Whilst I appreciate that we're on a swinging site, I do still have some morals. I had a PM conversation with someone who said that he ticked all my boxes (so to speak) apart from one and on looking at his profile I knew immediately which one. So when I advised him that I wasn't interested as he was married he said that it was "a contradiction to be on a swinging site and have morals". :shock: :undecided:
Now I realise I'm a bit on the fussy side and most of my questions on my profile are pretty flexible... except one. I don't play with married men who are playing away from home without their partner's knowledge. That's my choice. I prefer it when someone is honest about it on their profile because I know a lot of people here don't have the same rules as me. That's their choice.
It's all about informed consent after all. :thumbup:
The comment struck me as quite a big generalisation really but it made me wonder whether people do, in fact, think that because we swing we have no morals?
Any thoughts?
i myself also have the 'no married' rule as i see it swinging for me means consent and that a married person playing without his /her partners consent is cheating and not being that open ... and if they are lying to their loving partner how honest are they being with themselves ... although i also must admit i dont go about asking potential playmates in clubs or at parties if they are married ... perhaps double standards as the information can be added to a profile and the profile can be read
feel like i am waffling now so gonna leave it for now
I think to hold onto some morals and still be able to and maintain this lifestyle is normal. I believe in that way you are being true to yourself, as at the end of the day you are only answerable to your own conscience.
Hope that make sense!
To me a well written profile with a detailed and carfully worded information doesnt mean you're fussy. It means you're taking the time and effort to let others know not to waste their own time and effort.
The choices you make when meeting anyone are always going to be based on your preferences. The moral code you chose to live by is a part of this.
The term 'swinging' covers a big area and means different things to different people - it's not just a bowl full of car keys at a party! Joining a swinging site doesn't necessarily mean you'll shag anyone and everyone, you're not expected to abandon your moral code before you join and you're not obliged to meet anyone.
Warning!!!!
The discussion of morals anwhere is a lifelong conversation, the discussion of morals on a swinging site is almost always SCARY and inconclusive with lots of liars and casualties.
Peace
Well its all about meanings and definitions DG.
Morals are really just a social construct, imposed basic regulations which help make the fabric of our system of living together work more efficiently. Of course just as society is a living dynamic thing so are its 'moral' requirements and as such they lend themselves to some bending and adjustment as they develop. That development is not always successful as it is constantly fluid and sometimes the adjustment of morals takes place more as a consequence of completely selfish motives of the individual. Unfortunately the human condition dictates that selfish motives often overtake our awareness of the greater good of society and we lose sight of the bigger picture. Thats why you will often see the same individuals expressing their intense worry about the break down of the family unit and the moral decline of young peoples values, whilst happily flouting convention in a swinging lifestyle blissfully unaware of the connections between the two.
We are all just human, with all the weaknesses and vagueness which that entails so sometimes, in fact mostly, we live our lives in a messy mix of morals that suit us and areas of our lives we choose(unconsciously or not)to carefully avoid moral evaluation of even in our own applies to pretty much every person that exists with the possible exception of sociopaths . Either way it makes the subject a difficult one to have a conversation of specifics about, especially when its swinging.
Of course some would say that difficult discussions are the most productive, but I just come here for fun ;-)
Hope I took my time enough x
Peace
No need Red, life will do that eventually mate
Yay!!! blokey is back as bloke n not R6
wb blokey xxxxxxxx
) and also because after shagging a few (ahem!) gay guys from another site and one of them sending me 17 texts in an hour, I just don't want that kind of hassle! Hence why married guys might be a more attractive option - i.e. you don't get the bunny boiler syndrome kicking in as often in my experience. I'm sure some members on here can/will prove that theory wrong though and have horrendous examples of 'stalkers' etc etc
:P
) I do have morals and some rules I abide by. I have the 'no marrieds/attached' rule for guys and a lower age limit. It's something that's no entirely written in stone ( as in marrieds swinging with their partner's full consent or mature younger guys ) but it's a strict guideline.
A simple fuck off rpm your not my type will suffice! 
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