Can't believe I'm posting this but I am sooooo desparate to watch my wife having sex with another man. I fantasise loads about my best friend and her. We're often together and I love to watch them flirt. I encourage my wife to tease me with the flirting and I think she really enjoys this. She knows how hard I get when they're close to each other but if only they'd take it further!! How can I encourage them? Do I drop a hint to my friend or keep nagging the missus!! I need this to happen soooooo badly!! Help!
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Quote by Jason3030
Can't believe I'm posting this but I am sooooo desparate to watch my wife having sex with another man. I fantasise loads about my best friend and her. We're often together and I love to watch them flirt. I encourage my wife to tease me with the flirting and I think she really enjoys this. She knows how hard I get when they're close to each other but if only they'd take it further!! How can I encourage them? Do I drop a hint to my friend or keep nagging the missus!! I need this to happen soooooo badly!! Help!
I'd tell your wife what you have told us and see what she says or does.............
First, and not that I'm judging you here, but I take it your wife doesn't know you have a profile on here looking for couples or single women?
If not then why not introduce the idea over a drink or two, I would avoid sentences like "id love to shag another couple" and stick to the more subtle approach like "as we have been together for so long and done so much sexual stuff together do you have any fantasies you would like to act out or try?"
She may shock you and say "yeah Id love your mate to bend me over and shag my brains out" or even suggest something kinkier. Then you have the opportunity to say how much you would be interested in finding another couple to meet up with and see how you got along etc?
Id leave out terms like "shag each others wives", or "fuck each others partners" this tends to be a little crude and not endear the idea to your loved one. Maybe explain that a "friend of yours ahem" uses a website that allows couples to meet other couples with the emphasis on seeing if they are all sexually attracted and maybe having some mutually agreed sexual fun with pre determined boundaries and limits?
I would of course delete or cancel your current "married" but "looking to meet couples or single women" account before you attempt to bring your wife on here as she may wait till you fall asleep and cut your testicles off in the night with a sharp kitchen knife if she sees it?
Anyway thats my advice for what it is worth!!
If not then why not introduce the idea over a drink or two, I would avoid sentences like "id love to shag another couple" and stick to the more subtle approach like "as we have been together for so long and done so much sexual stuff together do you have any fantasies you would like to act out or try?"
She may shock you and say "yeah Id love your mate to bend me over and shag my brains out" or even suggest something kinkier. Then you have the opportunity to say how much you would be interested in finding another couple to meet up with and see how you got along etc?
Id leave out terms like "shag each others wives", or "fuck each others partners" this tends to be a little crude and not endear the idea to your loved one. Maybe explain that a "friend of yours ahem" uses a website that allows couples to meet other couples with the emphasis on seeing if they are all sexually attracted and maybe having some mutually agreed sexual fun with pre determined boundaries and limits?
I would of course delete or cancel your current "married" but "looking to meet couples or single women" account before you attempt to bring your wife on here as she may wait till you fall asleep and cut your testicles off in the night with a sharp kitchen knife if she sees it?
Anyway thats my advice for what it is worth!!
Thank you everyone..
My urge is growing daily and seems to be taking over my life!! Help! I've mentioned it to her a few (ok loads of!) times and she loves to see me get all heated up over it! That's why deep down I think she really enjoys the idea. I'd love to drop a hint to my mate one day but haven't got the bottle! Anonymous text may be the answer? hmmmm not sure!!
J
My urge is growing daily and seems to be taking over my life!! Help! I've mentioned it to her a few (ok loads of!) times and she loves to see me get all heated up over it! That's why deep down I think she really enjoys the idea. I'd love to drop a hint to my mate one day but haven't got the bottle! Anonymous text may be the answer? hmmmm not sure!!
J
Quote by Jason3030
Can't believe I'm posting this but I am sooooo desparate to watch my wife having sex with another man. I fantasise loads about my best friend and her. We're often together and I love to watch them flirt. I encourage my wife to tease me with the flirting and I think she really enjoys this. She knows how hard I get when they're close to each other but if only they'd take it further!! How can I encourage them? Do I drop a hint to my friend or keep nagging the missus!! I need this to happen soooooo badly!! Help!
Is it the thought of seeing her have sex with your friend, or just another guy?
If it all about your friend then that is a very dangerous game to play. Someone you know on a personnel level like that for us would be a no go. But if you want to see her with another guy then can understand how you would find that horny. Place an advert on here and see what happens but...may be a good idea really to talk to your wife about this and get her approval first.
