on a female and why could not a lesbian in the role of a "male" not be allowed to penetrate me in exactly the same way as she would her female partner if she wanted to ?
yet you say in your profile you're straight'
I'm sorry i'm confused.
H.x