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21 Feb 2009

Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I posted a thread very early on in my forum career, and instantly regretted it. It was torn to bits and nearly put me off the forum for life. I'm glad I carried on reading and eventually had the confidence to add my own thoughts. I still haven't initiated many new threads but am now addicted to the forum. I can confirm that there is a certain status associated with having become a regular. A newbie seems to get little respect and has to be put in their place as a rite of passage, just to see if they have what it takes to become a forumite. A notable exception to this seems to have rightly been Resonance, who slotted in like he's always been there. Maybe it's because he blinded everyone with his wit and long-winded missives from an early stage. I have to say, he's a born poster

Feel I have to put fingers to keyboard and respond to a bit of this post!
A ocassional poster on here, who is a online buddy of mine, said see you a member of the gang now!
How wrong!
Not here to be a member of what others percieve to be a gang, but have gelled with a couple from the forum.
But the question is.......is that how others see it?
Also Res did bounce on the forums with what I classed as a LOOK AT ME post, very witty, but I thought, hes an attention seeker!!
How wrong!
A good poster, who can contribute on all sorts of posts, seems a pretty level guy, an asset to a forum!
We all have a place here. Some have a somewhat controversial way of posting, some are more subtle at stirring it up, some are neutral, some are fluffy, some are down right dirty, some post for the sake of posting, some are new, some are old.
All good fun!

21 Feb 2009

i understand what minx is saying.
i often come into the forum and never get around to moving on tothe chat room,caus ethere are some good fresh threads going. good debate or some well neded banter.
i do like the topic of old threads, but will admit id rather the topic was raised a fresh than the oldone bumped.
this is cause ive propabbly already spoken in it and so can not feeli can have anything new to say,or my outlok might hav echanged and the thread would look like im frigging mental contradicting myself lol
i also dont always look at the date, see old names and think wow they are back, to sadely see ther are not.
aint going to slate anyone for starting new threads, god its needed at times.
so old and new its all good. but whys it ok for old members to resirect oldthreads but new members get slated for raising old/already discussed old topics?
i know what i mean.
anyhow just keep posting.
xx fem xx

21 Feb 2009

Quote by Lucyandmike7
We all have a place here. Some have a somewhat controversial way of posting, some are more subtle at stirring it up, some are neutral, some are fluffy, some are down right dirty, some post for the sake of posting, some are new, some are old.
All good fun!

Really, really well put biggrin

x

21 Feb 2009

To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is?? dunno

Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem! rolleyes

22 Feb 2009

Quote by benrums0n
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by benrums0n
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by bbw_lover
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.
Are you reading a different forum to me dunno

22 Feb 2009

Quote by jaymar
To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is??
Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem!

The problem is that some people get jumped on because of it that's why!

22 Feb 2009

Isnt there a great deal of stating the obvious going on, right from the very start of this thread?

22 Feb 2009

Quote by bbw_lover
It is my belief, based on observation, that folk who contribute infrequently to this forum are more likely to suffer personal criticism for expressing their views than the regular contributors.
I think this damages the forums and is instrumental in ensuring that forums continue to have a limited number of participants.
What do you think?
I will donate a pound to the humanist society if this thread reaches page two without it being suggested that If I don't like the forums I should bugger off.

Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.
Ireally just so don't see this as the case. I don't see the back slapping of each other half as much as I did and the amount of stuff entered onto forum is off the scale to what it has been with new posters/topics etc. And it seems to me far less exclusive.
I think the place is brimming with great stuff at the moment across all spectrum of interests and subjects. A lot of people who used to post copiously post less now because they have less to say thats original to them. At least thats what I think and is certainly the case with me. Blimey I post half of what I did do once. Natural order of things.
Forums in good health at the moment really good health.