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he cannt place an advert on here as he is advertising himself as a single he is not even honest enough to tell swingers that he is married.
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Quote by Sara_2006
he cannt place an advert on here as he is advertising himself as a single he is not even honest enough to tell swingers that he is married.
:thumbup: His profile says single but his ad. for single women says he's married. Confusing!
Quote by Freckledbird
he cannt place an advert on here as he is advertising himself as a single he is not even honest enough to tell swingers that he is married.
:thumbup: His profile says single but his ad. for single women says he's married.Confusing!
Think we all know what that means then eh? :shock:
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Quote by Jason3030
I can't win here! Before hand (read above) I was posted as married and I was honest to everyone I have ever spoken to. Somebody (above) recommended I change my listing to single, now Sara makes out I'm dishonest? Help!
Nobody on this thread has recommended that you change your listing to single. It's been suggested that you delete/cancel your account before showing the site to your wife though.
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Quote by Freckledbird
I can't win here! Before hand (read above) I was posted as married and I was honest to everyone I have ever spoken to. Somebody (above) recommended I change my listing to single, now Sara makes out I'm dishonest? Help!
Nobody on this thread has recommended that you change your listing to single. It's been suggested that you delete/cancel your account before showing the site to your wife though.
As you say, you can't win if you accept advice like that.
Why would you claim to be single if you are married? Is it to have a better chance of achieving what you want. If you do - wouldn't that be under false pretences and therefore be dishonest?
You ask for help. Don't represent yourself as something you aren't and make sure you share it all with your wife if you want to stay together. Otherwise give it up.
HTH
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I was once in a similar situation, though always had a profile on here that both of us could access.
Only advice I can give is dont rush anything, both sit down and talk everything and I mean everything through, perhaps even have your wife post on here on her own thoughts, towards the subject.
We started out as a cuckold (light) couple and now we are both okay seeing each other with other partners. Does it have to be your friend rather than a male friend of hers or even a stranger? As, as someone mentioned a club might be a good place to start.
Funny thing is my wifes actually due to visit her male friend tonight for a meal then play after and though she's been doing this for a while she always comes home as excited to be with me as when she leaves to see him.. It can take real trust and honesty but thats true of most things in this lifestyle, and hopefully you'll be all the better and a stronger couple for it.
Also try looking up Cuckold or Hotwife on Wikipedia.
Any questions feel free to message me.
Only advice I can give is dont rush anything, both sit down and talk everything and I mean everything through, perhaps even have your wife post on here on her own thoughts, towards the subject.
We started out as a cuckold (light) couple and now we are both okay seeing each other with other partners. Does it have to be your friend rather than a male friend of hers or even a stranger? As, as someone mentioned a club might be a good place to start.
Funny thing is my wifes actually due to visit her male friend tonight for a meal then play after and though she's been doing this for a while she always comes home as excited to be with me as when she leaves to see him.. It can take real trust and honesty but thats true of most things in this lifestyle, and hopefully you'll be all the better and a stronger couple for it.
Also try looking up Cuckold or Hotwife on Wikipedia.
Any questions feel free to message me.
Jason, I have spoken to you before and you always presented to me that you were married. you were honest about what you wanted, and I have said as a couple that were in the same position as you a while ago, (things have changed now we are meeting). I have said be honest with your wife but tread carefully, you could push her away. If you false the issue with a friend you could end up having no best friend or wife. you could lose it all. But at the end of the day you have too decide, good luck you could end up getting what you haven't bargined for.
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I think a lot of the guys who come on here who are married and their wife doesn't know they are on here are a bit sad and deceitful really, but not ALL of them.
Im kind of going off topic a little here but here goes anyway.........
Lets imaging per say that I'm a married man who after being married to my wife for 15 years, have come to a bit of a plateau in sexual relations with said betrothed.
I desperately want to tell her how I feel and try to improve the situation but fear she will "kick off" possibly throw me out and even think I'm a pervert :shock:
I have seen this happen so many times as I worked, until recently in construction, and many of the older guys who had been married a while, always seemed to be complaining about the lack of sexual interest from their wives etc.
I (unknown to them) have a relationship where I am lucky enough to be able to enjoy a sexual freedom unfamiliar to most men, myself and my partner meet other couples that we like from this site and indulge in things most men could only ever dream of.
