This may seem like a long thread of "goodness knows what" but... as newbies, go with us please.
Background : We (hubby/wife) went to Erotica exhibition last November in London, out of curiousity - totally eye opening and had the most fantstic time. After that, we started to browse SH and follow the threads (some very funny, others deep and touching), which became quite adictive, very quickly. At this stage, we had not registered and watched from the sidelines (so to speak...)
We went to Manchester's Erotica in April this year and this time we went to the Ball afterwards which was great fun. We came to the conclusion thayt as individuals and as a married couple we were really comfortable with ourselves and the different variants of lifestyle that were out there. So after much deep conversation and agreeing our boundaries, we actually registered and joined in with the SH forum.
We didn't post a "hi - we're new" thread as we got caught up in the other posts going on. To be honest - which we always are - we're not looking for the full hard swing, just to explore our sexuality, together, at our own pace, have fun and hopefully make some likeminded friends along the way.
Since we have registered, we have felt like we have a whole new extra world we belong to - pleae don't misunderstand, there are no deep friendships yet and we don't want anyone to think we are "single white female bunny boiler types" but we have found ourselves drawn into other people's lives we don't even know. We find ourselves asking each other while doing the shopping "I wonder how so and so is getting on" based on a thread we had either read or replied to.
Guess we are just a little bit scared (could read excited...) at the overall impact joining the site has had.
Just wondered if any other newbies are experiencing the same stuff or if the more experienced on the site want to share the benefit of their experience and wisdom and tell us that this is all perfectly normal...
Anyway - feel much better that's all off our chest - thanks for reading - by the way : Hi from a newbie couple in deepest Essex chavland xxx
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Sex God
Hi Guys, I have to say that since joining SH, I have developed a whole new interest in my computers, and spend ages catching up on what is going on and how people are, especially as you say the posts that grab you.
I have attended my first Munch, and have met some wonderful people, who I hope will go on to become friends as time progresses. It has opened all sorts of doors for me, and I hope that you both find the same thing.
All I can say is join in where you can,, get to a Munch or two and see what happens from there.
God luck to you, have a great time here, and hope to see you around soon.
John
I have attended my first Munch, and have met some wonderful people, who I hope will go on to become friends as time progresses. It has opened all sorts of doors for me, and I hope that you both find the same thing.
All I can say is join in where you can,, get to a Munch or two and see what happens from there.
God luck to you, have a great time here, and hope to see you around soon.
John
'Lo, noobs.
Great post, btw. How refreshing!
If you feel good now, wait till you have your first 'encounter'. My first 3 some was with my (now) husband and a bloke we met in Amsterdam. I was grinning from ear to ear for weks and told everyone, whether they wanted to hear, or not!
Then we found SH and then we got married... we even had people from SH come to the wedding.
Life doesn't get much better than this. I hope you find the same.
Great post, btw. How refreshing!
If you feel good now, wait till you have your first 'encounter'. My first 3 some was with my (now) husband and a bloke we met in Amsterdam. I was grinning from ear to ear for weks and told everyone, whether they wanted to hear, or not!
Then we found SH and then we got married... we even had people from SH come to the wedding.
Life doesn't get much better than this. I hope you find the same.
i totally understand where u are coming from, since coming onto here quite often, i have found myself becoming very addicted!!!!!!!!!! i think it is so nice to feel at ease with your sexuality and prefferences, and believe it or not i have found a amazing new sense of confidence that before i was lacking but pretended existed.
I feel a new woman...........(most people would say im not yet a woman because of my age) but guy's it's all down to you!!!!
so much love to u all!!!
lou xxx
I feel a new woman...........(most people would say im not yet a woman because of my age) but guy's it's all down to you!!!!
so much love to u all!!!
lou xxx
Sexpert
Personally I can only speak for myself and have found the site to be a good place to chat/meet up with likeminded you weed out the fakes/pic collectors/timewasters it is a good place to is also good to see there are many others with GSOH as I thought I was the only a free site it is even better than some of the other ones you have to pay for.
