my munch. thank you!

22 Aug 2004

i am once again going to witter on for a bit. i apologise, this will be my last word on any and all subjects contained in this thread, and elsewhere. please don't hijack it, and please don't post replies on here, unless you have something to add on the topic yourself. this is not one of those posts. i have just gone into deeply serious mode for about as long as it takes to write this, then i shall be back with the inane drivel i promise. but another member's thread chimes with many thoughts i've had lately, and i wouldn't hijack her thread with this, so here it is.
it seems some of you misguidedly read the random bollox i post here on a daily basis. i am stunned to learn that some of you ( well one or two anyways ) even do so quite avidly! i have been a bit serious and vocal on some things of late, and i don't much like it. i love this place for what it represents, what it offers, and the people who come here and make it so important to me. i find myself a little over-enthusiastic at times! ;-) some of you will know i have questioned my involvement here, my input, the amount of time i spend here, whether i should be here at all as a not-really-very-swinging single male.
so much so in fact that i had intended last nights munch to be a kind of hi and bye. i'd decided i should really just drift off into the sunset, and STFU.
i now find that would be an incredibly stupid thing to do, even with my track record of incredible stupidness.
last nights munch was a fantastically funny, riotous, glorious event, that i will remember for ever. but there were also deeply serious chats about the whole swinging thing, and how people feel about what they get from the scene in general, this site in particular, and the friends we have made here. i stayed on this site hoping to discover things about myself, and have a laugh along the way, and found that those who laughed with me, were also the ones i could turn to when the laughs were a little harder to come by at times. even for a single bloke, some of those discoveries along the way are not easy ones to work out.
there is no way now that it will be my last. i would be losing too much of further opportunities to discover other deeply serious things, in the company of people that i now see even more as my friends. is this just another of those "finally got the point" things? there have been a few i admit! or have i finally got the point. we shall see . . . . . . . . ;-)
love 'n' stuff!!!
neil x x x x x ;-)

22 Aug 2004

Does that mean he's staying ? confused

:? :? :? :? lol

22 Aug 2004

sorry sarge i'm afraid it does! lol

<slap>

n x x x ;-)

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Sgt Bilko
Does that mean he's staying ? :? :? :? :?

He's your bitch Bilko!!! rotflmao

You need to keep tabs on him a bit more rolleyes

And make sure he goes absolutely nowhere!!!!!
So chuffed you're not leaving Neil, love your posts - not a boring one amongst them. As for real life - yep, I agree with everyone else who have spoken about you here and there - a complete and utter adorable gorgeous nut!
Would be so lost without my daily fix of <tuts> n <FFS> cool

Bluddy good to see you last night :cheers:

22 Aug 2004

Neil mate
Its nor often i put skin to keyboard in the Forums.
Over the past months I have had the same feelings and then you go to a Munch
and find all you plans and feelings go out the window and you start looking for the next Munch.
Are you sure you are not one of the Three Wise Men ? smile

Medic1 (Fred) the other one

22 Aug 2004

Neil
I am so glad you have decided to stay.
I was really chuffed to meet you last night - and you were exactly as I expected.
Except I never heard one FFS or tut!
You keep posting matey - I enjoy them immensly!
Hugs, Alex x

22 Aug 2004

Neil, glad you're staying around - I am too, despite some doubts I had in the last couple of weeks. It was good to catch up with you at last at the munch.
See ya later,
Mike.

22 Aug 2004

Neil,glad your staying,would miss your tutts and ffs's too much if you left!!
Btw,any chance of changing your avatar to your pic???? lol

22 Aug 2004

Neil You had me worried there for a moment! So, glad to hear you are staying!
You're a truly great guy and it's been a real pleasure to have spent time in your company. Sorry you had to put up with all my drunken rambling last night. You were a good mate to me and I'd recommend you to anyone. You are funny, witty and a real genuine guy.
Respect!
LC.

22 Aug 2004

Next time i'll get a snog!
Mrs RSAB2 xxx

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Clare_Lincs
Neil,glad your staying,would miss your tutts and ffs's too much if you left!!
Btw,any chance of changing your avatar to your pic????

I second that .....
passionkiss

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Calista
Neil,glad your staying,would miss your tutts and ffs's too much if you left!!
Btw,any chance of changing your avatar to your pic????

I second that .....
passionkiss

You girls are such tarts rolleyes

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
Neil,glad your staying,would miss your tutts and ffs's too much if you left!!
Btw,any chance of changing your avatar to your pic????

I second that .....
passionkiss

You girls are such tarts rolleyes

I take it you never saw me using neil as a pole to dance round on the dancefloor then redface

or heard that I got him undressed not once but twice ... I do apologise neil (fingers crossed behind back)
:giggle:

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
You girls are such tarts

And your point is??????..... dunno

Shireen
xxx

22 Aug 2004

Quote by Clare
Btw,any chance of changing your avatar to your pic????

the only pic i have is the one on the WWW link down there. i actually think <<<<<<< that one is a better likeness! rotflmao

i will maybe try it for a bit lol

guys . . . . i genuinely thank you all, from the bottom of me various bits, for your comments.
but please no more on this thread. it was important to me to say what i said ^^^^^ up there, and thank you all for last night. i will admit to being a right soppy soft fecker, and say i had tears in my eyes as i wrote it. the decision to stay was made last night, cos you all just fucking blew me away! that i even contemplated it, is bleeding insane! not in the box of frogs club for nowt! ;-)
my PM box is always open . . . .
love hugs kisses stuff
neil x x x x x ;-)

22 Aug 2004

So can we get straight to the point please - are you going to the Nottingham one?
Jezzay

22 Aug 2004

<tuts>

23 Aug 2004

Neil, we couldn`t possibly let you go anywhere, not given the way you snog! :twisted:
Venusxxx

23 Aug 2004

Neil, it was really good to meet you at last. :cheers: you're an absolute star and even though I saw faaaaaarrrrr more of you than I would normaly want to, (:eeek: ) I still respect you in the morning. wink

As for your not leaving bit, I'm very glad. The old place wouldn't be the same without you.
I know that there are a couple of other regulars that are feeling as though, because of their style of posting, they may not be welcome. I would just like to take this opportunity to say....
BOLLOX
The site is an OPEN forum. Open to anyone, so if someone else doesn't like your posts, or your style of posting, then that's their problem, not yours (as long as it doesn't break AUP rules).
I would appeal to these members to please stick around as the site would not be the same without your sense of humour and hugely entertaining posts.

