Whatever happened to common sense and respect?
There has been sexual activity of one sort or another at every munch I've been to and I've probably been to the majority of them. The recent problems all seem to stem from a lack of common sense and/or a lack of respect for the other people there. It may be open to interpretation but I believe the only rule that needs adding is "Members must show respect to the other people there (including any staff) at all times and behaviour likely to bring the site into disrepute will not be tolerated. Failure to follow these simple guidelines will result in that person/people being asked to leave the munch and banned from attending all future munches".
Different people have different views on what is acceptable behaviour but I think the majority of the complaints I've heard are about people being disrespectful to others. Yes it's a swingers party but that doesn't give anyone the right to go around trying to grope/fondle other people or even just generally invading other people's space.
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Quote by westerross
Geez, I thought this one had finally landed quietly.
Gem, I think the issue is about diversity. It is desirable, I think, to have the full spectrum of activities to enable people to engage at any level they want to. At one end of the spectrum you'd have something like Blue's party - at the other, something vanilla that all (most) will feel comfortable with. If we insist that 'middle of the range' activities are OK at the vanilla events then they cease to be that and are therefore not available. This isn't about rules - it's about conventions which accommodate all.
I don't think you have to have attended anything to have an opinion on this. How this turns out, will influence how and whether people will get involved - so those who haven't yet attended a munch have a stake in it too.
Tune, I am not saying those who havent been to a munch should not have a say in things, quite the contrary as it is the new ones who often feel the most nervous about attending a munch. I am just wondering how much those nerves are based on hear-say of isolated incidents? As far I am concerned a munch is a social night out, not a bonk-a-thon. HTH.
What have I not attended to be able to not have an opinion on? Please do enlighten me.
Or are you going on the fact I have been to all of Blue's parties and calling me loose? Becasue quite frankly that is the way I have taken it. That you have labeled me with a reputation or attending hardcore parties and therefore would be unable to control myself in a pub environment because I am of course a player and have a matress strapped to my back and expect everyone I meet to be eager to shag no matter what.
I thought you had read me better than that Tune. I am disapointed and feel a flounce coming on!
;) 
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
We've not been to a munchie yet either but fully intend to.
We will treat it as the same as any other do such as a wedding night/new years eve we might go to.
We will probably get pissed, hopefully have a laugh, try to be friendly and respect people the same way as we expect to be respected. Our dress will not be offensive to anyone nor will we be outlandish in our behaviour. Our sexual organs will remain under wraps and we will manage to keep our urges under control.
If somebody is boorish we will keep out of their way. If somebody tries to do something non consentual to us we will react.
Simple really - its a night on the town.
Sounds good to me!
I think we have to gain some perspective here. A lot has been said while I have been for my daily exercise :shock: and I'm just recapping through a few posts really.
I do agree strongly with Judy that people can easily perceive the same event very differently, and I would abhore the adoption of anything approaching a situation where the mods have to listen to "evidence" court-like in order to sort a problem out. That is why the adoption of some firm but simple guidelines is important from now on. I would prefer the term "guidelines" to "rules" for one reason alone.... As gem rightly says, this is an ADULT site. I don't want to start imposing a list of rules that everyone MUST abide by. What I want to do instead however is make sure that everyone knows the score in terms of what is definately not acceptable based on the fact that munches are NOT meant to be sexual events where people meet to shag there and then. The idea of a munch is simple. It is a situation where people meet on SOCIAL terms... no pressure, no expectation that any sex is going to happen.
I very nearly did not attend the first NW Munch cos I thought it would be a meat market. I very much wanted to meet the people that I felt I had become friends with online, but I did not want this to happen in a sexual context. At the end of the day, I bit the bullet, mainly cos I wanted to meet Kit and Kat. I am well off on a tangent now, but the point is that i can understand how people feel who have never been to a munch. I can remember how I felt before my first munch very clearly. I don't want people to be put off meeting the people they have become friendly with online cos they don't want to be uncomfortable all night. I want munches to be SOCIAL events only basically cos it is the only way to go for people so diverse as those on SH to come together in one place at the same time.