This is possible because I realised from an early point that miss srne was quite open and able to discuss anything without flying of the handle, I could talk to her, and her to me about without the fear of not giving the idea we proposed careful consideration.
Many people on here, usually, are fortunate enough to have the same kind of relationship and partner and thus that is why they are on here enjoying the sexual freedom and liberation that swinging creates and gives.
Here's how it happened for us......after a while as usual in relationships we started talking more candidly and openly about sex, sexuality, fantasies and such like and I told her that in the past I had slept with more than one woman at a time and had been involved in m/m/f threesomes.
She seemed a little taken aback but curious and interested as her sex life had, until then been quite tame in comparison.
In the end after talking about fantasies and the possibility of involving other people in our sexual activities we discovered this place and here we are today.
Some folk don't have the pleasure of an understanding spouse, and I am talking both about men and women here (though it is usually men that come on here seeking "extra sexual gratification").
I try to look at each case objectively when people appear on the forum or the chat and are "single - BUT married" as I can kind of relate through my own experiences of working closely with, and hearing people, who are in a situation where they want more active sex lives but daren't tell their partner as they KNOW THEM and KNOW they will inevitably go mad!!!
I don't know the original poster from Adam, he may have a wife who is very understanding and open to discussion and is just "chancing his luck at an easy shag on a swingers site" (in which case he is a bit of a rat IMHO) or he may have a wife who is a complete "closed door" to any discussion of a sexual nature and in this case I can empathise with him.
All we can do is offer advice I suppose, being that we are here (most of us) with our significant other or their permission, and hope that if his wife is an unfortunate victim of finding out he has been on here "chancing his luck" (if he decides not to tell her, or try and break the possibility of involving others into their sex life to her subtly), she doesnot get hurt too badly!!
Im kind of going off topic a little here but here goes anyway.........
Lets imaging per say that I'm a married man who after being married to my wife for 15 years, have come to a bit of a plateau in sexual relations with said betrothed.
I desperately want to tell her how I feel and try to improve the situation but fear she will "kick off" possibly throw me out and even think I'm a pervert :shock:
I have seen this happen so many times as I worked, until recently in construction, and many of the older guys who had been married a while, always seemed to be complaining about the lack of sexual interest from their wives etc.
I (unknown to them) have a relationship where I am lucky enough to be able to enjoy a sexual freedom unfamiliar to most men, myself and my partner meet other couples that we like from this site and indulge in things most men could only ever dream of.
This is possible because I realised from an early point that miss srne was quite open and able to discuss anything without flying of the handle, I could talk to her, and her to me about without the fear of not giving the idea we proposed careful consideration.
Many people on here, usually, are fortunate enough to have the same kind of relationship and partner and thus that is why they are on here enjoying the sexual freedom and liberation that swinging creates and gives.
Here's how it happened for us......after a while as usual in relationships we started talking more candidly and openly about sex, sexuality, fantasies and such like and I told her that in the past I had slept with more than one woman at a time and had been involved in m/m/f threesomes.
She seemed a little taken aback but curious and interested as her sex life had, until then been quite tame in comparison.
In the end after talking about fantasies and the possibility of involving other people in our sexual activities we discovered this place and here we are today.
Some folk don't have the pleasure of an understanding spouse, and I am talking both about men and women here (though it is usually men that come on here seeking "extra sexual gratification").
I try to look at each case objectively when people appear on the forum or the chat and are "single - BUT married" as I can kind of relate through my own experiences of working closely with, and hearing people, who are in a situation where they want more active sex lives but daren't tell their partner as they KNOW THEM and KNOW they will inevitably go mad!!!
I don't know the original poster from Adam, he may have a wife who is very understanding and open to discussion and is just "chancing his luck at an easy shag on a swingers site" (in which case he is a bit of a rat IMHO) or he may have a wife who is a complete "closed door" to any discussion of a sexual nature and in this case I can empathise with him.
All we can do is offer advice I suppose, being that we are here (most of us) with our significant other or their permission, and hope that if his wife is an unfortunate victim of finding out he has been on here "chancing his luck" (if he decides not to tell her, or try and break the possibility of involving others into their sex life to her subtly), she doesnot get hurt too badly!!