22 Feb 2009

why the need for everyone to be nice and all get along?
In any other club/institution/gathering of likeminded souls, you would always have clashes of personalities, differences of opinion, as well as the odd bit of back slapping....no matter if the said 'members' were in a united cause.
Personalities and peoples own characterisitcs come into the mix here as much as anywhere, and as such debates, differences of opinion, bickering, rows and out and out cat fights happen, as do people being happy, loving, supportive, flirty with each other.
If you decide to throw an opinion or a post out there in public, ya gotta be prepared to take whats thrown at ya good or bad....thats life....you dont have to like it, and of course if it gets too much theres always the option to do something about it.
and from experience, it doesnt matter how nice or well meaning or fluffily innoffensive you try to be on these forums, theres always someone who will take something wrong, take offence at something you post or have just got out of bed the wrong side and decide to have a go at you for no apparent reason.
c-est la vie
you can either let it drive you away from here for a while or let it drive you away forever. We cant all be nice to each other all of the time (well except me lol

:lol: :lol: )

22 Feb 2009

Quote by bbw_lover
To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is??
Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem!

The problem is that some people get jumped on because of it that's why!
That really isn't an answer to my question BBW, no disrespect. If people are getting 'jumped on' that'll happen regardless of new or old threads.
My question remains, what is the problem with resurrecting?? smile

22 Feb 2009

Quote by jaymar
To the people 'dis'ing' resurrected threads, can I ask what the problem is??
Does it matter if 1, 10 or 100 threads are resurrected as long as they're being enjoyed??
Why do these things have to be a flippin problem!

The problem is that some people get jumped on because of it that's why!
That really isn't an answer to my question BBW, no disrespect. If people are getting 'jumped on' that'll happen regardless of new or old threads.
My question remains, what is the problem with resurrecting?? smile

I don't see a problem with resurrecting, but if you resurrect a thread and you get 'jumped on' then obviously those that criticize see it as a problem. Then people who read the thread go away with the impression that it's something that should not be welcomed.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by Suede-head
I started to post on the forums but it wasn't the personal attacks that have put me off but the "staleness" of the threads / posts.
They focus around the same posters, fresh input is lost in between the repetitive bollox in many threads trying to point score and prove another person`s views are "wrong". An interesting topic with well thought out arguments then are allowed to go down the same track as all the others.
I prefer thought out posts that present argument and counter arguments without bringing personalities into it. Readers can then decide for themselves which posters are producing well thought out postings and those that are not.
Some people's posts may frustrate us and want us to repost to them but fear this is becoming the style of many postings. Much better we all attack the opinion rather than the person, unfortunatley the personal nature of postings prevents myself and indeed many from posting.

Quote by duncanlondon
I think the 'dominant' types who end up in a row with all and sundry; become caricatures of themselves. They tend to keep up the image and this causes them to respond to most threads in a characterstic way. Which more often than not causes people to avoid their line of debate; because they know where and how the converstaion is likely to go.
People will become personal, because in many cases their thoughts are important to them. When the intellect breaks down through confusion or stress then people will defend themselves passionately with the most basic emotions. At which point again it becomes open to ridicule or abuse, but also people will avoid them when in this state.
The problem with old hands and strong characters is that often a thread will be directed quickly down a line of discussion with little or no hope of it becoming more accessible to a wider audience.

In my humble opinion these two comments strike at the heart of the debate.

22 Feb 2009

As a 'forum newbie' I have never felt criticised or be-littled, but (like Lucy used to do) I do tend to stay away from the contoversial ones.
If I read a post that winds me up, I take the cowards way and think about it a bit, calm down, and then realise that it's not worth getting into an arguement about. Thats one of the joys of the written forums, I sure as heck couldn't do that in 'normal' conversation.
Or it could be that I don't post frequently enough to piss folks off lol

I find the forums entertaining and informative, keep posting folks
mrs kns

22 Feb 2009

Quote by Kns2006
As a 'forum newbie' I have never felt criticised or be-littled, but (like Lucy used to do) I do tend to stay away from the contoversial ones.
If I read a post that winds me up, I take the cowards way and think about it a bit, calm down, and then realise that it's not worth getting into an arguement about. Thats one of the joys of the written forums, I sure as heck couldn't do that in 'normal' conversation.
Or it could be that I don't post frequently enough to piss folks off
I find the forums entertaining and informative, keep posting folks
mrs kns

