Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
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would you reply to every mail you got if you were a single fem or couple???
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Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
:welcome: to the forum's, even though it is to have a moan
As said above, sometime's it is just so time consuming to reply to every pm you may receive after placing an advert.
In an ideal world, everybody would have the time.
The thing I don't get is, why are people so bothered about the one's that don't reply
surely, that's an answer in itself.Keep knocking on those door's, im sure someone will answer soon enough :thumbup:
Good luck.
Louise xx
It depends on how busy we are as to whether we reply to everyone. We try to do so, but its not always going to happen.
I would add that sometimes replying with a "No thanks but thanks for your message" opens up a whole new can of worms where the recipient of that message replies with a barrage of "Whats wrong with me?", "What did I do wrong" etc.
This only adds to the mail in your inbox and quite frankly, irritates the hell out of me - but then Im a touchy old moo - tis my cross to bear.
Hope that answers your question.
Oh and I would say that patience is a vitue, so is sorting the wheat from the chaff but I have used too many idioms already for a Monday morning.
Have fun and enjoy the good bits.....as often as possible like we do
I would add that sometimes replying with a "No thanks but thanks for your message" opens up a whole new can of worms where the recipient of that message replies with a barrage of "Whats wrong with me?", "What did I do wrong" etc.
This only adds to the mail in your inbox and quite frankly, irritates the hell out of me - but then Im a touchy old moo - tis my cross to bear.
Hope that answers your question.
Oh and I would say that patience is a vitue, so is sorting the wheat from the chaff but I have used too many idioms already for a Monday morning.
Have fun and enjoy the good bits.....as often as possible like we do
welcome.
When I view ads. I look at several things.
date the person joined. If it is the same time they placed the (usually) short ad then I don't message them as I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they have placed the obligatory initial ad when joining.
2. if they have a full and detailed profile. This tells me they know what they want and are prepared to be open about that. If they have nothing to say then I assume they wouldn't be that forward in telling me what they like when in bed with them either
3. humour -as that is always an aphrodisiac.
When I don't get a reply to a well thought out PM that I have personalised to the person I am sending it to then I rethink my selection process.
When I view ads. I look at several things.
date the person joined. If it is the same time they placed the (usually) short ad then I don't message them as I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they have placed the obligatory initial ad when joining.
2. if they have a full and detailed profile. This tells me they know what they want and are prepared to be open about that. If they have nothing to say then I assume they wouldn't be that forward in telling me what they like when in bed with them either
3. humour -as that is always an aphrodisiac.
When I don't get a reply to a well thought out PM that I have personalised to the person I am sending it to then I rethink my selection process.
fact is couples and single ladies do get a barrage of replies when they place an ad. If possible it maybe would be useful to have a wink style reply...Such as "Thanks...but not this time...good luck with your search"....this would be a one button click and be just as easy as pressing delete. As least those that do reply to ads would at least not feel so miffed then.
However the other thing is yes..there are a number of non genuine ads. They are quite often after your and will then spam you with various rubbish. They are easy enough to spot i think....normally...If ad is to good to believe..(IE young, slim drop dead georgeous girl wants men..age, colour and size unimportant.)...then the reason is that that is not real..so don't believe it. Secondly check pics...if they very professional pics..with a drop dead georgeous lady on...then i think is it real ?????
However the other thing is yes..there are a number of non genuine ads. They are quite often after your and will then spam you with various rubbish. They are easy enough to spot i think....normally...If ad is to good to believe..(IE young, slim drop dead georgeous girl wants men..age, colour and size unimportant.)...then the reason is that that is not real..so don't believe it. Secondly check pics...if they very professional pics..with a drop dead georgeous lady on...then i think is it real ?????
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fact is couples and single ladies do get a barrage of replies when they place an ad. If possible it maybe would be useful to have a wink style reply...Such as "Thanks...but not this time...good luck with your search"....this would be a one button click and be just as easy as pressing delete. As least those that do reply to ads would at least not feel so miffed then.
