Newbie Stupid Question #4,756 :-)

4 Sep 2004

First of all 'Hi!' and to say that last night we went on our first ever swinging evening with a visit to Liberation. Just want to echo the mearks of most people in that it is so well organised, great welcome, lived up to the 'no pressure' promise, and consider it a great introduction to the lifestyle.
OK, here's the really stupid question.
We know that the swinging scene is open to everyone, but we're what people would describe as 'middle fifties' - albeit (we think) in pretty good nick :-). What surprised us a little was that the average age was a lot lower than we expected. Not a problem for us (loved it - you were all great to look at LOL!). But if you are in the 20 - 35 bracket (say) what do YOU feel about 'us oldies' on the scene. We're not fishing here, just are intriqued at what is your reaction. Is it a "everyone is welcome here" or a "urrrgh, lets leave the old folks to themselves in the corner" sort of reaction. Nothing paranoiac you understand :-) ... but after you've been in the Voyeurs room for a little while and nobody stops to watch - well, you know what we mean. redface

We really didn't get a chance to chat about this when we were there - know we should have done but in honesty felt a little reluctant to make any suggestions to obviously younger people - don't ask why, just felt it.
But we're really looking forward to our next trip on a Saturday when we're told there's lots more people. Great lifestyle ... loving it so far!

4 Sep 2004

I've never had a problem, am also in the (early) 50â€™s bracket and look like an old frogâ€¦â€¦. I get offers all the time wink

:wink:

4 Sep 2004

Hiya! And Welcome to the forums. wave

The question you posed is an old chestnut which bring as tear to the eye of regular forum readers.
Swingers come in all shapes, sizes, ages and colours - just like the population at large. I've swung with late teenagers and people in their 70's before now. (I'm 39 and my partner is in his fifties.)
You will see one or two more 'specialist' ventures springing up, aimed at young, fit 20 somethings. We avoid these kinds of people as they tend to spend inordinate amounts of time preening and are always blocking up the loo with cotton buds.
As with everything in life, treat others as you would like to be treated. Hope for little and you won't be dissapointed and may even be pleasantly surprised.
Hxx

4 Sep 2004

Firstly

and :welcome:
Secondly we couldnt give a crap about peoples ages,its their individuality that attracts us,not the usual statistics,i think youll find youll have no probs here.
Im 24 and my other half is 29,and we don't look for peeps in any particular age groups,as Heather said around here you get many different shapes sizes ages tastes the whole lot!!

4 Sep 2004

Just like to echo the sentiments of everyone whos posted so far we have no particualar age restaints much more about the weather we all get on. By the way we are both 20 somethings and dont even know what a coton bud looks like!
Molly And Chris
PS Welcome hope you guys have fun

4 Sep 2004

We've never been to a club. Am somewhat intreagued by the idea, but wouldn't know where to look for one.
As to the age thing? We had a wonderful evening recently with a beautiful couple who were somewhat older than me, were much, much fitter than me and were comfortable with eachother in a way you generally do not see with younger people.
I don't think it matters. Come one, come all!

4 Sep 2004

Age and swinging is a strange thing, you're paranoid about being 'too old' where as Mr RSAB2 and myself are considered v young by some people (if you watched real wife swaps the other day you'd have thought we were way too young if the people featured had any say in it! :evil2 smile

With swinging there isn't the same age stereotype as there is elsewhere. It depends on who you get on with and who you find attractive - which can be for all different reasons. As a 27 yr old female I wouldn't necessarily count out older men, and Mr RSAB2 wouldn't count out an older woman either, but as with people our own age, it would depend on wether or not the spark was there; and that is unexplainable! dunno

Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:

4 Sep 2004

Heather you mean there is a time and place for me then smile

xx
Show me it = lol
medic1 (Fred) the other one

5 Sep 2004

Many thanks for the lovely words of welcome and the great advice ... especially as it has come from you nice people in the age group we were most worried about. We feel loads better now.
We'll put that one to bed (as they say lol) now - and sorry that it appears it was an 'old and many tikmes asked question' - but guess there'll be more!
Just one more (kind of related) thing to clear up which we've posted in another question.
Many thanks to all replies ... now we wonder if we'll see anyone from this Forum at Liberation?
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