I do not think you are a coward at all, for taking that view. As you well know I start and contribute to strong posts.
I understand that some do not like me, care for my views, or possibly just think I am a tosser but.....NOT saying anything that winds you up is NOT the answer.
If a subject is there that you feel strongly about,, please please post your views. I admire greatly people who stand up for what they believe in. Whether it is the opposite to me or not, you still have a right to post and to comment.
People do not like the kind of posts I do, I really do not know why. Think they are sometimes too scared to face the truth that is out there, right now. BUT I like you have a right to post about anything, and to comment on anything.
Don't let this put you off from posting, nor anyone else who is lurking in the shadows of the forums. The forums need people like me and you and the lurkers, otherwise it will just die, and that would be a great shame.
It is funny but a while ago a " certain " member moaned that all I was doing were links to newspaper thread, and they were sick of it.
I kindly pointed out that out of all the threads I had done only a third were strong ones. Of course when that member realised that, they had no answer at all. But if I wanted to do five strong threads a day I would, and if others do not like it, then sorry tough.
Sometimes you do need thick skin to be here, as I have strong views I have to have. Post and be damned is a good way to look at things, and rememeber the peoiple replying, are at the end of the day just " cyber " people.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by bbw_lover
Totally agree! Increasingly these days it has become a mutual appreciation society.

Okay... we see things slightly differently.....
I do see a lot of strong personalities.. with a lot of strong opinions, even though I disagree with a lot of viewpoints, I respect the hell out of them more than the people who's opinions seem to change depending on the direction of the wind... or even worse change because they think they will be percived differently "to fit in"...
Suede-Head said that it he was put off by the "staleness" of the threads..... there are two different ways to counter that,
a) we can persuade newbies to come in, yes some of them will come and provide questions or slants on things that we may not have seen before and it will freshen it up.....
....but if they ask the same questions that we did then like I said earlier there are only so many ways that you can answer the same question again and again, and it is not going to help the staleness......
b) rather than complaining and waiting on someone else to do "something", or you can be pro-active and become part of the solution... get out there, start a thread! if it takes off... good, if it doesn't then it doesn't!!! I have been there and I am sure most have but at least you can't say you didn't try!
however if it the one thing I have taken from "work" it is that if everyone is waiting on someone else... then invariably nothing gets done...
see the problem, fix the problem........sometimes people don't need rocket science to see the solution
I don't see a problem with resurrecting old threads even though I am not one for fluff personally, if the person doing it can give a new perspective to it that hasn't been brought up
for example, the varification thread that we had a few months ago... I thought that was handled really well...
the Forum doesn't need "firestarters" to get it going, and I am glad that a few of them have disappeared...... as long as you have an opinion that you can talk about in a honest way, and that you are aware that not everyone is going to feel that same way, and you are mature enough to realise that, then the forum will always welcome you....
besides... there are many more fall outs in the chatrooms... the only difference is that you don't have it recorded for posterity!!!

22 Feb 2009

Quote by Kns2006
As a 'forum newbie' I have never felt criticised or be-littled, but (like Lucy used to do) I do tend to stay away from the contoversial ones.
If I read a post that winds me up, I take the cowards way and think about it a bit, calm down, and then realise that it's not worth getting into an arguement about. Thats one of the joys of the written forums, I sure as heck couldn't do that in 'normal' conversation.
Or it could be that I don't post frequently enough to piss folks off
I find the forums entertaining and informative, keep posting folks
mrs kns

Always six sides to a dice, thank you for taking the time to put finger to keyboard to express how you feel KNS2006.
I wish more people who are new to the forums would contribute on this thread, its always good to have a good balance of opinions.
I consider myself fairly new, as have only been around in here for 3 months, but maybe I am now seasoned!!
......................
IN EDIT...must admit that comment aboiut staleness of threads got me a bit.
Earlier this week we were asking each other to get a long one going.
Some tried ....and failed!!
Always hard to get a good one going.
Quite like this one at the moment though! wink

Happy posting!

