Must try harder...what skill are you lacking in the boudoir?

15 Oct 2008

Reading through an old thread I started, I couldn't help but notice that many of the women were keen to tell how amazing their BJ's were....but not one said "actually, I could use a few tips."
We're always keen to extol our virtues, but shy when it comes to admitting where we're lacking. Do you feel your oral skills could use some help? Think you could do with being a bit more adventurous in the positions department?
We must all have an Achilles heel, surely? Something we'd like to improve? Maybe get some tips? Do you feel your oral could use some help?
Is anyone willing to admit to it in here?
I'm not as hot at hand jobs as I used to be- can't sustain them for as long after an arm injury- so I've learnt some "two handed techniques" which help no end....needless to say I'd be happy to learn of any other tips.
Over to you wink

15 Oct 2008

oh yes wanking...i get so bored and my arm aches too confused

only tend to use the one handed grip shaft method....egt a right titty on if it doesnt do the job in less than 5 minutes lol

talking about with Mr B here and not play partenrs....whatever they are lol

15 Oct 2008

ummm hand job ??
am I supposed to do something with my hands with blokies?? oh gosh.. umm I think that I may need help with this.

15 Oct 2008

You keep yer hand off me Achilles heel!! :shock:
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15 Oct 2008

Im always open to new ideas lol

but think I need to 'try harder' in being more adventerous in the 'position' department and in being more open in actually saying what/who I want!!!
So, I want ..............
... Ok, I will try harder some other time redface

15 Oct 2008

I just found some stuff here...

but this is one of my faves- and I've never known it fail to blow a guys mind...
using plenty of lube, position yourself twixt his thighs. Interlock your fingers, and rub them at varying speeds up & down the shaft. Use the gap between your fingers & thumbs to push the head of the penis through from time to time......keep it closed pretty tight though, and it will feel like he's pushing his cock into a tight vagina.
Use the "ribbed" feel of your fingers to effect by running them over the head of his cock intermittently, in a rocking motion. Add an occasional "twist" for variety.
Makes it sound like I've done that before, doesn't it innocent

15 Oct 2008

Quote by winchwench
I just found some stuff here...

but this is one of my faves- and I've never known it fail to blow a guys mind...
using plenty of lube, position yourself twixt his thighs. Interlock your fingers, and rub them at varying speeds up & down the shaft. Use the gap between your fingers & thumbs to push the head of the penis through from time to time......keep it closed pretty tight though, and it will feel like he's pushing his cock into a tight vagina.
Use the "ribbed" feel of your fingers to effect by running them over the head of his cock intermittently, in a rocking motion. Add an occasional "twist" for variety.
Makes it sound like I've done that before, doesn't it

Just love the motivation of the link. teaching blokes how to wank!! :giggle:
If any of you ladies want to practice new techniques my PM box is <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< (am I being too much of a tart??)
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15 Oct 2008

Alas the search button is not my friend, but I have started a thread on here that asked for tips to improve my blowjob technique.
I'd love to be better. I don't think I'm bad but I would love to give amazing oral sex... dunno why, I think because I do actually enjoy it and therefore it is something I would just like to be better at.
If I could do that find-old-thread-and-post-link thing, I would because from memory there were some good tips.
I'm looking forward to reading this thread though :rascal: May pick up tips about all sorts of things... sex tips in a swingers' forum - who'da thunk it! wink

15 Oct 2008

Ive forgotten what its like. I need to brush up on every bloody thing sad

15 Oct 2008

Quote by helnheaven
Ive forgotten what its like. I need to brush up on every bloody thing

Same here honey - maybe we should meet? :rascal:

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
Ive forgotten what its like. I need to brush up on every bloody thing

Same here honey - maybe we should meet? :rascal:
Hang on - we're talking hand jobs here aren't we?? wink

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15 Oct 2008

I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed redface

15 Oct 2008

Quote by westerross
Ive forgotten what its like. I need to brush up on every bloody thing

Same here honey - maybe we should meet? :rascal:
Hang on - we're talking hand jobs here aren't we?? wink

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No.

15 Oct 2008

I find the act of fingering vigorously whilst licking and tongueing a pussy to be quite difficult for long periods of time, especially keeping the same rhythm going towards a cum, and doing this if the woman i'm with on her knees and i'm going down from behind is nigh on bloody impossible. Doesn't stop me trying though biggrin

I must admit that i'm not really that attentive to boobs as I'm not really a boob man so if I could do with brushing up on skills i would start there i guess.
A flow diagram would be nice biggrin

you know the sort that says "Do this, did it work. "If so then go to A if not go to B" and so on. lol

15 Oct 2008

Quote by noladreams30
Alas the search button is not my friend, but I have started a thread on here that asked for tips to improve my blowjob technique.

I'm more than willing to give you my tip to help you improve your technique! bolt

(sorry! I apologise for my thoughts)

Quote by noladreams30
I'd love to be better. I don't think I'm bad but I would love to give amazing oral sex... dunno why, I think because I do actually enjoy it and therefore it is something I would just like to be better at.

