I have come to the conclusions that so many people who you are nice to start to become cynical, you find it is here and in the vanilla world.
If you help someone, are nice to them, try and befriend them etc. They always seem to think you have a hidden agenda.
Why is this?
What this is now doing to me is making me feel cynical.
I wonder what their agenda was in talking to me?
Why can’t some people just accept there are some nice genuine people about?
People that don’t have any damn agenda, maybe because sometimes they are not clever enough to know how to work people for self gain.
Maybe they are just plain stupid, or just naïve and gullible.
What are others views?
Do you find too many people are cynical?
How do you cope with someone like this?
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People tell me I'm too cynical for my own good. 
I like to think I am just sceptical
I probably over analyse the world. Trying to find reasons for this or that. It does leave me with a distorted view but then again I am seldom hurt by people as I have often sussed them out.
Are you just being cynical in thinking other people are cynical?
I like to think I am just sceptical
I probably over analyse the world. Trying to find reasons for this or that. It does leave me with a distorted view but then again I am seldom hurt by people as I have often sussed them out.Are you just being cynical in thinking other people are cynical?
If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind.
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
an interesting topic minxy...
I think , on reflection , I tend to work on a commercial basis .If there is money involved then I am the worlds worst cynic and am always looking to understand the other persons agenda and angle and pick that to pieces so I can be sure I am not being ripped off .
Where there is no money involved then I like to think I give people the benefit of the doubt and will try not to pre-judge or assume they have any 's so nice to freewheel sometimes and just see where life takes you.
If I was a woman though I couldn't help thinking all guys were just trying to get in my knickers .
I know as a guy in chat I sometimes think that (that guys are trying to get in my pants lol) 
I think , on reflection , I tend to work on a commercial basis .If there is money involved then I am the worlds worst cynic and am always looking to understand the other persons agenda and angle and pick that to pieces so I can be sure I am not being ripped off .
Where there is no money involved then I like to think I give people the benefit of the doubt and will try not to pre-judge or assume they have any 's so nice to freewheel sometimes and just see where life takes you.
If I was a woman though I couldn't help thinking all guys were just trying to get in my knickers .
I know as a guy in chat I sometimes think that (that guys are trying to get in my pants lol) Quote by jaymar
If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind.
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I think a thread was done about trust and friends not that long ago Mar?
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People tell me I'm too cynical for my own good.
I like to think I am just sceptical
Are you just being cynical in thinking other people are cynical?
I analyse things to, but I can never seem to see the bad in people, I see weekness which I accept as we all have those.
I know there are people that are out for self gain but I normally can smell them coming.
Normally I am not wrong, but now I am questioning that sometimes I might well be wrong.
Maybe I am becoming cynical, I suppose it might be a good thing rather than feeling hurt.
If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind.
I have tryed and I feel it is a bit like knocking your head against a brickwall it hurts!
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
I suppose I am lucky I have not had many occasions when others have let me down, so I have never had a problem with trust. But what I have to realise that others have. So I can understand why they will become cynical. I still would like to think I can trust people, I don’t always think people have a hidden agenda.
But then as I said I might just be naive and stupid.
I would hope people could put their trust in me as I would never intentionally go out of my way to break that trust. I am not perfect no but what I hope I am is 100% trust worthy.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I hardly ever feel people have let me down, I just always think people feel I may have let them down without gathering all the facts, some people are to quick to jump to conclusions.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I know nobody is perfect!
I am not perfect!
But I do believe people can be nice without intent. gosh to take this away would mean there are no nice people in this world. Then I would have to admit to those people that have said I live in a cocoon and not in the real world, you are right!
I have tryed and I feel it is a bit like knocking your head against a brickwall it hurts!
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
I suppose I am lucky I have not had many occasions when others have let me down, so I have never had a problem with trust. But what I have to realise that others have. So I can understand why they will become cynical. I still would like to think I can trust people, I don’t always think people have a hidden agenda.
But then as I said I might just be naive and stupid.
I would hope people could put their trust in me as I would never intentionally go out of my way to break that trust. I am not perfect no but what I hope I am is 100% trust worthy.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I hardly ever feel people have let me down, I just always think people feel I may have let them down without gathering all the facts, some people are to quick to jump to conclusions.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I know nobody is perfect!
I am not perfect!
But I do believe people can be nice without intent. gosh to take this away would mean there are no nice people in this world. Then I would have to admit to those people that have said I live in a cocoon and not in the real world, you are right!
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If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind.
I have tryed and I feel it is a bit like knocking your head against a brickwall it hurts!
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
I suppose I am lucky I have not had many occasions when others have let me down, so I have never had a problem with trust. But what I have to realise that others have. So I can understand why they will become cynical. I still would like to think I can trust people, I don’t always think people have a hidden agenda.
But then as I said I might just be naive and stupid.
I would hope people could put their trust in me as I would never intentionally go out of my way to break that trust. I am not perfect no but what I hope I am is 100% trust worthy.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I hardly ever feel people have let me down, I just always think people feel I may have let them down without gathering all the facts, some people are to quick to jump to conclusions.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I know nobody is perfect!
I am not perfect!
But I do believe people can be nice without intent. gosh to take this away would mean there are no nice people in this world. Then I would have to admit to those people that have said I live in a cocoon and not in the real world, you are right!
I am and......am always right.
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If someone's upset you and have stated they think you have a hidden agenda, I'd take it up with them to be honest.. only that person can tell you what's on their mind.
It's like anything in life really Minxy, people (in my opinion) cannot be 100% trusted, even really really close friends. I don't even trust myself 100%.
This way, you are never left feeling let down or cynical about others.
I really don't think anyone can be 100% nice, ALL the time, that's too perfect.
I think a thread was done about trust and friends not that long ago Mar?
: yes I know, it doesn't alter my trust issues tho. Quote by Whipsnspurs
Why can’t some people just accept there are some nice genuine people about?
Because sometimes the ones you think are nice and genuine turn out to be as two faced and backstabbing as the worst ones you've ever met
surely thats not always the case though sassy. unless they've come right out and said something to you how do you know? if you fall out with someone it just may seem things are that way.
chin up hun it can't be all that bad.
whips
Who said anything about falling out?
and yes, it can seem that bad
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Why can’t some people just accept there are some nice genuine people about?
Because sometimes the ones you think are nice and genuine turn out to be as two faced and backstabbing as the worst ones you've ever met
I agree that can be the case sometimes, But I don't think it is the case all the time, but to me unless you talk to them and say how you both feel nothing seems to get resolved.
As it could all be a total mis understanding.
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If someone thinks that someone they once thought as trustworthy and honest isn't so then just move on and leave them be...
Its not rocket science really....
Lifes too short to waste it dwelling an what once was..
Its not rocket science really....
Lifes too short to waste it dwelling an what once was..
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If someone thinks that someone they once thought as trustworthy and honest isn't so then just move on and leave them be...
Its not rocket science really....
Lifes too short to waste it dwelling an what once was..
I guess that depends if you 'think' that are not honest, or you 'know' they are not.
Sometimes friendships are worth a second try
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If someone thinks that someone they once thought as trustworthy and honest isn't so then just move on and leave them be...
Its not rocket science really....
Lifes too short to waste it dwelling an what once was..
I guess that depends if you 'think' that are not honest, or you 'know' they are not.
Sometimes friendships are worth a second try
I agree I would always think friendships are worth another try.