However the other thing is yes..there are a number of non genuine ads. They are quite often after your and will then spam you with various rubbish. They are easy enough to spot i think....normally...If ad is to good to believe..(IE young, slim drop dead georgeous girl wants men..age, colour and size unimportant.)...then the reason is that that is not real..so don't believe it. Secondly check pics...if they very professional pics..with a drop dead georgeous lady on...then i think is it real ?????
Oi dean im young, slim drop dead gorgeous(well maybe not drop dead gorgeous but i hope i aint that bad lol)...and looking for any man lol, and im gen u cheeky sausage, im after u after all aint i.....need i say more??
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It depends on how busy we are as to whether we reply to everyone. We try to do so, but its not always going to happen.
I would add that sometimes replying with a "No thanks but thanks for your message" opens up a whole new can of worms where the recipient of that message replies with a barrage of "Whats wrong with me?", "What did I do wrong" etc.
This only adds to the mail in your inbox and quite frankly, irritates the hell out of me - but then Im a touchy old moo - tis my cross to bear.
Hope that answers your question.
Oh and I would say that patience is a vitue, so is sorting the wheat from the chaff but I have used too many idioms already for a Monday morning.
Have fun and enjoy the good bits.....as often as possible like we do
This is so true. We do not reply to some people because if they had bothered to read our advert properly, we do not meet overweight or hairy is of course our preference to do so. Then we get messages from the very people we do not wish to meet. On that score when someone has obviously not read our advert, but just looked at our pictures then we do not bother to reply.
We also say no winks, once again we get many of those and do not reply to them either. If we get someone who fits what we are looking for, then 9 times out of ten we do reply so....if anyone reads this and wants to reply to an advert then make sure you read what the other person has written and maybe just maybe, you will be lucky.
I here what u guys are saying, but I don't agree with all. If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail. If I placed an add, I would fully expect to receive numerous replies some of which of what I'm looking for & some not& would have fun looking at all of the replies as a process of vitting. Personaly, I would indeed take the time to send a reply (however short) even if it took me a couple of days. I throught this was the whole point of this sight. What do you think?
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I here what u guys are saying, but I don't agree with all. If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail. If I placed an add, I would fully expect to receive numerous replies some of which of what I'm looking for & some not& would have fun looking at all of the replies as a process of vitting. Personaly, I would indeed take the time to send a reply (however short) even if it took me a couple of days. I throught this was the whole point of this sight. What do you think?
I think I did not even have to look at your profile to know you are a single guy, purely by your reply! You are looking at it from a singles point of view..not a couples. I should think that most single guys on here would be overwhelmed to get e mails from couples.
But saying that at least you have a detailed profile and a well written advert and a picture. You would be suprised how many replies we get from someone who has no pictures, and not anything written in their profile at all! :shock: How do these people ever expect to meet anyone baffles me. But with your profile am sure you will do ok, you are certainly one step ahead of the many on here who have nothing on their profile at all for sure.
Quote by VALENTINE504
I here what u guys are saying, but I don't agree with all. If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail. If I placed an add, I would fully expect to receive numerous replies some of which of what I'm looking for & some not& would have fun looking at all of the replies as a process of vitting. Personaly, I would indeed take the time to send a reply (however short) even if it took me a couple of days. I throught this was the whole point of this sight. What do you think?
I pay my subscription to meet and have sex with people under the terms and boundaries that I have defined for myself. I feel nothing about ignoring anyone I chose to. I swing my way with whom I like and when I like. I modify my own behaviour and express myself as I wish on this site and, as long as I am within the AUP, I can do what I like.
If I chose to ignore everybody who replies to my ad (which I haven't got at the moment) then I can do that.
If people chose to ignore the specifications that I have put on my profile, or even follow them to the letter and send me a PM. I can do whatever I please, again as long as I am within the AUP.
The only people I reply to.. and sometimes be delayed in doing so, are those I call mates and even, luckily for me, friends.
I have had plenty of failed contacts. I have been ignored. I have had people go a little weird on me. That is the name of the game really. It is a swinging site made up of many different sections of a diverse country good manners (which I occasionally exhibit) are not governed by the law.. let alone site rules.
Put it this way, after this lengthy diatribe.. if they don't reply or communicate poorly.. you aren't missing much in bed are you ?