23 Aug 2004

Quote by easy
Neil, it was really good to meet you at last. :cheers: you're an absolute star and even though I saw faaaaaarrrrr more of you than I would normaly want to, (:eeek: ) I still respect you in the morning.

O.K. guys you can tell me surely.........

23 Aug 2004

Quote by easy
Neil, it was really good to meet you at last. :cheers: you're an absolute star and even though I saw faaaaaarrrrr more of you than I would normaly want to, (:eeek: ) I still respect you in the morning.
As for your not leaving bit, I'm very glad. The old place wouldn't be the same without you.
I know that there are a couple of other regulars that are feeling as though, because of their style of posting, they may not be welcome. I would just like to take this opportunity to say....
BOLLOX
The site is an OPEN forum. Open to anyone, so if someone else doesn't like your posts, or your style of posting, then that's their problem, not yours (as long as it doesn't break AUP rules).
I would appeal to these members to please stick around as the site would not be the same without your sense of humour and hugely entertaining posts.

I wholeheartedly second that! :thumbup:

23 Aug 2004

neilinleeds....... don't you DARE even think about leaving!!!!! If you do, I'll just hunt ytou down and drag you straight back again lol

:lol: :lol:

23 Aug 2004

Nice legs neil the next time you might just not get your pants back !! :D
.xX Jewcy Xx.

23 Aug 2004

OK, deep breath, here goes.
I had to re-read Neil's post several times because I was almost convinced I'd written bits of it myself. For example:

some of you will know i have questioned my involvement here, my input, the amount of time i spend here, whether i should be here at all as a not-really-very-swinging single male

I've been interrogating myself on similar lines, and although I haven't quite reached a conclusion, I have to say I don't much like the prospect of where that soul-searching could be heading.
For the last six months I've thought I could just have a laugh, enjoying the conversation, and occasionally the company, of good friends in a relaxed and non-judgemental environment, where I don't expect anything of anyone and no one expects anything of me.
Lately I've had to re-examine that outlook.
Some people can keep their emotions out of 'playing' and some can't. And some, as I've discovered, merely think they can. I may have to concede that I'm in the latter category - it's certainly starting to look that way.
Now, I'm not for one moment knocking any aspect of the lifestyle, but it's that old green-eyed monster called jealousy: I never expected to see him, but he has raised his ugly head.
As it turns out, no harm done, I made a stupid comment without thinking and it's been generously passed off by the recipient as a misunderstanding fuelled by a bit too much alcohol. The point is though, I felt at that instant, quite wrongly, that I was being left out, and although I wasn't, even if I had been, what right had I to be upset about it? None as far as I can tell.
OK, so I had a drink and got a bit moody, and it's easy to say with sober hindsight that I was totally and utterly in the wrong, but I knew even as I said it that I had just badly let down a good friend with an outrageously selfish comment.
Maybe my horror at having been so stupid will serve as a reminder to keep myself in check in future, or maybe I'm not quite as in control of my feelings as I'd like to think I am. Maybe it could happen again with more serious consequences.
So, getting (sort of) back to what Neil was talking about, can I maintain an open and relaxed attitude, or am I inhibited in a way that prevents me truly fitting in here?
I'd like to think the former, but I honestly don't know for sure.
Ice

23 Aug 2004

i'm not equipped to comment on that ^^^^ Ice Pie, only this.
i suspect we're not alone though, and the fact that we were both able to discover things like that, and felt free enough to say what we've had to say, tells me we are at least in the right place!
cheers mate
neil

23 Aug 2004

Ice, my friend we all make prats of ourselves at times (speaking as a bit of an expert). So far I've limited it to the Forum 'cos I ain't been to a munch. So at least you've been there and dunnit! It's how you make redress that counts, I think.
Come to think of it I'm getting a bit worried about the tales of nudity and aching thighs. What was going on? I thought these affairs were social.

23 Aug 2004

Quote by westerross
Come to think of it I'm getting a bit worried about the tales of nudity and aching thighs. What was going on? I thought these affairs were social.

my aching thighs are purely from dancing at the munch ..... the nudity .. wasn't as exciting as it sounds .... it was at the club afterwards and the only mudity was in teh changing room getting into a towel!
Trust me it wasn't half as exciting as it sounded :shock:

23 Aug 2004

So glad your not going Neil this place wouldnt be the same without you kiss

23 Aug 2004

;-)
n x x x x

23 Aug 2004

Judy,
How do you make such erudite posts?
That one was excellent and, having met you at the previous NW Munch, I can honestly say I was pleased to meet you.
In my opinion, you help to make SH what it is with your excellent insights and comments.
I for one am very happy that you, Ice and Neil are all part of SH and fervently hope that you will all remian part of Swinging Heaven.
I, for yet another one, am a single male who sometimes wonders why he is here. The reason why is, for me very simple, I can be me.