My update on smacking children

16 Feb 2009

Quote by Theladyisaminx
This is such a hard subject for me to talk about. I dont know where to start apart from smacking is different to a beating. I dont agrea with smacking or beating a child. I did smack my child a couple of times but I found that there are other ways of coping with my childrens occasional bad behavior, for example, the naughty chair, explaning things to them and taking things of my children as a punnishmet and it did work. My children are now in their 20s now and are decent poeple.
I got a lot of beatings from my mam with pokers belts and more and then my dad would join in with his hand. This happen to me from as young as 2 from what I can remember, the beatings happend to me for no reason I did not have to do any thing wrong. I learned from my mam and dads mistakes But some poeple do not. My friend and her hubby was very violent with her children and they have become violent poeple.
Whatever poeple do to tell there children off it should be consistant if they do something wrong they should be punnished and not get away with it and hopefully the child will learn from it. hopefully temper should never come into it but no ones perfect, im not perfect.

I don't know if I am stepping out of line here it is not my intent, I do believe no children should ever be beaten with any object and that is where all children should be protected. No child deserves a beating for any reason and the parents should be held accountable.I am not a perfect parent as you are not what we are both trying to do is raise our children the best way we can we are not given a guide book the day they are born. It seems to me you know whats right and wrong and you are a good parent and a damn site more perfect than a lot out there.
Good luck xxx
Thanks for the compliment, im not good at taking compliments. redface

You are the same as me and you did and do your best at rasing your children, all you can do is you best and like you said no 1 is perfect, im not. smile

Sorry for repeating myself.
your welcome Take the compliment and wear it proud. xxx
Your right parents should be held accountable. I do blame my parents and yet I love. I forgive my dad as we have talked about it as he understands what he he has done but my mam is a different kettle of fish.

16 Feb 2009

Quote by Nicekat
This is such a hard subject for me to talk about. I dont know where to start apart from smacking is different to a beating. I dont agrea with smacking or beating a child. I did smack my child a couple of times but I found that there are other ways of coping with my childrens occasional bad behavior, for example, the naughty chair, explaning things to them and taking things of my children as a punnishmet and it did work. My children are now in their 20s now and are decent poeple.
I got a lot of beatings from my mam with pokers belts and more and then my dad would join in with his hand. This happen to me from as young as 2 from what I can remember, the beatings happend to me for no reason I did not have to do any thing wrong. I learned from my mam and dads mistakes But some poeple do not. My friend and her hubby was very violent with her children and they have become violent poeple.
Whatever poeple do to tell there children off it should be consistant if they do something wrong they should be punnished and not get away with it and hopefully the child will learn from it. hopefully temper should never come into it but no ones perfect, im not perfect.

I don't know if I am stepping out of line here it is not my intent, I do believe no children should ever be beaten with any object and that is where all children should be protected. No child deserves a beating for any reason and the parents should be held accountable.I am not a perfect parent as you are not what we are both trying to do is raise our children the best way we can we are not given a guide book the day they are born. It seems to me you know whats right and wrong and you are a good parent and a damn site more perfect than a lot out there.
Good luck xxx
Thanks for the compliment, im not good at taking compliments. redface

You are the same as me and you did and do your best at rasing your children, all you can do is you best and like you said no 1 is perfect, im not. smile

Sorry for repeating myself.
your welcome Take the compliment and wear it proud. xxx
Your right parents should be held accountable. I do blame my parents and yet I love. I forgive my dad as we have talked about it as he understands what he he has done but my mam is a different kettle of fish.
I have come to understand so much but feel a little uncomfortable saying it here. I am not covering my own feelings in doing this but want to protect others.
I am not saying how I feel is right but after so much soul searching it feels right for me.
I feel it could be alot of what we strive towards or what we want to feel and understand.
You feel it I can tell but not always are we able to understand it.

21 Feb 2009

Just to add my final comments on this thread. No insults or criticisms were meant on my other reply. To be honest I was trying to clarify what had been said previously and also highlight that people have differing opinions and experiences of similar situations!
Its called life!! And we all go through it and live it in whatever way we see fit!!
I am no expert on anything just a human being getting by the best I can!!