Munches: are you a wallflower or a room worker?

15 Mar 2009

Quote by Cherrytree
What I'm saying is, if a newbie feels that they weren't given as good a welcome as they were hoping for, it might be because at that early stage of the night, people are sometimes too anxious to be open to new people.

good point.....
but i doubt that some people shed their prejudices so easily wink

15 Mar 2009

Mancunian, I am sorry you had a bad experience at the munches you attended, but can I ask that you do take into consideration all the work the organsiers do put into arranging these events and perhaps some wont have time to read this thread as they are up to their eyes making name badges, liaising with DJ's and talking to the venue to make sure everything goes ok on the night.
I would also add that the majority of munch organisers do offer 'hand-holders' to anyone who is new or who is nervous about attending, they give out contact details, arrange to meet new members outside the venue and generally spend their night running round making sure that all guests are comfortable and enjoying themselves.
Also there should NEVER be a boundary between seasoned and new members and the organiser should ensure that this never happens. If it does, and they dont do anything bout it, then I would question why they are organising munches/socials?

15 Mar 2009

handy hint.....find Cherrytree and she will drag u round to everyone in the room weather she knows them or not and introduce you....and herself too!!!
guaranteed your feet wont touch the floor all night!!

15 Mar 2009

I love munches and socials - I'm normally somewhere on the dance floor wriggling me butt and always happy for peeps to say hello.
I'm not good at introducing myself to others though - far too shy. I do arrange to meet members who haven't been to a m/s before via the chat room sometimes.
I like to go to pre drinks if one is arranged too - brill way to meet people who are going in the evening. Makes it less nerve racking as you know a few faces then.
As a single going alone I still get a bit nervous (even after all the ones I've attended), nothing worse than being stood on your own for ages holding up the bar, hoping someone will talk to you. First one I went to I requested a hand holder and this fantastic lady introduced me to the lovely lot inside the venue (wouldn't go in on my own :lol2 smile

so I can recommend requesting one :thumbup:

16 Mar 2009

Quote by niceguysdoexist
I tend to find someone I know and latch on to them for dear life looking I guess more of a wall nettle I guess would describe me.I do love badge watching though and putting faces to icons.
My hearing is also none too brilliant and I can't actually hear very much when there is background music so struggle to hear what people are saying and although I can lip read I am only really good at it if I know the person well. (accents and things throw me)quote]
I am so glad there's someone else that has the same problem as poor hearing comes from lots of ear infections when I was a kid and being beaten up once which perforated my ear drum. Whenever there's lots of background noise I struggle to hear general conversation and I feel embarrased when I say pardon for the 5th time or ask the person next to me what was sai. It's a real social well I'll just have to feel my way around

Thirded.

I have trouble as well because of years abusing my hearing (weekends of clubbing 'til 6 in the morning next to a 2kw speaker tends to make you slightly mutton sad

)
we ought to start a club...lol
am a bit better than that, in that my hearing problems aren't really critical (but yes, eye-mouth contact helps)..
ear infections as a child, perforated eardrums..been there, done the lot...in my case it was an effin' wasp that did it, at age 6..that and flying with an ear infection as a baby didn't help either.
anyhoo..back on topic...definitely wallflower. when I meet people I know I can be very lively..but otherwise, taking that first step is going to be a problem for me, as I'm a flower of the sulking variety...I even come over as standoffish, when truth is that I'm simply shy..duh
haven't been to a munch, 'till now..
will consider the option
actually I'm making friends with a girl..and we'd come together...which means we could always chat the night away/get bladdered/bugger off and have fun in the bushes :giggle:

16 Mar 2009

Quote by DeeCee
Wall flower or room walker?
As a single male I have no choice in the matter. It's walk or die. Sounds simple doesn't it? In realality it's some thing else. It's damed hard work and scary too.

I have to say, that this isnt the case for this single male.
If i was invited to a social event and felt i needed to be sat at the side of the room on my own, scared to approach people and burdened under the weight of percieved discrimination, then I wouldnt go in the first place.
I went to a munch recently and spent some of the night feeling beady eyes burning a hole in my back.... it just gave me the incentive to enjoy myself even more....whilst challenging those who have a problem with my personality, status and objectives to deal with it..... A munch is a social occasion for all, afterall.
I find it hard to understand why people root themselves to one part of the room and make a "corner" for them and their friends that is hard to penetrate and somewhat seperates them from the rest of the group.
Im sure i'm not the only one who finds it off putting to approach certain groups who seperate themselves in this way.
OMG I thought you were female! redface

Or at least part of a couple.
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles....
In edit: although, apart from the single male icon, your profile doesn't actually say what you are so I may have read it before and not noticed confused

16 Mar 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
OMG I thought you were female!
Or at least part of a couple.
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles....
In edit: although, apart from the single male icon, your profile doesn't actually say what you are so I may have read it before and not noticed

single male icon?? where, who?
seriously..is there a way to tell who's behind a nickname without going and perve the profile? I more often than not am unable to make the distinction except in the chatroom where it's kinda obvious.
could "sex identifying icons" be brought all over the place and used everywhere please?
or are they already and am I too daft to notice them?
/OTEND

16 Mar 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Wall flower or room walker?
As a single male I have no choice in the matter. It's walk or die. Sounds simple doesn't it? In realality it's some thing else. It's damed hard work and scary too.

I have to say, that this isnt the case for this single male.
If i was invited to a social event and felt i needed to be sat at the side of the room on my own, scared to approach people and burdened under the weight of percieved discrimination, then I wouldnt go in the first place.
I went to a munch recently and spent some of the night feeling beady eyes burning a hole in my back.... it just gave me the incentive to enjoy myself even more....whilst challenging those who have a problem with my personality, status and objectives to deal with it..... A munch is a social occasion for all, afterall.
I find it hard to understand why people root themselves to one part of the room and make a "corner" for them and their friends that is hard to penetrate and somewhat seperates them from the rest of the group.
Im sure i'm not the only one who finds it off putting to approach certain groups who seperate themselves in this way.
OMG I thought you were female! redface

Or at least part of a couple.
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles....
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
You're not the first to make that mistake.... Resonance did the same not so long ago.
Nae bother, no offence caused or taken.

16 Mar 2009

Quote by Melting_pot

OMG I thought you were female!
Or at least part of a couple.
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles....
In edit: although, apart from the single male icon, your profile doesn't actually say what you are so I may have read it before and not noticed

single male icon?? where, who?
seriously..is there a way to tell who's behind a nickname without going and perve the profile? I more often than not am unable to make the distinction except in the chatroom where it's kinda obvious.
could "sex identifying icons" be brought all over the place and used everywhere please?
or are they already and am I too daft to notice them?
/OTEND
Further to the request for icons denoting sex and marital status, could we have extras icons everywhere instead of just in the chatrooms please? At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile surprised

ops:

16 Mar 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile

I have pics tooo if u wanna see em??? wink

16 Mar 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Further to the request for icons denoting sex and marital status, could we have extras icons everywhere instead of just in the chatrooms please? At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile

I have extras and I never even look at who perves my profile, because I am not interested - If they want to meet me or show interest they will send a mail! or hunt me down in the chatroom, I'm just not nosy enough I guess lol

16 Mar 2009

Quote by DeeCee
At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile

I have pics tooo if u wanna see em??? wink

Oooh may I? Please lol

16 Mar 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile

I have pics tooo if u wanna see em??? wink

Oooh may I? Please lol

Perv :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: flipa