I do have a certain sympathy with the shagging in the bogs thing that Gem mentioned. But surely people can control themselves til later, or go and find somewhere off the premises. Just a thought
If any guidelines that are set are made clear on the munch terms page, on munch postings AND again by the organisers when they send out details, I'm sure problems will not arise to this level in future.
Sex God
Quote by JudyTV
Perhaps we could wear different coloured badges:-
Green - for those that don't mind a little social contact with other members
Amber - well maybe not amber ( too much ambiguity )
Red - for those that do not desire any contact at all
Seriously though, I really don't know how to get around this one. The trouble with censorship is where to place the boundaries. At the extremes are the easy concepts about what is acceptable and what is not. The trouble lies in the very large central area, where some actions acceptable by one party would be totally unacceptable by another.
Actually the coloured badge thing isn't a bad idea because we wear name badges already all we have to do is have different coloured backgrounds.
Judy
I might want a little social contact with some, but most definately not with others.
Any form of blanket symbolism such as this wouldn't work in this situation and distracts from the main issue...
... that respect and common sense should be a given.........
:? :? :? :? Wow what a lot of thoughts on this.
I love going to munches, I'm usually dressed tarty, but I do that in my local as well. It gives me a bit of confidence because I'm not overly fond of crowds.
I flirt, dance like a twat, and I snog.
I've never been grabbed or touched inappropriately, but I have walked away and made an excuse if I felt uncomfortable with someone.
I think it comes down to being responsible and respectful human beings.
It also helps if you have a good memory. :D
Three incidents spring to mind for me.
1) I was determined I was going to snog a male member of the site. I built my courage up all night and then was chatting. I got all geared up to pounce when he made statement which would have made totally inappropriate for me to snog him, so I didn't.
2) I know Blue doesn't snog because she posted it on here many moons ago. I have never tried to snog her for that reason, on that basis I have never snogged Satin either, although I flirt and dance outragiously in their compnay (one day)
3) I snogged another female member of the site after a munch, I hadn't really thought about it and truly could have offended her. Luckily i didn't but I apologised anyway. It made me rethink how I approach people.
I think if people take on board all the comments that have been made on this thread then there is no need for a rigid set of rules.
We are all adults after all.
A set of realistic guidelines for munch behaviour, such as Blue posted should be more than enough for responsible adults to operate by.
There will always be those who set out to break rules, it will achieve nothing for them other than the total dislike of people who they may once have considered friends.
Jas
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I love going to munches, I'm usually dressed tarty, but I do that in my local as well.
It gives me a bit of confidence because I'm not overly fond of crowds.I flirt, dance like a twat, and I snog.
I've never been grabbed or touched inappropriately, but I have walked away and made an excuse if I felt uncomfortable with someone.
I think it comes down to being responsible and respectful human beings.
It also helps if you have a good memory. :D
Three incidents spring to mind for me.
1) I was determined I was going to snog a male member of the site. I built my courage up all night and then was chatting. I got all geared up to pounce when he made statement which would have made totally inappropriate for me to snog him, so I didn't.
2) I know Blue doesn't snog because she posted it on here many moons ago. I have never tried to snog her for that reason, on that basis I have never snogged Satin either, although I flirt and dance outragiously in their compnay (one day)
3) I snogged another female member of the site after a munch, I hadn't really thought about it and truly could have offended her. Luckily i didn't but I apologised anyway. It made me rethink how I approach people.
I think if people take on board all the comments that have been made on this thread then there is no need for a rigid set of rules.
We are all adults after all.
A set of realistic guidelines for munch behaviour, such as Blue posted should be more than enough for responsible adults to operate by.
There will always be those who set out to break rules, it will achieve nothing for them other than the total dislike of people who they may once have considered friends.
Jas
XXX
Munch guidelines from a newbie
1. HAVE FUN!!
2. Show others attending, the respect you would expect to receive yourself.
3. Use your common sense, if you think something is risque/unacceptable, it probably is, so think twice before acting.
4. Please bear in mind the bar staff etc, may not be members here.
1. HAVE FUN!!
2. Show others attending, the respect you would expect to receive yourself.
3. Use your common sense, if you think something is risque/unacceptable, it probably is, so think twice before acting.
4. Please bear in mind the bar staff etc, may not be members here.
Quote by little gem
Geez, I thought this one had finally landed quietly.