If you chose to conduct yourself on here in a different way to me or , indeed, anyone else you are free to do so too. As long as you stay within the site AUP.
onwards and upwards, chin up.... have fun.... smile !
we put an ad on the dogging forum for last friday night, we got a few emails on the night to which I replied to but have recieved more since after the event!!!
why should I reply to emails when they clearly havnt read all the ad, but out of courtesy I went back to the ad and put a response on saying it was for the one night and not to reply to it .....but guess what I still get emails about it!!!!
it has now been locked so i cant even go in and try and deleted any of the text on it!!!
I recieved an email just now saying he genuine and not time waster and he had read our ad and did we want some fun......so just for him I have replied.....well he did ask for a reply
why should I reply to emails when they clearly havnt read all the ad, but out of courtesy I went back to the ad and put a response on saying it was for the one night and not to reply to it .....but guess what I still get emails about it!!!!
it has now been locked so i cant even go in and try and deleted any of the text on it!!!
I recieved an email just now saying he genuine and not time waster and he had read our ad and did we want some fun......so just for him I have replied.....well he did ask for a reply
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Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
Shit happens...you just move on!
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Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
Shit happens...you just move on!
well said Mr Powers.. I love your directness.It would seem it is the day of disgruntlement, maybe these people have had a bad weekend.
Sex God
Quote by Mr-Powers
Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
Shit happens...you just move on!
Agree with this completely.
Sex God
i have no interest in replying to an email if i really have no interest in that person (namely if they have not read profile whilst claiming they have!}
i can safely say that in my profile it states i dont want peoples email addresses or fone numbers unless i ask them personally for it, i have no adds but just guess how many out of the last 25 pms i received actually had no email address or phone number in the pm??
2 thats right just 2 never included email or number the rest included them, why the heck shud i reply to them no matter how long they sat there writing essays if they cant follow something simple like that
i can safely say that in my profile it states i dont want peoples email addresses or fone numbers unless i ask them personally for it, i have no adds but just guess how many out of the last 25 pms i received actually had no email address or phone number in the pm??
2 thats right just 2 never included email or number the rest included them, why the heck shud i reply to them no matter how long they sat there writing essays if they cant follow something simple like that
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If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail.
Well firstly it's not work - no one is obliged to do anything they don't want to do as long as they aren't hurting anyone. And you can't possibly be HURT by no answer, just a little put out.
As a single female you do get lots of replies to ads. By no means all, but a large proportion of them start with I know I'm a little older/further/married (delete as appropriate) than you asked for but...
If the number of replies I get are manageable I try ot reply. But if there are loads...well sorry but I would rather prioritise and reply to the few that I d like than the 10 who, frankly, don't do it for me!
What I really hate though is people who lecture me in their mail...
You know the kind - please make sure you reply as I have made the effort to reply. Surefire way to make me think - errr sorry don't tell me what to do! :twisted: Quote by VALENTINE504
If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail.
Well firstly it's not work - no one is obliged to do anything they don't want to do as long as they aren't hurting anyone. And you can't possibly be HURT by no answer, just a little put out.
As a single female you do get lots of replies to ads. By no means all, but a large proportion of them start with I know I'm a little older/further/more married (delete as appropriate) than you asked for but...
If the number of replies I get are manageable I try to reply. But if there are loads...well sorry but I would rather prioritise and reply to the few that I do like than the 15 who, frankly, don't do it for me!
What I really hate though is people who lecture me in their mail...
You know the kind - please make sure you reply as I have made the effort to write. Surefire way to make me think - errr sorry don't tell me what to do! :twisted: Quote by Tiger_lily
If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail.
Well firstly it's not work - no one is obliged to do anything they don't want to do as long as they aren't hurting anyone. And you can't possibly be HURT by no answer, just a little put out.
As a single female you do get lots of replies to ads. By no means all, but a large proportion of them start with I know I'm a little older/further/more married (delete as appropriate) than you asked for but...
If the number of replies I get are manageable I try to reply. But if there are loads...well sorry but I would rather prioritise and reply to the few that I do like than the 15 who, frankly, don't do it for me!
What I really hate though is people who lecture me in their mail...
