Hello All
Hope life is treating you well and that you are flourishing.
Just had a question: what are the minimum requirements before meeting a person? Do you expect to know their real name or occupation or age or location or these things do not matter? Should a person feel offended if you ask them for this info or should you get worried if they decline to provide it?
(Before you respond, please try and see this from the point of view of a single female going out to meet a single male. Obviously couples are safer together.)
I look forward to reading your point of view. Thank you.
I'm not an experienced swingewr with a hatful of meets under my belt but.........
I would expect a lot of these things to come to light in the conversations you had before the meet. I've always taken the effort to get to know someone through PM ping pongs before I've met them.
Regardless of what questions you ask there is always a risk in meeting a stranger as they could have lied to you. This risk extends to everyone, female, male or couples.
I chat to the people, on the telling bone, quite extensively before I meet. 'Information' isn't what I gather. It is more a 'feel' for we get along and I am attracted to them by the way they speak (and vica versa)then we will meet.
When I meet them, generally at a cafe/pub etc I ensure that we are both driving to the place and I meet them at their car and text their licence plate to a friend.
All that said my job role and career history involves assessing people and identifying when they have issues that need resolving for them to be happy, lead more constructive lives etc etc blah blah. So I can and do ask questions that will identify anyone that I wouldn't touch with a bargepole. If I am in ANY doubt I don't meet.
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Nope, I haven't heard of that and it would be discriminatory to do so (on the basis of sexual preferences). If it happened, I would fight it with nails and teeth and win.
For men and women who are afraid to be recognised, there is the private gallery function at this site where one can only view pics by invitation.
I like honest, strong men.
She would win it no problem. Any employer dismissing someone on those grounds (unless it could be proved that someone was at risk) would loose a tribunal. ACAS would have a field day.
usually chat in the room which develops to other means of online chat or pics sometimes.
arrange a place in public to meet and go for it.
In my experience people those who go on chatting without progressing are not going to meet you.
but also meeting new people just for a drink and chat is also on how you both feel at the time doesnt it.
As an older guy. I'm sure it's better for females to meet 'socially' ie. quiet drink or decent club etc. and make it quite clear that it is just that to begin with....we men are notorious at misinterpreting ladies signals, and fear being dismissed as wimps or geeks if we pussyfoot around trying not to come on too heavy. As for personal details.....would'nt suit me to say too much, nor would I expect other's life history! At the end of the day, always best to play safe...there are some funny folk out there......