Hi All. Is is just me or does anyone else find it exceptionaly rude the fact that people just don't bother to reply to adds. Having taken the time & care to read/reply to others adds, you would have through that at the very least you could exspect was a response even if just a polite 'thanks not interested'. I could understand if all you sent was a wink. This makes me ask the question 'Are these adds ginuine?, or just timewasting picture collecting idiots? Would love to know what you think??
would you reply to every mail you got if you were a single fem or couple???
welcome.
When I view ads. I look at several things.
date the person joined. If it is the same time they placed the (usually) short ad then I don't message them as I assume (rightly or wrongly) that they have placed the obligatory initial ad when joining.
2. if they have a full and detailed profile. This tells me they know what they want and are prepared to be open about that. If they have nothing to say then I assume they wouldn't be that forward in telling me what they like when in bed with them either
3. humour -as that is always an aphrodisiac.
When I don't get a reply to a well thought out PM that I have personalised to the person I am sending it to then I rethink my selection process.
fact is couples and single ladies do get a barrage of replies when they place an ad. If possible it maybe would be useful to have a wink style reply...Such as "Thanks...but not this time...good luck with your search"....this would be a one button click and be just as easy as pressing delete. As least those that do reply to ads would at least not feel so miffed then.
However the other thing is yes..there are a number of non genuine ads. They are quite often after your and will then spam you with various rubbish. They are easy enough to spot i think....normally...If ad is to good to believe..(IE young, slim drop dead georgeous girl wants men..age, colour and size unimportant.)...then the reason is that that is not real..so don't believe it. Secondly check pics...if they very professional pics..with a drop dead georgeous lady on...then i think is it real ?????
I here what u guys are saying, but I don't agree with all. If I didn't reply to an e-mail at work I would be expect to be asked why as this is basic comunication, the whole point in sending a mail. If I placed an add, I would fully expect to receive numerous replies some of which of what I'm looking for & some not& would have fun looking at all of the replies as a process of vitting. Personaly, I would indeed take the time to send a reply (however short) even if it took me a couple of days. I throught this was the whole point of this sight. What do you think?
i have no interest in replying to an email if i really have no interest in that person (namely if they have not read profile whilst claiming they have!}
i can safely say that in my profile it states i dont want peoples email addresses or fone numbers unless i ask them personally for it, i have no adds but just guess how many out of the last 25 pms i received actually had no email address or phone number in the pm??
2 thats right just 2 never included email or number the rest included them, why the heck shud i reply to them no matter how long they sat there writing essays if they cant follow something simple like that
Marya how funny is that I love it.
Yes - some of them are so generous aren't they. Another of my favs - they live 180 miles away but they can accomodate....great I'll pop to Shell on the way shall I?? :shock:
I confess once again the SH forums provide me with written matrial that I dont really understand.
Is this a complaint that folk dont get in touch as a result of adverts.
Or
That folk dont respond when u respond to their ads.
Frankly in either case who gives a flying fart. If u have a big thing about it then u dont wanna meet folk who dont have the same standards as you do you?
Another thing easily overlooked is that probably at least half of the ads are placed by free members who wouldn't be able to reply even if they wanted to. At best they can send you a wink, and then you would have to persuade them to part with some cash so that they could reply properly!