You know the kind - please make sure you reply as I have made the effort to write. Surefire way to make me think - errr sorry don't tell me what to do! :twisted:Oh yes! I so love the ones that say "you smoke and I hate that but ..."
I might meet them just to blow it in their face. I really don't understand why people complain about this.
Everytime I answer an advert, I get inundated with replies almost immediately.
Women will leave their kids starving to rush down on the overnight sleeper, to see me.
Couples from as far as Vladivostok will travel for weeks by camel, train and raft to get to me.
Alternatively its a regular sight to see a specially commissioned Virgin helicopter landing on my local park, summoning me to my next session.
Its exhausting but you know I do okay............
Everytime I answer an advert, I get inundated with replies almost immediately.
Women will leave their kids starving to rush down on the overnight sleeper, to see me.
Couples from as far as Vladivostok will travel for weeks by camel, train and raft to get to me.
Alternatively its a regular sight to see a specially commissioned Virgin helicopter landing on my local park, summoning me to my next session.
Its exhausting but you know I do okay............
Quote by VALENTINE504
Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
i dont mean to have a go at a newbie BUT.....
you place an add as a single F or a Couple, then with in 5 mins receive about 30 reply... then another 30 5 mins later.. this increases faster than you can reply to them. so it is easy to be come over come by them. then think sod it..
if you dont get a reply, dont worry about it.. just lift ya head up and try again ..OR... if you find you've got no success out of the photo ads. which i'm guessing most blokes wander into the chatroom, and chat to people in there. that way getting yourself known at the same time.
anyway.. welcome to the forum, and hopefully your stay will be an enjoyable one.
Jon
You have to write IN THE HOPE that your message makes a good for whatever reason it doesn't then it doesn't.
Even if that does happen from PMing to a face to face full on sexual situation is one hell of a leap and even if it develops into a two sided discussion people on either side can lose their nerve beforehand or plans can ARE only human lol!
Nobody owes anybody anything other than mutual respect whatever the outcome.
I myself feel I have a good detailed profile and I try to only send replies to profiles that express interests that seem in harmony with mine, and those are reasonably well written detailed replies I hope!I also join in a bit in the chatroom and on this I lack are pics,in public at least but due to my need for absolute discretion I could only show wee bits of me anyway!
I wish my approach was achieiving better results than it has of late but I believe in onward and upward, I've made some great contacts and my attitude to those is that you never know what may transpire in the future!
Even if that does happen from PMing to a face to face full on sexual situation is one hell of a leap and even if it develops into a two sided discussion people on either side can lose their nerve beforehand or plans can ARE only human lol!
Nobody owes anybody anything other than mutual respect whatever the outcome.
I myself feel I have a good detailed profile and I try to only send replies to profiles that express interests that seem in harmony with mine, and those are reasonably well written detailed replies I hope!I also join in a bit in the chatroom and on this I lack are pics,in public at least but due to my need for absolute discretion I could only show wee bits of me anyway!
I wish my approach was achieiving better results than it has of late but I believe in onward and upward, I've made some great contacts and my attitude to those is that you never know what may transpire in the future!
Quote by Tiger_lily
If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail.
What I really hate though is people who lecture me in their mail...
You know the kind - please make sure you reply as I have made the effort to reply. Surefire way to make me think - errr sorry don't tell me what to do! :twisted:Oh my kind of woman :!:
I confess once again the SH forums provide me with written matrial that I dont really understand.
Is this a complaint that folk dont get in touch as a result of adverts.
Or
That folk dont respond when u respond to their ads.
Frankly in either case who gives a flying fart. If u have a big thing about it then u dont wanna meet folk who dont have the same standards as you do you?
Is this a complaint that folk dont get in touch as a result of adverts.
Or
That folk dont respond when u respond to their ads.
Frankly in either case who gives a flying fart. If u have a big thing about it then u dont wanna meet folk who dont have the same standards as you do you?
Orgasminator
Another thing easily overlooked is that probably at least half of the ads are placed by free members who wouldn't be able to reply even if they wanted to. At best they can send you a wink, and then you would have to persuade them to part with some cash so that they could reply properly!