22 Feb 2009

whenever i log into sh i always read through the cafe forum, i hardly ever post anything or reply to a topic ....sometimes tho i do find myself starting to type an answer or express a veiw & then i cancel it as I think its just not worth it I'll either be shouted down by the regulars or it will jus be ignored anyway, as no matter what the post is about it is always taked over by the same dozen people saying the same things over & over again

22 Feb 2009

Quote by whiplash
whenever i log into sh i always read through the cafe forum, i hardly ever post anything or reply to a topic ....sometimes tho i do find myself starting to type an answer or express a veiw & then i cancel it as I think its just not worth it I'll either be shouted down by the regulars or it will jus be ignored anyway, as no matter what the post is about it is always taked over by the same dozen people saying the same things over & over again

I'm sorry you feel like this Whiplash. When I first joined here, I felt like a thread-slayer - I felt that you could be sure that the last post in most threads was mine.
I don't think anyone's posts are deliberately ignored. But I do think it is sometimes like walking into a group of people who are all talking ten to the
dozen - it's easy to miss what someone has said.
In edit - as you have mentioned, Whiplash, there's another aspect to this.
When a known forumite posts, I do think that sometimes people give it more weight than when a relative newbie or infrequent person posts.
And I think that's down to human nature.
It's just like, if a group of people in a pub are having a debate, they are more likely to pick up on/argue with/agree with people they feel familar with, than people they don't know. There is no offence meant to the person who does not get a reply.
The solution is to keep posting.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by Cherrytree
whenever i log into sh i always read through the cafe forum, i hardly ever post anything or reply to a topic ....sometimes tho i do find myself starting to type an answer or express a veiw & then i cancel it as I think its just not worth it I'll either be shouted down by the regulars or it will jus be ignored anyway, as no matter what the post is about it is always taked over by the same dozen people saying the same things over & over again

I'm sorry you feel like this Whiplash. When I first joined here, I felt like a thread-slayer - I felt that you could be sure that the last post in most threads was mine.
I don't think anyone's posts are deliberately ignored. But I do think it is sometimes like walking into a group of people who are all talking ten to the
dozen - it's easy to miss what someone has said.
In edit - as you have mentioned, Whiplash, there's another aspect to this.
When a known forumite posts, I do think that sometimes people give it more weight than when a relative newbie or infrequent person posts.
And I think that's down to human nature.
It's just like, if a group of people in a pub are having a debate, they are more likely to pick up on/argue with/agree with people they feel familar with, than people they don't know. There is no offence meant to the person who does not get a reply.
The solution is to keep posting.
Exactly - if people don't post, then it will always be the "same ol' same ol'" all the time by default.

22 Feb 2009

Quote by noladreams30
whenever i log into sh i always read through the cafe forum, i hardly ever post anything or reply to a topic ....sometimes tho i do find myself starting to type an answer or express a veiw & then i cancel it as I think its just not worth it I'll either be shouted down by the regulars or it will jus be ignored anyway, as no matter what the post is about it is always taked over by the same dozen people saying the same things over & over again

I'm sorry you feel like this Whiplash. When I first joined here, I felt like a thread-slayer - I felt that you could be sure that the last post in most threads was mine.
I don't think anyone's posts are deliberately ignored. But I do think it is sometimes like walking into a group of people who are all talking ten to the
dozen - it's easy to miss what someone has said.
In edit - as you have mentioned, Whiplash, there's another aspect to this.
When a known forumite posts, I do think that sometimes people give it more weight than when a relative newbie or infrequent person posts.
And I think that's down to human nature.
It's just like, if a group of people in a pub are having a debate, they are more likely to pick up on/argue with/agree with people they feel familar with, than people they don't know. There is no offence meant to the person who does not get a reply.
The solution is to keep posting.
Exactly - if people don't post, then it will always be the "same ol' same ol'" all the time by default.
Who are they then? wink

22 Feb 2009

Quote by kentswingers777
Who are they then?

