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Hi, as subject shows I'm very new and nervous. My guy is a sexy black man and loves my non athletic curvy body. But am nervous about going to a club and this resulting in no fun. Any advice?
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Sex God
Hi
Welcome to the forums.
Have a look at the club meets page and see if there is one being arranged in your area and ask for an invite and go with others from the site.
Going to a club does not always result in fun being had, many a time I have been and just spent it socially, because I've been so busy chatting, time just went by!
Have fun
Welcome to the forums.
Have a look at the club meets page and see if there is one being arranged in your area and ask for an invite and go with others from the site.
Going to a club does not always result in fun being had, many a time I have been and just spent it socially, because I've been so busy chatting, time just went by!
Have fun
I totally understand where you are coming from. I remember our first club visit. I refused to get out of the car for half an hour! I thought that everyone in there would be young and beautiful. Who would want me? I was very wrong!
I really wouldn't worry about having a curvy figure. You will see when you go to a club that there are people of all ages, shapes, sizes, colours and from varying backgrounds.
There is no 'typical' type of swinger!
Everyone has their preferences and curvy does not equal unattractive! There are lots of people who find curvy men/women very attractive, just as there are lots of people who find very thin men/women very attractive. Each to their own.
If you get turned down, don't be offended. You wouldn't play with someone you don't find attractive either. Also, don't automatically think that it is due to your figure, it could be your hair colour, your personality, it could even be that the female half of a couple doesn't want her man to play with someone more attractive than her! Whatever the reason, there's no point in dwelling and getting paranoid, just move on!
You'd be surprised at how different people's minds work.
If you are unsure, why not try a social event first?
I really wouldn't worry about having a curvy figure. You will see when you go to a club that there are people of all ages, shapes, sizes, colours and from varying backgrounds.
There is no 'typical' type of swinger!
Everyone has their preferences and curvy does not equal unattractive! There are lots of people who find curvy men/women very attractive, just as there are lots of people who find very thin men/women very attractive. Each to their own.
If you get turned down, don't be offended. You wouldn't play with someone you don't find attractive either. Also, don't automatically think that it is due to your figure, it could be your hair colour, your personality, it could even be that the female half of a couple doesn't want her man to play with someone more attractive than her! Whatever the reason, there's no point in dwelling and getting paranoid, just move on!
You'd be surprised at how different people's minds work.
If you are unsure, why not try a social event first?
Sex God
Great post Funlovers. Yep, exactly! Whiteandblack, different clubs might attract a slightly different clientele, or the one club might attract a slightly different clientele one day to the next if they have more specialist nights, but you will generally find people of all ages, colours, social background, body shape and sexual preference so don't worry. It's not all gonna be perfect 10 'beautiful people' by any stretch. I can assure you. Well, not unless you try for an invite to a Fever Party or something where the organisers get to vet your appearance before deigning to offer the chance of admission but swinging club crowds are much of a muchness IME.
Can be quite daunting clubs. I take a good while to relax into them and get a feel for the vibe from other people, usually have to start off somewhere locked-door private to get the sap rising so to speak before even thinking about playing somewhere more openly. Sometimes that's enough and the night becomes primarily a social evening out like any other, but with less clothes, more jacuzzis and the kind of eyes-on-stalks voyeuristic opportunities you'll not often find down your local boozer. If you're feeling bold most clubs will have a couples room where you and your fella can just indulge eachother, throwing it open to anyone who might be inclined to join in with either of you, but don't expect any fun, and don't be disappointed if there isn't any. Might just be the crowd, or atmosphere, or the club is wrong for you that night. Try a different one, see if the ways that it's different are better or worse for you.
Used to be club meets organised by chatroom / forum users pretty regulsrly, been to a good few over the years. They are less frequent than they were, as are the purely social nights out that were once such a feature here, and geography's a pain but keep an eye out in Let's Meet Up for news. Use the club reviews <<<< over there to see what's in travelling distance of you and see which you might fancy. Always worth a spin even if you only shag your partner. Quite an eye-opener they can be at times, and no mistake! ;)
Can be quite daunting clubs. I take a good while to relax into them and get a feel for the vibe from other people, usually have to start off somewhere locked-door private to get the sap rising so to speak before even thinking about playing somewhere more openly. Sometimes that's enough and the night becomes primarily a social evening out like any other, but with less clothes, more jacuzzis and the kind of eyes-on-stalks voyeuristic opportunities you'll not often find down your local boozer. If you're feeling bold most clubs will have a couples room where you and your fella can just indulge eachother, throwing it open to anyone who might be inclined to join in with either of you, but don't expect any fun, and don't be disappointed if there isn't any. Might just be the crowd, or atmosphere, or the club is wrong for you that night. Try a different one, see if the ways that it's different are better or worse for you.
Used to be club meets organised by chatroom / forum users pretty regulsrly, been to a good few over the years. They are less frequent than they were, as are the purely social nights out that were once such a feature here, and geography's a pain but keep an eye out in Let's Meet Up for news. Use the club reviews <<<< over there to see what's in travelling distance of you and see which you might fancy. Always worth a spin even if you only shag your partner. Quite an eye-opener they can be at times, and no mistake! ;)
Sex God
What neil said! :thumbup:
