Have a good think about and write down what you want from whatever it is you want to yourself why you want it, imagine how happy you`ll be when you`ve achieved your goal and hang on to that feeling to spur you on.
Are you able to tell us what it is you`d like to do?
I started a similar sort of thread to this a while ago about life coaching etc. It ended up putting me in touch with someone on here who has made a huge difference to the way I think about alot of situations and without her help I would still be sinking fast instead of fighting to swim.
So if you ever thought that life coaching and counselling was a waste of time...think again it works for some of us.
Love
FIRE xxx
I am trying to see the past as just that the past.I have been someone who has dwelled on things that went wrong long ago, things I just can't change now.
I try to act in the present, in ways that make the present worthwhile and give the future some promise, hoping to see myself in a better place, a beter situation in that future.
Of course "life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans" lol but better to try than to mope or get seriously depressed even!
Doing things can be as much about habit as anything else. What is habit? It is doing something that made you feel good yesterday, so you do it again. You do feel good again, do it again. It is about brain chemistry.
If you need motivation, you need a high, your natural endorphins provide that high. You need to do something you like and then do it again, until you are hooked on it. That will motivate you to do it again.
What ever you do, run, sex, marshal arts, good deeds, you do it because you feel good about it. If at sometime you stop you may need to get hooked again to regain your motivation.
Therefore I say 'To be motivated you need to feel pleasure in what you do, or in the result of what you do.'
Travis.
You don't have to be a Buddhist, a woman or a Tibetan to practice Tara meditations. They are specifically designed to help with illness, fear that can dominate your life, or other serious life obstacles - or whenever you lose heart. It may help those obstacles that are causing you, or anyone else to lose motivation.
If 'hippy dippy crap' offends then please don't read on. However, what have you got to lose? ;)
I really hope that somebody finds this useful, if only a little! If anyone would like the link to this or any other info just drop me a PM.
Meditation - 'Tara Mantra'.
(Tara meditations are for courage and healing.)
Tara is the most beloved female deity of Tibetan Buddhism and she has inspired many different meditation practices through the centuries. Most involve visualizing Tara and then asking her for help.
Gelek Rimpoche puts it this way: "Tara meditations serve a dual purpose. You want to win good results for yourself, and so you ask for Tara's healing blessings so that your life can be long, healthy, and free from distress. But you also want to serve. You understand that gaining Tara's blessings for yourself will enable you to share those blessings with others, expanding Tara's healing energy to those around you and even to all beings in the whole universe."
The Dalai Lama explains: "The practice of Deity Yoga meditation Tantra (like this Tara meditation practice) is primarily to transform how you see yourself, others, the environment, and your activities. By visualizing yourself as having compassionate motivations, a pure body, and conduct that benefits others, like Tara has, you can make this transformation in your outlook." Different Tantric Deities have different qualities, and are used for different purposes. You must know about the deity you choose.
The scholar Martin Wilson describes Tara this way: "She is the karma-devi the Goddess of Action or Queen of the Action family. Her specialty is acting with lightnening swiftness to aid those in distress. In Buddhist Tantra, males represent compassionate skillful means and females represent the wisdom of emptiness. Tara is female by deliberate choice inorder to show that a woman's body is at least as good as a man's for benefiting sentient beings and attaining enlightenment."
The Tara Mantra
OM TARE TUTARE TURE SOHA
(repeat mantra 3, 9, 21 or 108 times)
It is not necessary to know the meaning of a sacred phase to benefit.
Kiss, is your post saying that; I choose a deity that I aspire to emulate. Then I visualize that deity and chat with it.
In that case I am already motivated. The meditation is simply a path to move along. I am only chatting with an aspect of myself. It can be said that when all parts of me agree I am at peace, in harmony.
Motivation is still there, but to do what, only what we have decided.
Travis
one aspect of the whole, broken away, that the universe may understand it's self.
we were going to mention post christmas blues might just be a factor, but motivation is easy when you are new to the thing that your doing ie going to the gym or having sex with a new partner etc, but becomes more difficult when something doesnt seem quite so new or exciting in our opinion,
thats when you have to work at it and find something in yourself that strives to get on an do it (whatever it is), its my opinion (mr srne) that motivation is a personal thing and some are more motivated in the long term than others (but we all have our slack periods)
My motivation is quite high while miss srne's is not, i go training everyday after work, even if im knackered but thats possibly because its routine, and i think thats the key issue in motivation for something, make it part of your routine and it will be easier to stick to!!
hope this helps!!? xx
Wise words or rubbish i dunno but popped into my head an thought it might be of some use.
Ok. That may sound a little confusing, so i explain a little better. For example: if you found a new interest (whatever it may be, sexual or non-sexual) and you really enjoyed this interest but due to maybe being a little down or just the pressures of life in general, you find yourself wanting to do or achieve things but just cannot get motivated, how do you motivate yourself to carry on with your new found interest. I realise that it may not be as simple as im making it sound as you can motivate in many different ways but you never know, i might find what im looking for.
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