Precisely Mr Kent.
This thread, while I am sure started in the best of intentions by Ben, has just become the very thing it is supposedly trying to avoid and denounce. A chance for people to make 'personal attacks' on those, however because it is the 'evil' that are the 'forum clique' in the thinly veiled threat of 'my opinion'. A chance for the supposed 'have nots' to pick up their weapon of choice and stick in a knife and give it a twist. It is less and examination of the issue and more a chance for those to vent their ire against the supposed "forum clique" and it is, quite frankly, sickening.
I suppose that makes me part of the clique. Fair enough. I don't see it as a clique. I see it as a group of friends. Each to their own. Your perceptions of things say much more about the poster than the person they are posting about.
Some of the posts on here defy belief and others speak total and utter sense. I applaud Fabio's post earlier and urge all those unhappy with the forum to make the posts that they feel it needs for them to make it the place to be. The forum is for everyone. It isn't that these regulars post more, it is that you post less. You admit it yourself. Why condone people for doing the very thing the forum needs to thrive? It is an abuse of logic to insist that these people quieten down because you happen to believe they are part of a dreaded "clique". What utter nonsense. As Mr Kent has said, the forum is for everyone. If YOU are not participating and are not happy then change it by participating.
I find the tawdry character assassination, in the most cowardly of ways hiding behind insinuation and meekly pointing of fingers behind carefully chosen words, hurtful and needless. I'm a newbie to the forum. I am and will continue to be friends of people on both sides of the supposed divide. But the more you look for it, the more you will see it.
How lovely that friendship is denounced as a clique, that opinions as victimisation, that participation as domination and speaking in opposition to a point as being a "personal" attack.
If that is the forum you seek, a forum of division, suspicion and whisper and counter whisper, you are welcome to it.
I find the obvious pointing of fingers at certain members for posts made unseemly and unnecessary. The thinly disguised attempt to make out that these "reposts" are made in some sinister attempt to "usher out" any new persons postings are utter bilge. I apologise as I cannot remember who posted it earlier in this thread, but I really do believe there are a few people who are a little to emotionally precious about anyone posting against their view. They take anything less than 100% abeyance with their views as evidence of the "clique" striking back at them.
The clique only exists in the eyes of those who want to see it. Those who want to divide the forum and make it into an "us" and "them", who want to hurt and manipulate those who contribute more to the forum than a great many other members who prefer to snipe from the sidelines and see the 'cliques' contributions as simply an attempt to control, rather than entertain or inform. You can do that with any post you like. It is less about the forum, more about a clash of personality, ideals and false perception, which is entirely personal, regardless of what words you use.
Please note, I have not named any people in this other than to highlight the positives they provide the forum with, and I include the "clique" in that. If you choose to see yourself as part of the other group, then that is down to how you perceive things. Not me. I've only been here a month and I have no idea who is who or where and why, but I can spot it when people take the chance to stick the knife in, under the guise of discussing an issue.
I don't know what has happened in the past between people. I'd hope grown ups could sort their differences via pm, or accept them and move on. Considering this is meant to be a site about acceptance, honesty, openness and tolerance it seems in some threads, very little of this goes on. We preach a good game, but perhaps don't play by the same rules eh?
Yes I am miffed. Nothing good comes of fostering division and increasing perception of unfairness and inequality. If you are not happy with the forum, the onus is on you to change it, not on others to disappear because you don't happen to like or agree with them.
So go on, shoot me down. Call me a pompous arse, deluded, brainwashed by the cult of the clique. I'm not and more to the point, I don't really care if anyone thinks I am or not.
I do care when posts are made simply to upset people or to score points off someone because you don't happen to like or agree with them. Hence this post.
Luv hugs and oodles of respect for the grown ups on here. No matter what clique you are in. Please keep posting, it is you who make the forum what it is.
I'll certainly keep posting my utter tosh, as this has no doubt proven for some.
Res
xxx