Gem, I think the issue is about diversity. It is desirable, I think, to have the full spectrum of activities to enable people to engage at any level they want to. At one end of the spectrum you'd have something like Blue's party - at the other, something vanilla that all (most) will feel comfortable with. If we insist that 'middle of the range' activities are OK at the vanilla events then they cease to be that and are therefore not available. This isn't about rules - it's about conventions which accommodate all.
I don't think you have to have attended anything to have an opinion on this. How this turns out, will influence how and whether people will get involved - so those who haven't yet attended a munch have a stake in it too.
Tune, I am not saying those who havent been to a munch should not have a say in things, quite the contrary as it is the new ones who often feel the most nervous about attending a munch. I am just wondering how much those nerves are based on hear-say of isolated incidents? As far I am concerned a munch is a social night out, not a bonk-a-thon. HTH.
What have I not attended to be able to not have an opinion on? Please do enlighten me.
Or are you going on the fact I have been to all of Blue's parties and calling me loose? Becasue quite frankly that is the way I have taken it. That you have labeled me with a reputation or attending hardcore parties and therefore would be unable to control myself in a pub environment because I am of course a player and have a matress strapped to my back and expect everyone I meet to be eager to shag no matter what.
I thought you had read me better than that Tune. I am disapointed and feel a flounce coming on!
;)I am utterly gobsmacked you have twisted something purely so the victim card can be played :x
This is about the diversity of events, and about how a purely vanilla munch is becoming blurred and merged with something more risqué like a party. It's about sorting out how the munch can remain a completely social event! Still having that diverse range of events so that there is something to suit everyone, from the most nervous and unsure of the newbies to the most outrageous party goers, with a whole lot more in between.
It's also about people overstepping the mark and how we can get rid of it happening. Whether that be a munch, party or whatever.
Quote by Steve_Lincs
I'm going to ask the question again as no one that has problems with how recent munches have gone has come up with any points we can put into can we as munch organisors put into place to make everyone feel more comfortable?????
If they want the organisors to be more vigilant on the night we can be with some help from a few we are to adhere to a more strict dress code we can put this in pm's to we are to name and shame or ban people who have been lewd then we need the assistance of mods.
I like the ideas that Easy has come up with,and maybe the "court" idea could work.
I'd also like to know as Fabio has also asked,have you been to munches Tune??
I have twice attempted to do just that. Having never attended one of these munces, but hosted many a private function. My feeling is one of participation. I feel that As well as one or two doormen, security should be undertaken by one or two of the attendee's. If a couple of munch goers could be designated to liase with the doorstaff, then embarasing situations would not only be detered, but should they arise, be dealt with very quickly.
Apart from that, an interim agreement between all the guys to watch each others backs, and to keep an eye on he girls would also be a great idea!
Sex God
Gem, sorry hun but......
You mentioned in you're post that we are all adults and should be treated like such, after saying that people should try to refrain from sex in the loos as opposed to being banned. To my mind having so little control over yourself and having sex in a loo is the way a pubescent teenager would behave. Sorry, but you can't have it both ways.
I go along with the idea that you should take it somewhere else although if you do have sex in a public place you may be arrested and charged for it as society in general deems it unexceptable.
Besides isn't this what one-on-one meets are for?
OK I'll go along with your suggestion Gem, as I don't like imposition and enforcement.
I say change the wording from "banned" to "discouraged" or "refrain" and if the behaviour continues then consider toughening the rule up. That way it gives some flexability to the people organising the event (although the bar/club management may have other ideas and throw them out anyway).
Good idea Jas, but what about the ones who seem to think guidelines do not apply to them? (there are one or two) You were adult and intelligent enough to empathise with the person you snogged and understand how your actions may have offended them.
There are others who treat life like a bull in a china shop and think, or care little for others emotions.
You mentioned in you're post that we are all adults and should be treated like such, after saying that people should try to refrain from sex in the loos as opposed to being banned. To my mind having so little control over yourself and having sex in a loo is the way a pubescent teenager would behave. Sorry, but you can't have it both ways.
I go along with the idea that you should take it somewhere else although if you do have sex in a public place you may be arrested and charged for it as society in general deems it unexceptable.
Besides isn't this what one-on-one meets are for?
