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Quote by Missy
New in the Forum.
Just a thread for people to say hello I’m new in the Forum. a thread for the people who feel a bit daunted by the thought of posting in the forum, either because they are scared or apprehensive about the reaction they may get or because they can’t think of anything to say that will allow them to ease gently into the throng.
No nastiness, no backbiting, and no “how stupid are you” comments please, just try to play nice for a bit.
This place will stagnate if the new people don’t feel safe posting in here so let’s give them a chance to shine.

I kinda prefer to keep new people in the main forum, let em make an entrance cool
Hi Missy, I understand what you are saying, but this thread wasn’t designed or intended to segregate new users, but to encourage them. This thread is in the main Forum, so it is keeping the new people here. I’m personally not in favour of stickying it, it wasn’t intended to run for very long, just to add a little balance to some of the other post and threads that are running at the moment and the recent past, and perhaps to gently remind some of the better established members prone to the piss take, that being new is daunting enough without all the “Banter”(not what I would call some of it) they will find themselves on the end of. I think one of the big problems with being new is finding the right way to make an entrance. Do you go in all guns blazing, posting like a madman on any subject that you can find or do you lurk and maybe post something in a thread that can easily be overlooked. Looking back over some newbie posts, I appeared to me like the safest way to join the forum was with a pure and simple “Hello Post” nothing controversial just a simple “hi”. They are usually quite well received and less prone to degrading into a free-for-all. Starting a thread on the other hand is often a recipe for disaster for a number of reasons. First, finding a suitable subject can be very hard, and by suitable I mean not open to immediate ridicule. Finding the right “tone” isn’t easy either. Do you make a joke post and hope people will understand the humour, or do you make it serious and run the risk of starting an argument. I tend to think of the Forum as rather like a pub. Walk into any unfamiliar pub and how you act in the first few minutes will make or break you to the regulars. Do you butt into an established conversation with forthright opinions or say hello and hope to add a word or two given the opportunity? That’s all this was really, just one chap in a bar saying hi to the new people who just came through the door and giving them the chance to say hello back.
Still wouldn't stop them, by post two, from getting completely ignored in threads confused Time and time again I see groups of individuals bantering in a thread, usually off topic by then...... Newbie/non regular poster does an on topic post, it gets caught in the middle of the banter ........... and completely ignored :?
Again true, it happens in real life and so will happen in cyber life too. But, it’s less likely to happen when people are familiar with someone than when they aren’t. Although the opinion of the newbie may look like it’s been ignored, it usually hasn’t, just noted and filed to add to the mental picture we form of that person. We don’t in real life conversations always respond to every word someone utters, but we do make mental note of what they have said.
That is also a recipe for stagnating - the constant hijacking with the same conversation, occasionally different words. Not always the same people, but usually the same sort of conversation which always includes a :twisted: icon, followed by a smackbottom one. ..... (although nearly ALL of us are guilty of it at some point or another :? )
Yep, guilty of that myself from time to time, see below as to why though.
Boring and dull - sorry it is - I don't come on the forums to read peoples 'banter', I go to a chatroom for that and it's fun in real time. I come on the forums to read peoples opinions, stories, dramas, thoughts etc biggrin So to have that, with newer/less regular people being included, would be my idea of the perfect thread :D
This comes down to individual choice on how and why you use the functions of the site. I tent to be the exact opposite of you when it comes to how I use the site. The reason is simple really, I’m Dyslexic(compounded by gross stupidity) I have to write even the shortest post in a word doc and correct like mad before posting. I don’t have the time to do that in the chatroom, so my involvement in there is limited to some very basic stuff. In the forum however I can banter with the best of them and get my point across whether it’s serious or just silly,(the day someone invents a working voice recognition software my life will change, until then I do things how I do them) Ultimately we use the site in the way we are comfortable with , I don’t think there is a wrong way just different ways. Yes the banter in a serious thread can annoy me at times but at others it helps in a funny kind of way to keep things “real”. We have the choice thought to read it or not and that is a good thing to have. I kind of think of the forum as a slow chatroom. It lets you come and go when, and how, you please, but still feel part of the action.
This thread will die a natural death soon as all things should. If it helped on or two people say hello I’m happy with that, if not well, no harm done either way.
If any of this came across as a dig at you Missy, please rest assured it was never intendeds to, you just happened to give me the chance to say some things that have been on my mind for a while now.
kiss
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?
Hi Chaseher amnd welcome to the madhouse wave
I'm not a lifeguard but I am qualified to give mouth to mouth if and when needed wink
Quote by Chaseher
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Hellooooo wave
Welcome to to the land of adventure and discovery, it's great here. Kick off ya shoes have a laugh and a mooch around. It does'nt take long to get the hang of it. If you need answers to specifics feel free to ask either in here or by PM. If you ask in here then anyone else wanting to know the answer but has'nt been brave enough to post yet will get the benefit too!!!
Love
FIRE xx
Quote by Chaseher
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Well I'm not a life guard either but I swim quite well, I can do the doggy for hours :shock:
Top Tip:
Be yourself.
H.x
Quote by H-x
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Well I'm not a life guard either but I swim quite well,I can do the doggy for hours :shock:
Top Tip:
Be yourself.
H.x
Sassy adds a new strap on to the shopping list :notes:
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Well I'm not a life guard either but I swim quite well,I can do the doggy for hours :shock:
Top Tip:
Be yourself.
H.x
Sassy adds a new strap on to the shopping list :notes:
And some knee pads lol
Quote by Chaseher
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Hello :welcome:
Welcome to the forum. Read the stickys at the top of the page for lots of advice on the safe way to navigate the treacherous waters that are Swinging Heaven. One of them, this one in fact….
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81218.html
Helps you get a mentor if you need one. If I had to give one piece of advice at the moment it would be “if you want to say something in here, say it the way you would say it to your favourite  In other words, use some tact. wink
Quote by Chaseher
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