22 Feb 2009

:shock: omg I log out for an hour and Res is provoked into seriousness!!
smackbottom

this MUST cease and desist immediately.......else I fear a myriad of full on flounces and lil wee flouncettes will ensue!
People should post FFS its a forum....thats what its here for, like Chezza says kind of like a pub debate....only blind!
There are all sorts or personalities on here and thats what makes the place tick....if everyone agreed with Kenty (name picked at random!!) not only would total armageddon ensue (thats my word of the night BTW) but also it would make for damn boring reading.
some people by their very nature are more vociferous, some people find them selves more able to talk anonymously than face to face, some people just have to much damn time on their hands and post loads.
same old same old....I can count on one hand the names of posters who are still posting from when I first stated on here 2 years ago.....i would have to use the other hand AND take off my socks and shoes and quite possibly those of Mr B to count the number of people posting who have been here two years or less.
I post if i feel in the mood, if this place bores the pants off me I dont post, i log in, read and lurk until something catches my eye or I find my mojo again. Its something everyone is free to do.
When all said and done...this place isnt real, its words on a screen, and in a lot of cases you arent likely to meet people you encounter on here, so dont take things to heart....post and have fun doing it, or read and enjoy/be aghast at/snigger at/or sit open mouthed at what other people say.
in the words of aleksandr the meercat .....simples!

23 Feb 2009

Ah now then i think I agree with a lot of what you and others have posted Bone but on this piece that you entered I beg to differ a little. I think it makes a difference for some too.
You say >> When all said and done...this place isnt real, its words on a screen, and in a lot of cases you arent likely to meet people you encounter on here, so dont take things to heart....post and have fun doing it, or read and enjoy/be aghast at/snigger at/or sit open mouthed at what other people say.
I say >> it is real and that in our case we hope to meet lots of people from SH through socials (and the odd shagaroony along the way with luck too) That means that for myself personally I believe not being rude is important and worth striving for as the chance to meet along lifes highway will be more pleasant.
Together with the fact that, yes it is only a screen but it has a an influence in our daily lives however we try and deny it otherwise we would not react to any posts along the way with any emotion. Thats clearly not the case. People read and post with emotion they bring their lives to forum and take a bit of forum wherever they go. Thats a good thing too I think.

23 Feb 2009

Quote by Lost
Ah now then i think I agree with a lot of what you and others have posted Bone but on this piece that you entered I beg to differ a little. I think it makes a difference for some too.

You say >> When all said and done...this place isnt real, its words on a screen, and in a lot of cases you arent likely to meet people you encounter on here, so dont take things to heart....post and have fun doing it, or read and enjoy/be aghast at/snigger at/or sit open mouthed at what other people say.
I say >> it is real and that in our case we hope to meet lots of people from SH through socials (and the odd shagaroony along the way with luck too) That means that for myself personally I believe not being rude is important and worth striving for as the chance to meet along lifes highway will be more pleasant.
Together with the fact that, yes it is only a screen but it has a an influence in our daily lives however we try and deny it otherwise we would not react to any posts along the way with any emotion. Thats clearly not the case. People read and post with emotion they bring their lives to forum and take a bit of forum wherever they go. Thats a good thing too I think.

right THATS IT!!!! you have never ever disagreed with me before....ever ever ever........ :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: i cant take it and im not posting in here ever again!!!!
Lost, I thought you loved me :flouncette:

23 Feb 2009

Quote by Bonedigger
Ah now then i think I agree with a lot of what you and others have posted Bone but on this piece that you entered I beg to differ a little. I think it makes a difference for some too.