Hi
A big thank you for Srne, Colonel Mustard and my old friend Theladyisaminx for your brilliant advice. Just wanted to explain a little more about myself so you can understand further. I never joined the site with the intention of an 'easy lay' - I have in fact had some lovely contacts (written only) and offers to meet. I've been experimenting on the site to see just what it's all about and can honestly say the chat and banter with most has been brilliant! I am sadly in a rut in terms of sexual action with my wife, but I was kind of hoping that the site, in time, would prove to be a useful tool to 'spice things up' a bit with my own relationship. What I intended, and still do, is to be comfortable with the goings on at SH before introducing the ideas to my wife. God knows when and how that'll happen but I'm willing to be patient for the good and benefit of my relationship. I've no intention on jumping in and out of beds at the moment, certainly not without my wife! Anyway, I appreciate the nead to remain cautious about how I proceed and if I ever do drop the question to my wife which is subsequently rejected, I'll be big enough to put all this behind me. My wife incidentally gave up on sex nearly 10 years ago and I'm looking for a hint of resurrection in her feelings. I see the old her in her eyes when we play about with the suggestion of her sleeping with others and believe, somehow, that this is the only way we can relight an old flame.
Anyway, thanks again all for your advice, particularly Srne who must have spent hours on that above!!!
Thanks!
A big thank you for Srne, Colonel Mustard and my old friend Theladyisaminx for your brilliant advice. Just wanted to explain a little more about myself so you can understand further. I never joined the site with the intention of an 'easy lay' - I have in fact had some lovely contacts (written only) and offers to meet. I've been experimenting on the site to see just what it's all about and can honestly say the chat and banter with most has been brilliant! I am sadly in a rut in terms of sexual action with my wife, but I was kind of hoping that the site, in time, would prove to be a useful tool to 'spice things up' a bit with my own relationship. What I intended, and still do, is to be comfortable with the goings on at SH before introducing the ideas to my wife. God knows when and how that'll happen but I'm willing to be patient for the good and benefit of my relationship. I've no intention on jumping in and out of beds at the moment, certainly not without my wife! Anyway, I appreciate the nead to remain cautious about how I proceed and if I ever do drop the question to my wife which is subsequently rejected, I'll be big enough to put all this behind me. My wife incidentally gave up on sex nearly 10 years ago and I'm looking for a hint of resurrection in her feelings. I see the old her in her eyes when we play about with the suggestion of her sleeping with others and believe, somehow, that this is the only way we can relight an old flame.
Anyway, thanks again all for your advice, particularly Srne who must have spent hours on that above!!!
Thanks!
hi jason, long shot here, but get the novel titled "the butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker" and have a read then get your wife to do the same. it's what got my wife and i talking, then on to sh. no guarantee it will work with you but might be a way to break the ice on an obviously delicate topic. 
good luck. 
good luck. lust is a very powerfull emotion, i know when im horny sex is like a drug and the need for it can cause you to act say things you normally wouldnt.
you say the sex side ebbed off about 10 years ago, and you only see the light again when the sugestion of her having sex with your mate is mentioned.
in a porn sceen im sure it makes you hot thinking of seeing her having fun with him, but in cold light of day are you secure enough to deal with the reality?
afterwards may you start thinking, "why can he suddenly make her sexual again when she hasnt been with me for 10 years", etc etc all those insecurities creeping back in.
maybe jumping in full on with no talks isnt a good idea, as im sure youll hear from many couples here even after long talks, bounderies being set they still dont have full swap sex.
why not see if she would be just interested in exploring the site first? maybe this will lead to going on cam together and you can both get off on other watching you?
more gentle aproach required i think, or as they say be careful for what you wish for. once she starts there may be no stopping her, sounds great when ya horny but are you prepared for that?
xx good luck xx fem xx
you say the sex side ebbed off about 10 years ago, and you only see the light again when the sugestion of her having sex with your mate is mentioned.
in a porn sceen im sure it makes you hot thinking of seeing her having fun with him, but in cold light of day are you secure enough to deal with the reality?
afterwards may you start thinking, "why can he suddenly make her sexual again when she hasnt been with me for 10 years", etc etc all those insecurities creeping back in.
maybe jumping in full on with no talks isnt a good idea, as im sure youll hear from many couples here even after long talks, bounderies being set they still dont have full swap sex.
why not see if she would be just interested in exploring the site first? maybe this will lead to going on cam together and you can both get off on other watching you?
more gentle aproach required i think, or as they say be careful for what you wish for. once she starts there may be no stopping her, sounds great when ya horny but are you prepared for that?
xx good luck xx fem xx
