need some advice :)

20 Jun 2005

hiyas
now i live in scotland and as has been covered a few times we havnt got any swingers clubs up here
((yeye i know u think this is gonna be a why not tread but it isnt :P ))
We've been reading alot about swingers clubs online and are intrigued and would like to experience that part of the scene ((me alot more than her but only coz of the majority of single males the guids allways talk about ..she prefers fems :P))
We would prob just go to watch on the first time allthough knowing me and her we would join in as soon as comfortable , but as near complete novices im not sure if its a good idea or not, and thats the bit of advice i need does anyone think it is or isnt and why you feel that way smile

btw i dont want stories full of detail or anything like that , just advice smile

or even an invite to take us along to one biggrin

but maybe ishouldnt say that aloud might actually get one and die of a heart attack :P
heaysy and a snoring ck
btw if this has been covered before and a mod decides to lock it can u post a link for us to where it was covered smile

20 Jun 2005

from my experience of going to clubs, they are very relaxed and non-pushy. It is a little scary first time going, but i was at ease with 30 mins. Now i cant stay away smile

U can always leave if you are uncomfortable. good luck

20 Jun 2005

cool thx for the help hun now i need to throw a dart at a map to pick a city to head for ....
*throws the dart*
*dart hits a picture of a tree signifing woods*
oh erm dont think ill find a club there at least not the type im looking for redface

anyone wanna surgest where to head for?
CK

20 Jun 2005

lot of clubs have couples night, i have to admit i don't really like couples night as i like the single men lol but by the sounds of it a couples night may be better for you smile

20 Jun 2005

Put your kilt on man. Bound to get to some comments and ice breakers.

20 Jun 2005

Quote by heaysyandck
hiyas
now i live in scotland and as has been covered a few times we havnt got any swingers clubs up here
((yeye i know u think this is gonna be a why not tread but it isnt :P ))
We've been reading alot about swingers clubs online and are intrigued and would like to experience that part of the scene ((me alot more than her but only coz of the majority of single males the guids allways talk about ..she prefers fems :P))
We would prob just go to watch on the first time allthough knowing me and her we would join in as soon as comfortable , but as near complete novices im not sure if its a good idea or not, and thats the bit of advice i need does anyone think it is or isnt and why you feel that way
btw i dont want stories full of detail or anything like that , just advice
or even an invite to take us along to one but maybe ishouldnt say that aloud might actually get one and die of a heart attack :P
heaysy and a snoring ck
btw if this has been covered before and a mod decides to lock it can u post a link for us to where it was covered

Hello you two. And welcome to the asylum.
If you look at the Clubs and Parties pages here and visit some of their websites/about pages, you'll find they all say that there is absolutelyno obligation to play at all. Particularly on your first visit.
I have also found that to be the case every time I've been to a club. The first time I we went to Le C in Sheffield, we had the same thoughts and concerns as you, and no doubt countless others. We didn't play with anyone else that night, and didn't even play with each other until about an hour before closing time ! !.
So - in answer to your question - Yes. Go first time for a look. Don't set your "we're not going to play" boundary in stone, but be sure you're bothhappy before you make any "on the night" changes.
Good luck - and - enjoy
db