Quote by pb4u
Personally I can only speak for myself and have found the site to be a good place to chat/meet up with likeminded you weed out the fakes/pic collectors/timewasters it is a good place to is also good to see there are many others with GSOH as I thought I was the only a free site it is even better than some of the other ones you have to pay for.
You're wrong.
It's better than all the other sites, especially the ones you have to pay for.
Sexpert
Quote by Vix
Personally I can only speak for myself and have found the site to be a good place to chat/meet up with likeminded you weed out the fakes/pic collectors/timewasters it is a good place to is also good to see there are many others with GSOH as I thought I was the only a free site it is even better than some of the other ones you have to pay for.
You're wrong.
It's better than all the other sites, especially the ones you have to pay for.
Sorry Vix,the word some slipped in there somehow
Sex God
Quote by bevntony
Since we have registered, we have felt like we have a whole new extra world we belong to - pleae don't misunderstand, there are no deep friendships yet and we don't want anyone to think we are "single white female bunny boiler types" but we have found ourselves drawn into other people's lives we don't even know. We find ourselves asking each other while doing the shopping "I wonder how so and so is getting on" based on a thread we had either read or replied to.
Guess we are just a little bit scared (could read excited...) at the overall impact joining the site has had.
Just wondered if any other newbies are experiencing the same stuff or if the more experienced on the site want to share the benefit of their experience and wisdom and tell us that this is all perfectly normal...
Hi folks
the most refreshing thing about your post is that it highlights to me the fact that there are new members coming to the site who are experiencing EXACTLY how Fee and I felt when we first joined.
The beauty of here is that you CAN form friendships way beyond the sexual side, you CAN experience another side that life has to offer and you CAN play, albeit in a small way, a part in providing support and encouragement to others.
That is what makes this place quite a unique "community experience"
I hope that you continue to feel that way and continue to contribute to a place that can provide MANY memorable times.
Take care and Welcome
Sex God
great post bevntony! 
not crossed threads with you yet, so a belated welcome. ;)
dunno really how to give you a good answer, but for me SH has been exciting, scary, challenging at times, just plain infuriating at others, and hugely important. for some it's "just a website" and one designed simply to help swingers chat and meet up, but for me it's much more than that, and has genuinely been life changing. you do get addicted, and do get drawn into people's lives, because we are genuinely a community like no other, where deep friendships, tolerance and unfailing support exist in abundance. :D
despite the ups and downs and the fall outs, in the end, SH is just full of great people who care, and take you just as you are. some of them are closer friends and have shared more of my life than many others i've had in my life up to now, simply because there's some things you daren't say IRL for fear of being judged. sex hardly comes into most of these relationships at all ((( though when it does, it's pretty damn cool! ;) ))) but i've found the open attitude to sex extends to openness in other areas, and some people have helped me with all kinds of things that have bugger all to do with shagging.
we genuinely have a fantastic community here, that goes far beyond swinging, which explains at times why some are so protective of it. hope you stick around some more and get the same from SH!
neil x x x ;)
not crossed threads with you yet, so a belated welcome. ;)dunno really how to give you a good answer, but for me SH has been exciting, scary, challenging at times, just plain infuriating at others, and hugely important. for some it's "just a website" and one designed simply to help swingers chat and meet up, but for me it's much more than that, and has genuinely been life changing. you do get addicted, and do get drawn into people's lives, because we are genuinely a community like no other, where deep friendships, tolerance and unfailing support exist in abundance. :D
despite the ups and downs and the fall outs, in the end, SH is just full of great people who care, and take you just as you are. some of them are closer friends and have shared more of my life than many others i've had in my life up to now, simply because there's some things you daren't say IRL for fear of being judged. sex hardly comes into most of these relationships at all ((( though when it does, it's pretty damn cool! ;) ))) but i've found the open attitude to sex extends to openness in other areas, and some people have helped me with all kinds of things that have bugger all to do with shagging.
we genuinely have a fantastic community here, that goes far beyond swinging, which explains at times why some are so protective of it. hope you stick around some more and get the same from SH!
neil x x x ;)
Sex God
What neil said ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