wave and :welcome: Chaseher (I like you name by the way.)
I don't think there are any qualified lifesavers here, it's one of those situations where we have been allowed to run around without supervision in the corridors of Swinging Heaven. lol
Take your time, relax and have fun!
biggrin
Quote by Stormwalker

If any of this came across as a dig at you Missy, please rest assured it was never intendeds to, you just happened to give me the chance to say some things that have been on my mind for a while now. kiss

good god no, I didn't take it like that at all - one cracking response worship
A post offering another opinion, and put in the most unoffensive way - a lovely trait to have :kiss:
Oh and I might see things different, but I see your point completely :kiss:
Put this in a PM so's not to......... bugger it lol off to hijack the thread again and copy and paste this response in (except for this last para of course!!) :lol:
xx
Edit: OOps redface see next post rolleyes :roll: :roll:
Bugger!!!!! rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
that was s'posed to be a PM redface was just about to write similar in the thread
Oh well, save me the effort of pressing an extra button rolleyes
Missy - bluddy useless :roll:
Quote by Missy
Put this in a PM so's not to......... bugger it lol off to hijack the thread again and copy and paste this response in (except for this last para of course!!) :lol:

Quote by Missy
Bugger!!!!! .... that was s'posed to be a PM redface

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I seem to say this word a lot when quoting you Missy - CLASSIC!
kiss
rotflmao
You have a pm, in your pm box, as tradition would dictate. :giggle:
A master of technology me! :smug:
kiss
Quote by firelizard
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Hellooooo wave
Welcome to to the land of adventure and discovery, it's great here. Kick off ya shoes have a laugh and a mooch around. It does'nt take long to get the hang of it. If you need answers to specifics feel free to ask either in here or by PM. If you ask in here then anyone else wanting to know the answer but has'nt been brave enough to post yet will get the benefit too!!!
Love
FIRE xx
Hi Fire, thanks, I may need to call on your help when I get into a stick situation here, a technical one mind you, I wouldn't expect anythig else, we hardly know each other LOL redface
Quote by H-x
Hi there all you beautiful sexy people, I am a newbie here and feeling rather out of my depth, there is just so much happening on this site!
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

Well I'm not a life guard either but I swim quite well, I can do the doggy for hours :shock:
Top Tip:
Be yourself.
H.x
Woow H, you are naughty, I am blusing here babes, you will have to show me this new swimming stroke - slowly of course LOL xx biggrin
Quote by Kiss
Are there any qualified lifesavers here? As I am in need of some good advice and tender guidance on how to meet and make some new friends here?
Drop me a pm if you have nay top tips?

