just had a phone call from a member of my staff saying that she wont be in to work this evening ............. grrrrrrrrrr means i wont get a day off at all this week ....... how selfish...... then the conversation continued
she is 18 weeks pregnant and we have been through some horrible 'morning' sickness
she has just come out of hospital having had her scan which has revealed that the baby has spina bifida
OMG how horrible do i feel that i was worried about not having a day off ... i dont care if i dont get another day off untill she is emotionaly ok enough to come back to work if she comes back to work at all.
i have been on web sites since i heard the news trying to understand the condition but until its revealed how severe the condition is i dont know what to do.
i want to be there for her and dont want her worrying about her job as this is the last thing she should be worrying about.
i dont know what her next decision will be, i dont know what my decision would be either if i was in the same situation.
i dont even know why i posted this apart from to vent some frustration and offer some (never to be read by her) support and love to someone who is not only an employee but a friend as well.
OOh I know how you feel.
I was whining to a colleague by text about how ill I was feeling after a bad reaction to some medication. She didn't reply, found out later it was because she'd had a miscarriage.
And then she texted me, asking was I any better! :cry:
Sara,
So sorry to hear about your friend, whatever she decides all you can do it offer support.
I have been somewhere similar to where your friend is I was told my baby had down syndrome It isn’t a pleasant time to have to decide but sadly my decision was taken away from me by natural causes.
I am thinking about her it isn't an easy path ahead,
Just be there to support her that is all you can do as a friend.
(((hugs))) for ya sara, and hugs for ya friend too.... just be there with some arms to hug her, a shoulder for her to cry on, some tissues for the tears and 2 ears to listen....sometimes you dont need words xxx
thanks for the support peeps .. an update tho ... not good news am afraid .. the condition is so severe that the only humane course of action is unfortunatly not to have the child ... it is the hardest decision that any mother has to make and something that she and her partner will i suspect will never get over .. my and am sure most peoples thoughts are going to be with them at this time even tho you dont know them.
thanks again for the support and good wishes i will pass them on
Sorry too hear about your friend sara hun our thoughts go out too her and her family. But you standing by her aswell that's all you can do and she couldnt wish for a nicer friend as you hun.
Shaz n Pete xxxx
sara im in a similar position with a member of my staff she just discovered last week that she was pregnant 9she was 17 weeks pregnant. She had just come to terms with it when she started to bleed last night tragically she lost the baby this afternoon I am now supporting her through this. Sara at times been an employer isnt the easiest of things but we have to be there sometimes as a friend as well as an employer. I hope your friend is ok and that you can support her the best that you can
so sad to hear this sara, thinking of your friend, and also you hun xxx
Sometimes life throws a bit of a curve ball don't it.