You say >> When all said and done...this place isnt real, its words on a screen, and in a lot of cases you arent likely to meet people you encounter on here, so dont take things to heart....post and have fun doing it, or read and enjoy/be aghast at/snigger at/or sit open mouthed at what other people say.
I say >> it is real and that in our case we hope to meet lots of people from SH through socials (and the odd shagaroony along the way with luck too) That means that for myself personally I believe not being rude is important and worth striving for as the chance to meet along lifes highway will be more pleasant.
Together with the fact that, yes it is only a screen but it has a an influence in our daily lives however we try and deny it otherwise we would not react to any posts along the way with any emotion. Thats clearly not the case. People read and post with emotion they bring their lives to forum and take a bit of forum wherever they go. Thats a good thing too I think.

right THATS IT!!!! you have never ever disagreed with me before....ever ever ever........ :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: i cant take it and im not posting in here ever again!!!!
Lost, I thought you loved me :flouncette:
Whip me and make me call you mistress I was wrong forgive me redface

23 Feb 2009

Quote by Lost
Ah now then i think I agree with a lot of what you and others have posted Bone but on this piece that you entered I beg to differ a little. I think it makes a difference for some too.

You say >> When all said and done...this place isnt real, its words on a screen, and in a lot of cases you arent likely to meet people you encounter on here, so dont take things to heart....post and have fun doing it, or read and enjoy/be aghast at/snigger at/or sit open mouthed at what other people say.
I say >> it is real and that in our case we hope to meet lots of people from SH through socials (and the odd shagaroony along the way with luck too) That means that for myself personally I believe not being rude is important and worth striving for as the chance to meet along lifes highway will be more pleasant.
Together with the fact that, yes it is only a screen but it has a an influence in our daily lives however we try and deny it otherwise we would not react to any posts along the way with any emotion. Thats clearly not the case. People read and post with emotion they bring their lives to forum and take a bit of forum wherever they go. Thats a good thing too I think.

right THATS IT!!!! you have never ever disagreed with me before....ever ever ever........ :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: i cant take it and im not posting in here ever again!!!!
Lost, I thought you loved me :flouncette:
Whip me and make me call you mistress I was wrong forgive me redface

cya in an hour sugarlips xxx

23 Feb 2009

Somebody who I have enormous respect for has pointed out to me that my original post could possibly be read by new posters and seen to be discouraging them from posting.
I want to make that clear, that is not and never was my point.
My ire was vented at those who chose to use the thread Ben started with the intention of generating a good discussion on an important topic, into a chance to slap down a forum member or two. It was that and that alone that irked me.
I wish to make it entirely clear that I would actively encourage new people to post. I was in that position a few weeks ago and I can highly recommend participating in the threads that interest you. Same goes for more long standing members who do not post. I feel the Forum contributes greatly to the site and the more voices that are heard, the better.
If my original post did not make this clear, I apologise, that is my error. I would also add as a proviso, that whilst my post may have put some people off, I feel that perpetuating the myth that unless a newbie fits in with the ideals of the all pervasive clique, they will be admonished and cast out is probably more off-putting to many. Which is precisely why I made the post in the first place.
I hope this has cleared up any confusion, potential or other otherwise.
Anyway, that's the serious post for the week over. Can I please be silly again now? I need to work out the calorific content of ejaculate as a percentage of a ladies daily recommended calorie intake and then translate that into r.o.p.d (recommended orgasms per day) to keep her sated. And you think Stephen Hawking had a few tough sums to do?
;-)

23 Feb 2009

To paraphrase a quote from the Duke of wellington "Post and be damned"
We all have a right to post on this forum as long as it stays within the rules of the site so, why the issue?
If we have someone new who comes on and says something isn't it right for us to engage with them, exactly the same as we would if it was an old hand?
If they get picked up then surely its up to those who agree with the poster to support what they said?
George Orwell: "In times of universal deceit, telling the truth will be a revolutionary act."