hey everyone, me and my girlfriend are only 20 and very new to the whole swinging world. We would like to go to a swingers club or party to see what its all like and if its defn for us. Im guessing everyone else at some point was in the same position so just wondering what advice and tips would you like to have been given? Any help at all would be very much appreciated! Thanks for your time xox
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New to all this and would like a bit of help please
Sex God
Maybe this will help for starters:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swingers-clubs.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swingers-clubs.html
Sex God
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hey everyone, me and my girlfriend are only 20 and very new to the whole swinging world. We would like to go to a swingers club or party to see what its all like and if its defn for us. Im guessing everyone else at some point was in the same position so just wondering what advice and tips would you like to have been given? Any help at all would be very much appreciated! Thanks for your time xox
If you're still in the just thinking about it stage, I would say instead of jumping in the deep end and risk being put off by too much too soon, you might be better off delaying the clubs and parties for a while, getting to know some people with a bit more experience, and where better to find those than on SH
, and when you're ready to progress to the club scene, go initially with the people you've already met.I say this only from my POV as someone who would have been scared spitless to walk into a club for the first time without knowing anyone. You may be braver than I.
'Tis true, can't imagine Vix ever needing to use a club to get action. A whip perhaps, but not a club.
Students - If you are both 20, and new to swinging then you may struggle to cope with the attention you would get at clubs. Mind you, I remember La Chambre offering to take us round the club during the day, so that at least we would not get lost and end up peeing in the Jacuzzi. Perhaps you could try that - contact a good club and see if they will give you a tour during the day.
lhk
Kat
Students - If you are both 20, and new to swinging then you may struggle to cope with the attention you would get at clubs. Mind you, I remember La Chambre offering to take us round the club during the day, so that at least we would not get lost and end up peeing in the Jacuzzi. Perhaps you could try that - contact a good club and see if they will give you a tour during the day.
lhk
Kat
Sex God
Hello there 
from a fellow student and a younger member too 
: :welcome:
I wouldn't be without the social side here now, beware it can be seriously addictive in here, but I/we felt the opposite of the people who have posted already. I wanted to go to a club first before getting to know people on a social level in the forums. We used the first few weeks of discovering this fantastic site to have a look at the different clubs on the listing page and see what we felt the most comfy with.
We went to the couples night at partners first, if I remember correctly. It was a great night as we had set out boundaries of what we were/weren't willing to do that night and stuck to them. We took it slowly, starting with watching a few people and then playing just us in a private locked room, then being watched by others, then soft swap with another couple and eventually worked our way up to trying full swap and other things. Only go as far as you want to and take as much time as you need to.
Personally it has been a fun journey.
The main tip I'd give you apart from the general no means no things etc... is to talk to each other and how you both feel. If the communication between you breaks down then things might start going wrong in your relationship. So keeping talking and re-evaluating your boundaries and see where things take you.
Good luck and I hope you have as much fun as we and I have had from swinging in the last year.
Gem. x
from a fellow student and a younger member too : :welcome:I wouldn't be without the social side here now, beware it can be seriously addictive in here, but I/we felt the opposite of the people who have posted already. I wanted to go to a club first before getting to know people on a social level in the forums. We used the first few weeks of discovering this fantastic site to have a look at the different clubs on the listing page and see what we felt the most comfy with.
We went to the couples night at partners first, if I remember correctly. It was a great night as we had set out boundaries of what we were/weren't willing to do that night and stuck to them. We took it slowly, starting with watching a few people and then playing just us in a private locked room, then being watched by others, then soft swap with another couple and eventually worked our way up to trying full swap and other things. Only go as far as you want to and take as much time as you need to.
Personally it has been a fun journey.
The main tip I'd give you apart from the general no means no things etc... is to talk to each other and how you both feel. If the communication between you breaks down then things might start going wrong in your relationship. So keeping talking and re-evaluating your boundaries and see where things take you.
Good luck and I hope you have as much fun as we and I have had from swinging in the last year.
Gem. x
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Thanks to everyone for the advice and we'll try and take it all on board.
When you say about getting a lot of attention, is it difficult to give people the hint your not interested due to some people find it hard taking the hint?
Hi ya from two other "younger" members. We consider ourselves newbies cos we've only swung with friends and people we knew at parties we held ourselves, but have started trying out clubs and this online thingy.
Firstly: I agree with little-gem communication is the absolute most important rule.
As for if it's hard to "give the hint" if you're not interested - Most of the time people in clubs and parties are respectful: they will ask to join in and all you have to say is no, or if yes: you can communicate to them how far you want to go however you feel comfortable. It's best to be clear and up front, not "drop hints," with people you do not wish to play with, and even those you do want.
Our first club experience unfortunately I was groped and prodded by two men who did NOT ask first (while I was busy attending to my partner) but at firm NO THANK YOU did the trick.
good luck, enjoy youreselves and have tons of fun!!!
ms ocky
Not knowing too much myself, the only advice i feel able to give is to wade slowly in from the shallow end. Maybe get to know people on here on a "friends" basis first, so they'd be there to give advice, if needed. Maybe go to a munch or two... find out who's who and what's what. Then step it up when you are ready. Mostly though, have fun.