OK I'll go along with your suggestion Gem, as I don't like imposition and enforcement.
I say change the wording from "banned" to "discouraged" or "refrain" and if the behaviour continues then consider toughening the rule up. That way it gives some flexability to the people organising the event (although the bar/club management may have other ideas and throw them out anyway).
Quote by Jas-Tim
3) I snogged another female member of the site after a munch, I hadn't really thought about it and truly could have offended her. Luckily i didn't but I apologised anyway. It made me rethink how I approach people.
I think if people take on board all the comments that have been made on this thread then there is no need for a rigid set of rules.
We are all adults after all.
A set of realistic guidelines for munch behaviour, such as Blue posted should be more than enough for responsible adults to operate by.
Jas
XXX
Good idea Jas, but what about the ones who seem to think guidelines do not apply to them? (there are one or two) You were adult and intelligent enough to empathise with the person you snogged and understand how your actions may have offended them.
There are others who treat life like a bull in a china shop and think, or care little for others emotions.
Sex God
Quote by MISSCHIEF
This is about the diversity of events, and about how a purely vanilla munch is becoming blurred and merged with something more risqué like a party. It's about sorting out how the munch can remain a completely social event! Still having that diverse range of events so that there is something to suit everyone, from the most nervous and unsure of the newbies to the most outrageous party goers, with a whole lot more in between.
It's also about people overstepping the mark and how we can get rid of it happening. Whether that be a munch, party or whatever.
:cheers:
Sex God
Quote by little gem
Geez, I thought this one had finally landed quietly.
Gem, I think the issue is about diversity. It is desirable, I think, to have the full spectrum of activities to enable people to engage at any level they want to. At one end of the spectrum you'd have something like Blue's party - at the other, something vanilla that all (most) will feel comfortable with. If we insist that 'middle of the range' activities are OK at the vanilla events then they cease to be that and are therefore not available. This isn't about rules - it's about conventions which accommodate all.
I don't think you have to have attended anything to have an opinion on this. How this turns out, will influence how and whether people will get involved - so those who haven't yet attended a munch have a stake in it too.
Tune, I am not saying those who havent been to a munch should not have a say in things, quite the contrary as it is the new ones who often feel the most nervous about attending a munch. I am just wondering how much those nerves are based on hear-say of isolated incidents? As far I am concerned a munch is a social night out, not a bonk-a-thon. HTH.
What have I not attended to be able to not have an opinion on? Please do enlighten me.
Or are you going on the fact I have been to all of Blue's parties and calling me loose? Becasue quite frankly that is the way I have taken it. That you have labeled me with a reputation or attending hardcore parties and therefore would be unable to control myself in a pub environment because I am of course a player and have a matress strapped to my back and expect everyone I meet to be eager to shag no matter what.
I thought you had read me better than that Tune. I am disapointed and feel a flounce coming on!
;)I would like to publically apologise for this post and my reaction to Tune.
I am more than aware he thinks higher of me than I have implied in my post here and I am also aware that I have over reacted on the misreading of the post he made and the emotional jump I made from it.
I apologise.
The reason for my sensitivity on this issue is because I have found my self hounded in PM and occaisionally at meets / munches/ parties on the basis of attending swinging parties and clubs. It has put me in a possition where I am over sensitive to people's perceptions of me and where my boundaries lie. Some considered me an easy lay because of my attendance at certain things and so treated me with a complete lack of respect. I highlight that Tune is not one of these people. I gave up swinging for a while for this reason and would attend things in a purely social way. I jumped to conclusions about things because I find it frustrating right now to have a general implication there is pressure to do anything in my social life as things are so unbelievabley pressured right now in my private life.
I apologise again for my outburst :cry: I never meant to react so harshly
Gem. xCan someone take my shovel off me now please? :(
Quote by easy
3) I snogged another female member of the site after a munch, I hadn't really thought about it and truly could have offended her. Luckily i didn't but I apologised anyway. It made me rethink how I approach people.
I think if people take on board all the comments that have been made on this thread then there is no need for a rigid set of rules.
We are all adults after all.
A set of realistic guidelines for munch behaviour, such as Blue posted should be more than enough for responsible adults to operate by.