wave and :welcome: Chaseher (I like you name by the way.)
I don't think there are any qualified lifesavers here, it's one of those situations where we have been allowed to run around without supervision in the corridors of Swinging Heaven. lol
Take your time, relax and have fun!
biggrin
Hi Kiss, and thanks for the top tip, there is certainly lots of corridors, I shall have to ake it slowly otherwise I shall get terribly lost - I shall have to place an advert for a very sexy female guide to show me around LOL
Any takers, the salry is rubbish but the fringe benefits are very worth while xx :lol:
I'm new! So hello, lovely, sexy people of Swinging Heaven.
I'm also a Single Male, which means I seem to start at the bottom of the pecking order on this site, dirty manipulative scum that we single males apparently are in the eyes of many people wink
I've tried to fill out my profile correctly too. I try dammit, I try smile
Ah its nice that you know your place!
biggrin (that means I'm kidding)
Welcome to the forum.
H.x
Quote by H-x
Ah its nice that you know your place!
biggrin (that means I'm kidding)
Welcome to the forum.
H.x

lol Its ok, I know my place.
On a serious note (hats on), this is a decent, established community and I'm happy to watch and post occasionally to get a feel for the etiqutte and people on here.
I'll also try and avoid the temptation to fall into what appears to be the obvious 'Single Guy' things to do on here, which is post a new thread on the forum which gets zero replies asking for 'Sexy fems' in my area to meet up with me, or posting 'LOL NE1 FROM BRISTOL AREA WAN 2 WISPER ME' in the chatroom.
wink
Hard life being an online sterotype. Now, who wants manipulating and using first?
Quote by Smokinjoe
lol Its ok, I know my place.
On a serious note (hats on), this is a decent, established community and I'm happy to watch and post occasionally to get a feel for the etiqutte and people on here.
I'll also try and avoid the temptation to fall into what appears to be the obvious 'Single Guy' things to do on here, which is post a new thread on the forum which gets zero replies asking for 'Sexy fems' in my area to meet up with me, or posting 'LOL NE1 FROM BRISTOL AREA WAN 2 WISPER ME' in the chatroom.
wink
Hard life being an online sterotype. Now, who wants manipulating and using first?

Oh and that usually works too!
Don't worry some of us do think of people as people and not just 'single males'
H.x
Quote by Smokinjoe
I'm new! So hello, lovely, sexy people of Swinging Heaven.
I'm also a Single Male, which means I seem to start at the bottom of the pecking order on this site, dirty manipulative scum that we single males apparently are in the eyes of many people wink
I've tried to fill out my profile correctly too. I try dammit, I try smile

wave Hiya smokinjoe and welcome to the forum xxxxxxxxxxxx
Welcome & wave to all the Newbies ..
I guess I qualify as an "oldie" (forum not age) but hardly know anyone lately so I feel like a newbie LOL
Cx
Quote by Calista
Welcome & wave to all the Newbies ..
I guess I qualify as an "oldie" (forum not age) but hardly know anyone lately so I feel like a newbie LOL
Cx

hello newbie kiss
:lol2:
Giving this a bump, as most of the regs are out enjoying themselves, and it might be a good time for the newbies up there to say hellllllloooooooooo!
Go on, dive in! biggrin
HI, not newbies to sh, well dont think we are, not sure how long it is before you lose the title. But i do know one thing, we have been lurkers in this forum long enough now. So a big HELLO to you all from A+A
Hello wave & :welcome:
Hope you have fun biggrin
I am a newbie not many of you know me , even though i do post on occasion,but being quite shy i do find it a bit daunting at times to 'get stuck in' to a thread.
very good idea to have somewhere to be able to say hi without any fear of being villified for making a stupid comment,which believe me i'm more than capable of redface
welcome warmer.......
hope you have a good stay ......... lol
and if anyone bites you just bite em back....... wink
Quote by poshkate
welcome warmer.......
hope you have a good stay ......... lol
and if anyone bites you just bite em back....... wink
oh i will believe me :wink:
and thanks for the welcome x
:shock:
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im new here too
hello all
lp