I need some help and advice on how to actually meet some girls as I've tried a few approaches with very little luck. I've tried the being nice approach and I've tried the dirty talk approach so where am I going wrong. I'm 31, male and from Edinburgh.
I really want to meet someone that I can have a long term relationship with but I'm more than happy just to have some fun before then.
I've been on the chat rooms as well but I'm a bit confused as to how to get involved there.
Any help advice would be greatly appreaciated.
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Quote by shugmally
I need some help and advice on how to actually meet some girls as I've tried a few approaches with very little luck. I've tried the being nice approach and I've tried the dirty talk approach so where am I going wrong. I'm 31, male and from Edinburgh.
I really want to meet someone that I can have a long term relationship with but I'm more than happy just to have some fun before then.
I've been on the chat rooms as well but I'm a bit confused as to how to get involved there.
Any help advice would be greatly appreaciated.
Hi. Okay... well, I would say that maybe you need to evaluate what you are looking to get out of this site. It isn't a dating site, so if that is your ultimate aim (as your post would seem to suggest) then maybe you'd be better off joining one of the many dating sites out there. If it is sexual fun with other consenting adults, then maybe you should have a look at your profile, make it more interesting etc as Sam said. You could also sign up for some of the social events advertised in Let's Meet Up to get to know folk. Post in the forum, chat in chat... all good! No quick fix or one-size-fits-all answwer am afraid!
:welcome: to the forum though. Hope you have fun whatever road you decide to go down.
Nola x
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Try going out at night and talking to people, building a social circle of friends will build confidence and then you won't be one of the millions of single huys on a site like this looking for a fantasy woman that they are highly unlikely to find.
You might try the conventional dating sites like personals or whatever they are called now and include in your profile the vague hint that you are kind of liberal minded and imaginative and you may find a woman who would unlikely be on here but but who is at least broad minded and adventurous enough to go on an interesting journey with you.
You might try the conventional dating sites like personals or whatever they are called now and include in your profile the vague hint that you are kind of liberal minded and imaginative and you may find a woman who would unlikely be on here but but who is at least broad minded and adventurous enough to go on an interesting journey with you.
:welcome: First of all welcome! and I hope you find what you're looking for.
On the advice, I'm with Nola and Sam on this one. Had a quick look at your profile, and if I am really honest, if you whispered me in the chatrooms I don't know whether I would reply as you have nothing on your profile to say what sort of person you are, what you like etc. (I would also suggest you read the profiles of people before you talk to them, then at least you have an opening to them)
Sometimes just going into a chatroom and saying "hello everyone" helps! The first time I went into the BBW room on server one I was a bit wary, but after saying that, most people said hi and involved me in their conversations - made me feel really good. When you have popped in a few times people get to recognise you and will automatically say hi. If you watch the cams and a woman is on, don't say things like "show me your puppies" or any words to that effect... will p*** most women off!
When you're not on here, try joining some clubs? for example if you're into walking, or singing, join your local clubs, you will meet people with similar interests and you never know, there may be that one special person there! You could also join online communities.. there is so much out there to do!
Anyway, I wish you well xxxx
On the advice, I'm with Nola and Sam on this one. Had a quick look at your profile, and if I am really honest, if you whispered me in the chatrooms I don't know whether I would reply as you have nothing on your profile to say what sort of person you are, what you like etc. (I would also suggest you read the profiles of people before you talk to them, then at least you have an opening to them)
Sometimes just going into a chatroom and saying "hello everyone" helps! The first time I went into the BBW room on server one I was a bit wary, but after saying that, most people said hi and involved me in their conversations - made me feel really good. When you have popped in a few times people get to recognise you and will automatically say hi. If you watch the cams and a woman is on, don't say things like "show me your puppies" or any words to that effect... will p*** most women off!
When you're not on here, try joining some clubs? for example if you're into walking, or singing, join your local clubs, you will meet people with similar interests and you never know, there may be that one special person there! You could also join online communities.. there is so much out there to do!
Anyway, I wish you well xxxx
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Quote by Misskitty_2008
:welcome: First of all welcome! and I hope you find what you're looking for.
On the advice, I'm with Nola and Sam on this one. Had a quick look at your profile, and if I am really honest, if you whispered me in the chatrooms I don't know whether I would reply as you have nothing on your profile to say what sort of person you are, what you like etc. (I would also suggest you read the profiles of people before you talk to them, then at least you have an opening to them)
Sometimes just going into a chatroom and saying "hello everyone" helps! The first time I went into the BBW room on server one I was a bit wary, but after saying that, most people said hi and involved me in their conversations - made me feel really good. When you have popped in a few times people get to recognise you and will automatically say hi. If you watch the cams and a woman is on, don't say things like "show me your puppies" or any words to that effect... will p*** most women off!
When you're not on here, try joining some clubs? for example if you're into walking, or singing, join your local clubs, you will meet people with similar interests and you never know, there may be that one special person there! You could also join online communities.. there is so much out there to do!
Anyway, I wish you well xxxx
Totally agree with MissKitty here, but I think you should also just be yourself. Forget about all the different 'approaches' you've tried, nobody really responds to that. Just be yourself.