Jas
XXX
Good idea Jas, but what about the ones who seem to think guidelines do not apply to them? (there are one or two) You were adult and intelligent enough to empathise with the person you snogged and understand how your actions may have offended them.
There are others who treat life like a bull in a china shop and think, or care little for others emotions.
Unfortunatly there will always be people like that and they will alienate others from offering them friendships and invites.
All we can do is be aware, and ensure that we all as individuals take responsibility for our actions. If we see someone looking uncomfortable show some support, ask if they are ok.
If someone grabs or gropes me, I will report them at an appropriate time for me. I might not want to raise a big hooha during the munch but I would be watching who else they approached to prevent it happening to others.
A zillion rules won't matter to those who won't abide by them so lets use our common sense, instead.
Jas
XXX
Quote by little gem
Geez, I thought this one had finally landed quietly.
Gem, I think the issue is about diversity. It is desirable, I think, to have the full spectrum of activities to enable people to engage at any level they want to. At one end of the spectrum you'd have something like Blue's party - at the other, something vanilla that all (most) will feel comfortable with. If we insist that 'middle of the range' activities are OK at the vanilla events then they cease to be that and are therefore not available. This isn't about rules - it's about conventions which accommodate all.
I don't think you have to have attended anything to have an opinion on this. How this turns out, will influence how and whether people will get involved - so those who haven't yet attended a munch have a stake in it too.
Tune, I am not saying those who havent been to a munch should not have a say in things, quite the contrary as it is the new ones who often feel the most nervous about attending a munch. I am just wondering how much those nerves are based on hear-say of isolated incidents? As far I am concerned a munch is a social night out, not a bonk-a-thon. HTH.
What have I not attended to be able to not have an opinion on? Please do enlighten me.
Or are you going on the fact I have been to all of Blue's parties and calling me loose? Becasue quite frankly that is the way I have taken it. That you have labeled me with a reputation or attending hardcore parties and therefore would be unable to control myself in a pub environment because I am of course a player and have a matress strapped to my back and expect everyone I meet to be eager to shag no matter what.
I thought you had read me better than that Tune. I am disapointed and feel a flounce coming on!
;)I would like to publically apologise for this post and my reaction to Tune.
I am more than aware he thinks higher of me than I have implied in my post here and I am also aware that I have over reacted on the misreading of the post he made and the emotional jump I made from it.
I apologise.
The reason for my sensitivity on this issue is because I have found my self hounded in PM and occaisionally at meets / munches/ parties on the basis of attending swinging parties and clubs. It has put me in a possition where I am over sensitive to people's perceptions of me and where my boundaries lie. I gave up swinging for a while for this reason and would attend things in a purely social way. I jumped to conclusions about things because I find it frustrating right now to have a general implication there is pressure to do anything in my social life as things are so unbelievabley pressured right now in my private life.
I apologise again for my outburst :cry: I never meant to react so harshly
Gem. xCan someone take my shovel off me now please? :(
Oh Gem ....... now you've made me cry!!!!!!!!
<fast blinks>
Sorry mini hijack here ........
Nope, cancel hijack, have PM'd it all
8-) 8-) OK as we were :D
Sex God
Quote by easy
Maybe we do need a "Court" for those who act persistently. For example a list of people who have complaints about them in the mods area, so that a mod can check to see if they've been mentioned before and make an informed decision.
on is jaded.
I am ready......I am willing......I have the kit
Quote by BrightonGeezer
............I feel that As well as one or two doormen, security should be undertaken by one or two of the attendee's. If a couple of munch goers could be designated to liase with the doorstaff, then embarasing situations would not only be detered, but should they arise, be dealt with very quickly............
Let's not get carried away here. We're talking about nights out organised by members of the forum at little or no cost to the people going. The 'doorstaff' are likely to be other members of the site helping out just to check that the people coming in are on the list. They're not going to be certificated/licenced doorstaff and I wouldn't expect for a minute that anyone should hire some.
I still think the whole thing boils down to people having respect for the others around them and having the common sense to behave in an acceptable manner. If someone disregards these basic principles then they aren't welcome in my book, irrespective of what colour badges they wear or how long they've been on the site.
Steve
Sex God
Quote by easy
Gem, sorry hun but......
