Newbie getting started

3 Feb 2006

I am sure you hardened swingers (no pun intended ) have had tour fair share of incidents of being let down by newbies, however as a newbie wanting to experiment I have also been let down by another newbie(is my point falling flat on its face) but also have the problem of not being accepted into the clan .
I understand the difficulties but logic suggests if a new member is prepared to travel and put up the hotel /accomodation,surely that implies a sure intent. Perhaps if a booking reference was provided as proof it would strengthen the "newbies" position.
I feel the swinging fraternity should trust in an act of faith occasionally, after all you must have all been in the same position at some point, or are swingers born and not created
Hope I haven't alienated myself just making a point.
All comments appreciated
Chris confused

3 Feb 2006

Hi and welcome babe
enjoy the site
but be patient like all families this one takes its time to get to know a new face
just join in the forum or chat and enjoy yourself
Vicky xxx

3 Feb 2006

hi welcome to the forums,
one small thing,
i think most first meets are about seing if you all click, giving me the hotel booking ref wouldnt make any difference really as what am i ment to do call and expect the hotel to verify this? id need your full name and address? also it knida means your expecting some action.
also not everyone meets at hotels.
your best bet if you have the patience, and this is not just about quick shag but the lifestyle of a swinger, is to get known on the forums, attend a munch or 2 and then people will invite you along to swinging events.
if you live in a area that has swinging clubs go along to there?
xx lou xxx

3 Feb 2006

Hello and :welcome: just my humble advice sit back have a little patience and chuck a few posts in to the forum from time to time and I think I can be certain in saying things will come good eventually biggrin

3 Feb 2006

:welcome: & enjoy :happy:

3 Feb 2006

Did you ever go to the beach and say "I'm going in the water" then find the waves a bit big, the water a bit cold and no life guard.
For some swinging is like that. They say "I'm going swinging." they mean it but then they just don't feel right about it. Don't blame that newbie. Encourage them, don't hate them. Ether they will swim or go home.