Need more help!

10 Jun 2004

Hello,
I'm still quite new to all of this so I need a little bit of help.
Ok my problem is this..... I'm a size 18 and have always really worried about it. I don't worry about it so much anymore as I'm told I'm attractive but I'm supposed to be meeting someone and I'm not sure how to go about it.
We've been chatting via email and IM for a while and when I'm on the net I feel really confident etc but I don't know how I'm going to be when we meet.
I've already told him I'm quite shy in real life. I don't want to back out but how do you go about these things? I love sex and really enjoy it while doing it but it's getting going that I have the problem with. I'm not into revealing my body too much as I don't like being looked at...... maybe this sort of thing isn't for me after all! Like I said, I'm ok with my nakedness once at it (as such) its just the beginning i'm worried about.
Is there any advice anyone can offer me? Sorry for the long post!
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10 Jun 2004

Oh and sorry if this isn't the right place to ask advice of this nature..... wasn't really sure!
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11 Jun 2004

This might be of some help!
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/12336.html
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11 Jun 2004

don't worry about it honey........ the way that i look at it is like this.........
the average u.k woman is a size 16...... so being a 18 is just a little above average, and if you have talked to him and feel comfortable about that then you are half way there...if you are ooozing self confidence then it doesn't matter if you are a size 8 or 28......
as for the meeting i am guessing that they will be as nervous as you at first, i remember my first meet, i was a petrified jibbering wreck biggrin

just take everything at your own pace and have a bloody good laugh.............the good time i am sure will follow......
sean xxxxxxxx

11 Jun 2004

There is nothing more attractive than a woman who doesn't know how good looking she actually is!

11 Jun 2004

you sound fine to me
and its true if you feel sexy you ll just ooze sex appeal
dressing to highlight your best bits is something we all do
as todays..ashion for stick insects is giveing us all complexs
pm and well have a gasbag
and swop ideas lol
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....maralyn monroe was a size 16 and look at her sex godess

11 Jun 2004

I agree with Red..
Also wear sexy underwear and occasionally while you are talking think about what you have on underneath. It may not be on show at first - but YOU will know you have it on and that will make you feel sexy. A woman who feels sexy oozes sex appeal.
And regardless of what the ad says - size really does NOT matter with anyone who is worth knowing - personality does.
(Take note all those fellahs who seem to think having an above average sized appendage makes them a sex god)
Alex x x

11 Jun 2004

I agree with the above. Size 18 is a nice size. I love a curvy woman and in truth so do most str8 men. It's only the fashion media that promotes the idea of the model stick insect. They say clothes supposedly look better on something resembling a clothes horse but to hell with that. Look at the women of the 1950s, Jane Mansfield, Diana Dors, Shelly Winters..they all had curves and that's what real red blooded men still like. In fact it would be interesting to run a poll on this and ask the men - "what shape of women do you like?"
Perhaps you should wear a nice corset or gridle to enhance those curves, with suspenders and stockings attached and a pair sexy heels you'll have him eating off the floor in no time. worship

I know i'd be.
Best wishes LC.

11 Jun 2004

Quote by onlyme1981
..... I'm a size 18 and have always really worried about it. .......
...... it's getting going that I have the problem with. I'm not into revealing my body too much as I don't like being looked at...... maybe this sort of thing isn't for me after all! Like I said, I'm ok with my nakedness once at it (as such) its just the beginning i'm worried about.
Is there any advice anyone can offer me? Sorry for the long post!

The answer is to be comfortable with how you look, a lot of blokes really do like larger women regardless of what the media would have you believe. Don't worry about getting naked, any bloke you meet is going to be much too pleased at getting his hands on you to be worrying about any of the bits you think look unattractive. Also men really do not worry about cellulite, stretch marks, love handles and all the rest.
As far as advice goes - turn up, be yourself and if you both get on have some really good sex!!!
Also if you find getting naked difficult try going with a friend to a naturist beach or resort - you will soon see that people come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and forget why you were worried in the first place.
Have fun, get naked, check out my swinging anthem!
Roger XXX

11 Jun 2004

Hello

I'd just like to say thank you for the advice..... it is much appreciated.
I know I'm not going to get really confident overnight but you lot have helped me see that not all men like stick thin women!
I'd also like to say how friendly you all are..... a lovely bunch of people smile

Thanks again.
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