From my perspective, if you're really enjoying it, then you're 95% of the way there to making it an amazing experience for me.
Eye contact is a big thing for me too, it's not just the obvious physical things!

15 Oct 2008

Not sure Winchy, not had any complaints so far.
Guess the best course of action is for you to give me a thourough assesment and let me know what i need to improve.........then spend a few hours helping me improve it :rascal:

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Cherrytree
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

depends on the company and thier own mindset
lp

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Cherrytree
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

Well, if i ever have the good fortune to meet you Miss Cherry, just be yourself.....and don't bother getting dressed wink

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
Ive forgotten what its like. I need to brush up on every bloody thing

Same here honey - maybe we should meet? :rascal:
Hang on - we're talking hand jobs here aren't we?? wink

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No.
Aah - no it's achilles heels - sorry. redface

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15 Oct 2008

Quote by Sixfootsix
Alas the search button is not my friend, but I have started a thread on here that asked for tips to improve my blowjob technique.

I'm more than willing to give you my tip to help you improve your technique! bolt

(sorry! I apologise for my thoughts)

Quote by noladreams30
I'd love to be better. I don't think I'm bad but I would love to give amazing oral sex... dunno why, I think because I do actually enjoy it and therefore it is something I would just like to be better at.

From my perspective, if you're really enjoying it, then you're 95% of the way there to making it an amazing experience for me.
Eye contact is a big thing for me too, it's not just the obvious physical things!
:notes: Duly noted... :rascal:

15 Oct 2008

Quote by __random_orbit__
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

depends on the company and thier own mindset
lp
Does it? Well maybe you're right. Come to think of it, though I've been asked to play a role a few times, the fella has always just been himself...food for thought there lp!

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Well, if i ever have the good fortune to meet you Miss Cherry, just be yourself.....and don't bother getting dressed

It's a deal lol

15 Oct 2008

Like Cherry Tee...I am crap at role play - laugh far too much for it to be sexy and I just can't be bothered with all the sexy pvc clothes and stuff. They look absolutely great on others, but I just can't be done with it sad

15 Oct 2008

Quote by __random_orbit__
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

depends on the company and thier own mindset
lp
Agreed. I used to feel a bit of a berk trying the rold play and dressing up with ex hubby but I've had some very enjoyable meets where I've dressed up and felt right somehow. I think it's more to do with who you're with than you yourself. Some partners can make you feel more at least and it just feels natural. biggrin

15 Oct 2008

confidence confused

15 Oct 2008

Having stronger legs so i can go on top for longer without getting thigh ache
And being more honest/demanding/dom/whatever instead of going with the flow and missing out redface

16 Oct 2008

I'm no good at the moment after sex when she looks dreamily into your eyes and says 'what are you thinking about?'
rolleyes

16 Oct 2008

Quote by winchwench
I just found some stuff here...

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Play doh???? :shock: never heard of that one before!
I've never had any complaints in the BJ department but I have to admit with suffering carpal tunnel I tend to ache after 5 or 10 mins of the old hand action, but that doesn't seem to bother Jay, he just shoves it in me gob and is done with it (how romantic does that sound rotflmao

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I'll re read the techniques later when I've more time, I have tried the twist one before, but I've not been told if I'm good or bad at hand jobs...
Maybe I need some willing students? :jagsatwork:

16 Oct 2008

Quote by jaymar
I just found some stuff here...

:

Play doh???? :shock: never heard of that one before!
I've never had any complaints in the BJ department but I have to admit with suffering carpal tunnel I tend to ache after 5 or 10 mins of the old hand action, but that doesn't seem to bother Jay, he just shoves it in me gob and is done with it (how romantic does that sound rotflmao

)
I'll re read the techniques later when I've more time, I have tried the twist one before, but I've not been told if I'm good or bad at hand jobs...
Maybe I need some willing students? :jagsatwork:
In the interests of furthering your development I will volunteer myself :rascal: (is that whats know as taking one for the team dunno

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16 Oct 2008

Quote by Cherrytree
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

I'm the same Cherry, I feel utterly stupid. Jay's just not into that type of thing, he prefers the feeling of skin on skin.
In our early days, I do however remember the affect of notifying him I was wearing only stockings and suspenders under my dress with no knickers, and kept playfully sliding my hand up my dress for the remainder of the night, that went down very well! hmmm maybe I need to revisit that game.. lol

16 Oct 2008

Quote by jaymar
I'm a real wuss when it comes to role play, and/or wearing ummmm specialist clothes - I just can't do it, I feel too embarrassed

I'm the same Cherry, I feel utterly stupid. Jay's just not into that type of thing, he prefers the feeling of skin on skin.
In our early days, I do however remember the affect of notifying him I was wearing only stockings and suspenders under my dress with no knickers, and kept playfully sliding my hand up my dress for the remainder of the night, that went down very well! hmmm maybe I need to revisit that game.. lol

Role play is a bit of a mystery to me, I have never seen the point.

Are you sure?