You mentioned in you're post that we are all adults and should be treated like such, after saying that people should try to refrain from sex in the loos as opposed to being banned. To my mind having so little control over yourself and having sex in a loo is the way a pubescent teenager would behave. Sorry, but you can't have it both ways.
I go along with the idea that you should take it somewhere else although if you do have sex in a public place you may be arrested and charged for it as society in general deems it unexceptable.
Besides isn't this what one-on-one meets are for?
OK I'll go along with your suggestion Gem, as I don't like imposition and enforcement.
I say change the wording from "banned" to "discouraged" or "refrain" and if the behaviour continues then consider toughening the rule up. That way it gives some flexability to the people organising the event (although the bar/club management may have other ideas and throw them out anyway).
I suppose what I was trying to say was that as a firm 'do this and be kicked off sh' rule the toilet thing was the most likely one to be broken, not necessarily by me. It wasn't so much a personal request to have full sex in the toilets at a munch (which I have never done) but as you said the relaxing of the word rules. I agree with the wording you have used.
Gem. x
Sex God
I have refrained from posting too much on this as I really dont know if I am qualified to comment on behaviour at munches having only attended one, which I was one of the organisers. However, I am a little concerned over the plans we have in place for the forthcoming Wigan Mini Munch.
This will be held in a private room which is seperate from the rest of the pub and the bar staff have been made aware it is an adult event for people from an adult forum/chat room on the internet. (not mentioned which internet site we are from though). What I am worried about is, the theme we have set for the night. We have decided to do a fancy dress 'Back to School' theme and I know that a lot of people will be wearing very little clothing.
I know Steve_Lincs asked this question earlier, but are we now saying that certain dress codes should also be applied?
If this is the case, then I really need to know where I stand with this. Do I now need to change the theme, can people wear short, revealing clothes or is there a possibliity that by allowing people to wear this clothing, I will possibly offending some of the newer people attending?
This will be held in a private room which is seperate from the rest of the pub and the bar staff have been made aware it is an adult event for people from an adult forum/chat room on the internet. (not mentioned which internet site we are from though). What I am worried about is, the theme we have set for the night. We have decided to do a fancy dress 'Back to School' theme and I know that a lot of people will be wearing very little clothing.
I know Steve_Lincs asked this question earlier, but are we now saying that certain dress codes should also be applied?
If this is the case, then I really need to know where I stand with this. Do I now need to change the theme, can people wear short, revealing clothes or is there a possibliity that by allowing people to wear this clothing, I will possibly offending some of the newer people attending?
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
I have refrained from posting too much on this as I really dont know if I am qualified to comment on behaviour at munches having only attended one, which I was one of the organisers. However, I am a little concerned over the plans we have in place for the forthcoming Wigan Mini Munch.
This will be held in a private room which is seperate from the rest of the pub and the bar staff have been made aware it is an adult event for people from an adult forum/chat room on the internet. (not mentioned which internet site we are from though). What I am worried about is, the theme we have set for the night. We have decided to do a fancy dress 'Back to School' theme and I know that a lot of people will be wearing very little clothing.
I know Steve_Lincs asked this question earlier, but are we now saying that certain dress codes should also be applied?
If this is the case, then I really need to know where I stand with this. Do I now need to change the theme, can people wear short, revealing clothes or is there a possibliity that by allowing people to wear this clothing, I will possibly offending some of the newer people attending?
My personal view on the dress code issue, after giving it some thought is quite simple (sorry to Steve_Lincs for not mentioning it before, I had not really given the dress code thing any thought when you mentioned it)
Now I have thought about it, it's not a big problem. You see loads of hen nights and the like in normal average pubs where women are dressed in naughty outfits. Indeed, my sisters hen night consisted of a group of women dressed in school uniforms getting pissed up in normal pubs in Standish, near Wigan.... so, I don't think the school theme for the Wigan munch is a problem at all - they've seen it all before
.Of course, again it comes down to common sense. Some more revealing fetish gear that might be OK in a swingers club or fine at a party would shock people in a normal pub. Again, I think it comes down to what is normally acceptable on a social night out.... the rules really shouldn't be any more complicated than that. Tarty or a bit naughty is fine. Indecent is not fine.
Sex God
Agree with Shireen. IMO you don't have a problem because all those attending will have done so on the basis that it will be that sort of evening. If they didn't like it they wouldn't have asked to come.
Sex God
Quote by Shireen_Mids
Naughty Wigan Couple, with regard to the dress code for your munch have you thought about asking the venue about their views on it?
I think once you have some sort of guide as to what they will accept or not then you can decide what is acceptable or not...
Shireen
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Thanks Shireen, but I have already checked with the the Venue and they are fine with the dress code and know what to expect on the night, what I am worried about is that a few of the posts on here have mentioned dress codes but no one seems to have responded, mainly because the main issue seems to have been around the behaviour of some people who have attended.
We now seem to have some updated guidelines on what should/should not be happening but is something on dress codes going to be introduced?
Edit - seems to have been answered while I was busy typing!
Quote by steveg_nw
............I feel that As well as one or two doormen, security should be undertaken by one or two of the attendee's. If a couple of munch goers could be designated to liase with the doorstaff, then embarasing situations would not only be detered, but should they arise, be dealt with very quickly............
Let's not get carried away here. We're talking about nights out organised by members of the forum at little or no cost to the people going. The 'doorstaff' are likely to be other members of the site helping out just to check that the people coming in are on the list. They're not going to be certificated/licenced doorstaff and I wouldn't expect for a minute that anyone should hire some.
I still think the whole thing boils down to people having respect for the others around them and having the common sense to behave in an acceptable manner. If someone disregards these basic principles then they aren't welcome in my book, irrespective of what colour badges they wear or how long they've been on the site.
Steve
Fair enough Steve, both yours and Judy's points are on board. I suppose as someone who used to arange and provide security at punk gigs in the 1990's, I'm used to dealing with a lot of knobheads and nutjobs in one place at the same time. Some of what I've read here with regards to literal sex assault perhaps gave me the wrong impression. I have offered to mind the door at an up and coming munch, so this is indeed a usefull thread for me. Those who look after the door need to be responsible and not over zealous too!
Pete.
Sex God
I apologise.
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Just so people know, Gem and I have discussed this privately and there are no hard feelings.
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
We now seem to have some updated guidelines on what should/should not be happening but is something on dress codes going to be introduced?
Does there need to be a guideline about dress code? Isn't saying what would be acceptable on any other social night out enough?
Sex God
Quote by bluexxx
Does there need to be a guideline about dress code? Isn't saying what would be acceptable on any other social night out enough?
It should be....but it won't be, unfortunately.
Sex God
Right just wandered in after a 'normal' weekend away
I would just like to comment:- (most of wich has already been said)
1. common sense
2. enjoy yourselves
3. behave as if it is an evening party, like a wedding party (DB)
I'm having trouble remembering back to my first munch :shock: (have I really been to that many) I will have to make a list, but I do remember thinking what if, no one talks to me, what if something happens I dont like. But all my fears where unfounded.
All the munches I have been to, I have enjoyed and many there be many more to come.
I would just like to comment:- (most of wich has already been said)
1. common sense
2. enjoy yourselves
3. behave as if it is an evening party, like a wedding party (DB)
I'm having trouble remembering back to my first munch :shock: (have I really been to that many) I will have to make a list, but I do remember thinking what if, no one talks to me, what if something happens I dont like. But all my fears where unfounded.
All the munches I have been to, I have enjoyed and many there be many more to come.
Quote by Alleyson
Munch guidelines from a newbie
1. HAVE FUN!!
2. Show others attending, the respect you would expect to receive yourself.
3. Use your common sense, if you think something is risque/unacceptable, it probably is, so think twice before acting.
4. Please bear in mind the bar staff etc, may not be members here.
Right just wandered in after a 'normal' weekend away
I would just like to comment:- (most of wich has already been said)
1. common sense
2. enjoy yourselves
3. behave as if it is an evening party, like a wedding party (DB)
I'm having trouble remembering back to my first munch :shock: (have I really been to that many) I will have to make a list, but I do remember thinking what if, no one talks to me, what if something happens I dont like. But all my fears where unfounded.
All the munches I have been to, I have enjoyed and many there be many more to come.
I think we're thinking along the same lines Sarah
